Having Kids At Young Age?

Question

Why do people have kids at a young age, when they know that they are not financially stable? Then they might end up being on welfare and bringing there kids up in a bad envoirment. Why can they just strap the jimmy on when having sex.

Im sorry, I didnt mean young.....lets rephrase that, Why do people have kids when they are not financiallly stable?

Answer 1

Amazingly, a lot of people don't feel any shame or guilt about being on welfare (and people with a legitimate need who are using it temporarily shouldn't). For a lot of people they're parents were on it, and so its totally normal. I even know someone who's husband started making too much money for food stamps, instead of being happy that they were "moving up" in the world, the girls mom told her not to worry because she knew exactly what to tell the welfare office to be able to continue on food stamps. Financial stability just doesn't seem to be high on people's list of goals these days.

And while it may be skewed towards younger people, it is by no means limited to young people. I know a couple who is expecting child #7 any day now. He's 36, she's almost 30, and the taxpayers are picking up every single penny of her pregnancy, their food bill, and daycare.

A lot of people just don't look at the long term, they're only interested in what "feels good" in the moment.

Answer 2

I think your statement is a bit unfair. You are stereotyping as others have said. I know that some people are irresponsible when having sex so babies are being made at a young age but not everyone ends up on welfare and in a bad environment. I had a child at 18 and have never been on welfare, have my own apartment, a good paying job and rarely have help from the father. Its hard but can be done. I don't encourage it but if a mistake happens and you get pregnant you grow up and do what you have to do for you and your child. Now if these girls continue to have babies knowing they are on welfare and can't afford the one that they have already then that's just not smart. Its an individual thing not a "young" thing. You will never really be able to afford children not matter what age you are, but you do know what you are working with financially. I know women who are in their 20s and 30s (which is young) who are successfully raising their children. You really shouldn't judge people because everyone's story is different.

Answer 3

First off you can't judge anyone based on a few people. I know a lot of "young" mothers who never went on welfare and are doing a great job with their kids. I was 21 when I got pregnant and financially stable yet still had trouble once my daughter was born. Age has absolutely nothing to do with whether or not you should have a child. I know 30 year olds who aren't in a situation to have a child. Then there are 16 year old's who graduated early have well paying jobs and can afford a child. Get facts not stereotypes.

Answer 4

I'm pregnant with my first child. My husband is an international student who's studying to become an electical engineer and gets a salary from his government every month for finances. His country pays for his education and his medical insurance. Sure we don't make a lot of money but we survive. We also don't believe in using birth control as we're both Muslims. But anyway we do just fine on the limited salary my husband gets. So it's not fair to say all young adult couples are not capable of taking care of children. We have our own apartment and don't live off the government.

Answer 5

I got married at 18 & had our first child when I was 20. We both had good jobs, our own home and invested in some income property. Our oldest graduated college & has a career she loves, we have 2 in college & our youngest will be going into high school this fall.
I love the fact that I had my kids at a young age because now I can relax & enjoy them and their kids someday. We are still young enough to travel and do whatever we want.

Not all people are irresponsible when they are young. And neither one of us had financial help from our families. We did it all alone.

Answer 6

I dont think that teenagers should be irresponsible about sex, but as far as young goes, It doesn't matter how old you are when you start a family, if everyone waited until it was "affordable" to have kids, no one would have kids. It depends on the people. Not everyone has a great job or the perfect family, but people make things work when they have love and respect. They just have to put others first.

Answer 7

FYI not all "young parents" end up on welfare. I'm 18, married, a mother of 1, and NOT ON WELFARE! Just because some people choose to live that way it doesn't mean that all people do.

Answer 8

regrettably specific yet is early them it somewhat is like at 15-sixteen i do no longer understand why absolutely everyone could opt to have toddlers they're high priced and that they cry plenty and is not any longer latinos is the ricans. i'm latina and that i've got not got infants i've got not being with a boy and that i'm 20 i'm waiting into i'm getting marry. So don't be thinking all latinas are like that like I say is the ricans.

Answer 9

What would you consider young? I'm 21 and my husband is 22 and most consider us young. But i bet you are refering to the really young ones, still living at home, or barely making it in a one room apt. wellfor one, a lot of their parents did it. second, no one has shown them that young men want sex for orgasm, and well lots of gurls really do want babies-though most would never admit it. they want to be unconditionally loved, and you can usually only get that with a baby. it also makes the young ones feel in control to have sex, as if they are adults. I figure they are gonna try to do it anyway though, we should educate the girls as much as possible, the boys too if they will listen.

Answer 10

Agreed.
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