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Well..... I don't really know where to start. My husband and I are thinking about going and getting his nefew, cause this little boy's mother is a knew drug addict and he is being moved from place to place.... with no real place to call home and haven't been in school about a week or two now.
So, I guess I need some inside on how to go about doing this. We are worried that if Family & Childern Service get into it, that thay will want to put him into Foster care, and that's what we are trying to keep from happening.
Please if there is any one out there that has been though this or even knows how to go about doing this with out it ending in Foster care.........
We want to open up our home to him, but we don't really know how. I mean yes we do know it's alot of work and time (paper work) but where do we start??? PLEASE HELP US!!!!

2007-03-13 06:06:25 · 10 answers · asked by vamps&flowers 2 in Family & Relationships Family

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You can't just "go and get" your nephew... even if his mother is an irresponsible drug addict, she still has legal rights to her son, and even with the best intentions it's still kidnapping.

Call Family & Children's Services immediately, and let them know you are willing to raise the child and/or be his foster parents. They will not place him in foster care if there is a stable family member who is willing to take care of the child. They will investigate the situation, and if they see that the child isn't in school, is being neglected, and the mother is incapable of caring for properly caring for the child, they will remove him and place him in temporary foster care - most likely with you - while all the paperwork and legal stuff gets worked out.

Foster care doesn't mean living with strangers - it often means living with a close family member, in this case, you.

2007-03-13 06:26:02 · answer #1 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0 0

If you don't enlist the help of the Family Children Service, you don't have a prayer. You CANNOT legally take the child with you without the help of the courts and the mother. You are essentially setting yourselves up as foster parents and in order to do that you must have the cooperation of everyone involved. Get some legal advice NOW, Consult with the Chidl Service department in your area. Don't try to do this without the consent of the courts. That is just asking for big trouble.

2007-03-13 06:25:06 · answer #2 · answered by pianofritz2 2 · 0 0

Child Protective Services will usually try their best to keep the child within the family. Makes sense..it cuts down on "stranger stress". Call them and see what can be done. If you have a lawyer, call him or her. Or contact an attorney versed in family law.

The best thing that can happen to that family is rehab. But in the interim, the child needs to be removed from the home, and so should the parents. to rehab or 5-10 in the big house.

Good luck and the child is lucky to have concerned, caring family like you and your husband

2007-03-13 06:47:14 · answer #3 · answered by I am Laurie 3 · 0 0

Find out who is in charge of the boy now. If he is still in the family then you can just go get him. Before you go, talk to the school in your area and see what they can do for him when he gets there. I think that if he is missing school it's because he has been through a lot this year and isn't doing well anyway. Call his school and talk to his teacher/counselor to find out how he was coping before he left school. You may find he is having trouble in school. Don't give up. After a few months with you he will settle down. You might have to retain him this year but it may help. Social Services loves when family members step in and take care of their own. If you want to keep them out of your business with the boy don't file for any assistance.
Remember, he will need lots of attention and care for a time until he settles in. He may not like you trying to be his parents because he has had a lot of freedom. Be kind to him and make boundries that you are all comfortable with. Good Luck to you.

2007-03-13 06:38:56 · answer #4 · answered by sharene h 3 · 0 0

Family Services are dedicated to keeping the child in the family. If the child is involved with Children's Services already, go to the court sessions and make it a point that you want to be involved! My friend's daughter was involved in Children's Services for three years, so it can be a hassle, but what is best for the child is knowing that his/her family is THERE for HIM/HER!! Sign up to be a foster parent for the child! You can find tons of organizations that will side with you to keep this child in your home!! Talk to the child's caseworker if he/she is involved with Children's Services. He/She will direct you in the right direction. And get that mother some help!

2007-03-13 06:11:13 · answer #5 · answered by jacksblog 1 · 0 0

woops, i thought this question was about 'Lost' the television show.
-don't worry about him going into foster care. family and children services are supposed to look for a relative placement (which is you, his aunt and uncle) for the child before putting the child in foster care. if you are an appropriate relative with enough room for him you should be fine. you also might want to consult with an attorney who handles child custody cases.

2007-03-13 06:16:00 · answer #6 · answered by guppy 3 · 0 0

Hire an attorney to become appointed guardians over the child. CPS doesnt necessarily become involved. You could easily go get the child and just move him but if u become appointed through the court you will have guardian ship papers making it easier to be able to enroll him in school, and things of that nature

2007-03-13 06:12:13 · answer #7 · answered by Im da Example 3 · 0 0

CPS (child protective services) will try placing a child with relatives before they look for foster care. Social services is actually your best bet.

2007-03-13 06:10:54 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1 0

Family services will usually try to place the child with a family memeber as soon as they can. You can even file for kinship care. I would contact family services.

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