Is it possible to recover from being an alcoholic? How did you do it? I need to hear some success stories. Pointers anyone? My Fiance' is trying to recover from alcohol and is having a tough time. He has appt with shrinks and got out of rehab 2 weeks ago. AA meetings are in the near future. What can I do from where I am to be a good support system for him??
Help?? I am afraid that if he goes back to drinking I will have to break it off.
2007-03-13 06:13:56 · 8 answers · asked by _Chantel_ 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
Breaking up with him is not a preferred option, and since he constantly drinks and has gone to therapy with a "shrink" and has been to rehab, A good option would be to not to try to remind him (if you do,) and get to know him better. You can be a good support by hugging and kissing him and asking various things about how his day was and how he is feeling. Just as long as it can stay away from alcohol, try and do some things with him or try to go out with him to dinner.
Also, since he is your fiance, it would be good to see a consular for future reasoning (which is what you may want to do already) if you get married anytime soon to him.
P.S. Make sure to look at his eyes or face to identify if he has drunken any alcohol already in the midst. Another great things to support him is to well, do things he likes doing (excluding drinking!)
2007-03-13 06:35:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I actually run a drug and alchohol live in program and yes it is possible to recover from being an alcoholic. I know that people look at recovery in a different way, and "once an alcoholic always an alcoholic" and yes I agree with that, just like once a diabetic always a diabetic. But a person can be in recovery continually. As the wife you have to be careful not become a codependant and allow him to continue to live in the alcoholic lifestyle. So if he goes back to drinking you should break it off immediately and do not tolerate it for one minute. But on the other hand while he is working this and staying sober he is going to need your support and AA or another form of support group, we run what is called Overcomers. It takes a lot of support and understanding, but yet not tolerating bad behaviour and it can be very difficult. Hang in there, it does get easier as the years go by. Always remember to protect yourself first and foremost.
2007-03-13 06:59:52 · answer #2 · answered by michy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Recover from being an alcoholic? No. Once an alcoholic, always ans alcoholic. BUT it is possible for anybody to go the rest of their life without drinking again. It is very hard, and he will need a lot of support from you to do it. alcoholism is a sickness, and an addiction at the same time. Be there for him, tell him that you are proud of him for trying to beat the grips of alcohol. Reinforce his choice to be clean. You must care deeply for him to be contemplating marraige, so show him by being strong for him. He won't always be able to do it for himself. If you are together with him on this, he will have a much better chance of staying sober.......
Give him my best wishes, as well.....
Good luck.
Stevo.
2007-03-13 06:27:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think it i spossibel with a strong mind that he wants to quit! i have alsoholism in m family and i was in tough times drinking aswell but then also stopped for over 6 years and am drinking absolutely moderate now.
i have been to AA meetings and i personally think it is a waste of time and makes you more drink than before, you don't need god to belive you can stop drinking, you need to get yourself to know you can stop i guess psychotherapy would be way better than the praying stuff they do at their meetings, and it really helped me
i don't know where you are from but a medical weed card would make it better aswell just for hard times when you think you can't cope anymore
cheers
2007-03-13 06:37:47 · answer #4 · answered by eve 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should just have a controlled mind and have spirit to leave alcohol . You can prefer softdrinks juices or coacktail
2007-03-13 06:30:30 · answer #5 · answered by JASDEEP M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is go to the AA meetings with him, that will give you more info than anything on how to help support him.
And if he goes back to how he used to be RUN, run fast and never look back. Trust me, life is too short.
2007-03-13 06:29:49 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa P 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, but a lot of hard work. Do you want to marry someone like that?
2007-03-13 06:17:50 · answer #7 · answered by just me000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM NOW!
2007-03-13 06:17:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋