There is a man that I work with at my part time weekend job. He is sweet, stable, and single. We get along great, have the same musical interest, have the same outlook on life. He's never been married, straight, no kids, and is the biggest sweetheart I've ever known. Sometimes it seems like he's interested, but he's so shy, that i'm not sure. Is there any harm in pursuing this, despite the age difference?
2007-03-13 06:02:50 · 8 answers · asked by nashvillegirl_51 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think there is anything wrong with pursuing such a relationship. But you have to be aware of the fact that there will be obstacles popping up early in your relationship where he may tend to force his point of view on you (being older and experienced). But it shouldn't be a problem to work those obstacles and have a successful relationship.
Don't listen to people who say it is wrong or bad, because they have never been in a relationship like that to give you any valuable advice.
2007-03-13 06:11:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goodness Gracious!
Absolutely nothing wrong with it. My first husband was 20 and I was 31 when we met. We were together for 13 years and had two fine daughters.
I was heavily involved or 6 years with a man 15 years my senior. I still miss his strength and how safe he could make one feel.
My last husband was 34 to my 48. We had to part for reasons beyond our control. It had nothing to do with our life together.
So... it is a matter of the heart and good common sense.
He sounds like he is worth investigating so to speak. Take a little time to take a good measure of the man.and then sweetly move things up a wee bit and see where it goes.
However make sure you are satisfied with the reason why, at 43, he is still unmarried. That is a crucial point. Otherwise, he sounds like a catch. Follow your instinct and your heart and your observation.
Good luck. Men like that are not easy to fine if he is as good as all that. But I know they do exist!
2007-03-15 17:13:58 · answer #2 · answered by Noor al Haqiqa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if u like him and he feels the same go for it! I've actually seen it works for a 43yr old man & 25yr old gal real life and they r still happily together now.
Age is not the problem, the problem is only in u!
Wish u luck, cheers!
2007-03-13 06:11:18 · answer #3 · answered by RenRen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww thats cute...i would go for it. I bet he is interested but is just too shy to say anything. He might feel awkward asking especially if he found out you weren't into him that way or doesn't want to make you uncomfortable at work. People who are shy tend to overthink things and hold back even if it is something they want. Just go out for coffee or something to start things. Good luck...hope it works out!
2007-03-13 06:24:02 · answer #4 · answered by Megz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question is brought up a lot on here, go for it its only a number anyways, my ex wife is 14 years older than me and im 42, go figure as i now seem to enjoy younger women more,
2007-03-13 06:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by terryodell42 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're an adult. Why are you even asking this question? Are you that insecure? Maybe you need to find yourself before you get in a relationship with anyone if that's the case.
2007-03-13 06:10:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This 43 year old man, shy or not should be pursueing you if he really likes you that way.
2007-03-13 06:09:07 · answer #7 · answered by beanie_babymama 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
nothing wrong with that. i am 26 and my gf is 22. i am sure she would not care if i was 56 and she was 22. as long as i have money, she doesn't care.
2007-03-13 06:08:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋