My girlfriend said that it would be best if we go on a break. We havent been seeing each other that much for the past month because she works about everyday and Its not like it use to be when we seen each about everyday..she says that she still love me and cares about me and wants to be with me but she just wants to get her life together. I really love this girl I mean deeply in love with her soo what is the best thing I should do to help her and make sure she comes back..and also what do i do cause I really dont know what a break is.
2007-03-13 06:02:18 · 16 answers · asked by Ray J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It either means she can't handle all the stresses in her life, and needs to focuss on her career for awhile, she doesn't wnat to put you through what she is going through. Or it means she wants to see what life is like without you, before she decides whther or not to leave you for good. OR she might just want to date comeone else, without feeling guilty about it. None of those answers are what you want to hear though, and I am so sorry she is putting you through this. She is lucky to have a man that truly loves her.
2007-03-13 06:08:44 · answer #1 · answered by bluemoon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it does not necessarily mean she wants to date someone else as the first responder said. It may mean she has a lot going on her life and career right now and being in a romantic relationship has to take second place. Maybe she cares enough about you not to want to "string you along" while she has to focus on other things right now.
I am a single mom. Though I have plenty of opportunities to date, I relaize that I just can't do that right now. My son takes first place and I also do work full time which is quite important. Being in a romantic relationship is a big commitment (time and emotionally-wise).
Taking a step back is not a bad thing. In fact, it often can give you much better perspective about the relationship and actually let you see how much you really do care about that person.
Just respect her wishes for now and don't make her feel guilty or bad about it. Be mature and just keep going on with your own life. Make other activities for yourself right now that will take your mind off of things. Try especially not to take it too personally as it could have very little to do with you, and much more to do with her place in life right now.
It is an excellent sign that she told you she still cares about you and loves you. if you equally feel the same about her, give her this much needed space and let her "get her life together". As a woman, that would mean so much to me. To know that the man who says he really loves me, also can respect my need for space, it a huge gift.
Stay positive, keep busy, and stay sweet and kind to her. Don't change the reason she was attracted to you int he first place by being too needy and consuming right now.
Good luck. I wish you both the very best.
2007-03-13 13:12:16 · answer #2 · answered by Singthing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be confused man. I'm in the same type of situation. I am thinking about telling my girlfriend that we need a break from one another. I want to take a break to analyze my relationship. In my case, I feel like I'm doing something wrong. I feel like I'm not making her happy. Sometimes, time apart can be good for a relationship, but it's the unknown factor that's really scary. You ask yourself, "what if time apart means that we are going to break up completely." Well, the logical answer to that question is if it's not meant to be, then it won't work, but as humans, we tend to hang on to relationships, even the unhealthy ones. Try not to think that your girl doesn't love you. She probably does love you, but you need to let her have her time. Just because you love one another doesn't mean that you're meant to be together. That's just the grim reality of life and it hurts sometimes. On the other side of the token, you might be soulmates. During your time apart, hang out with friends. Find your individuality. Your girlfriend should not be the substance of your life. Also, relationships should enrich your life, not hinder it or make it more difficult. Yes, relationships take work, but if they take too much work, they are probably not meant to be. I wish I can practice what I preach. Good luck. I hope everything works out for you.
2007-03-13 13:13:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u love her then let her have her break, she just probably needs some breathing space so she can get her life on track and once shes ready shell come back to u, maybe she just cant handle all of it at once. A break doesnt mean ur breaking or broken up, ur just not seeing each other as much and ur thinking about other things first than just worryig about the relationship. so let her get her things straight and then u can be together like before without worries.
2007-03-13 13:08:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she says she still loves you, then don't just assume it's bad. It may just be too much stress trying to keep up work and a relationship. I work part-time, and I can still feel taxed trying to fit my boyfriend into my schedule. I know that sounds negative but she could just need to concentrate right now, figure out what direction she's heading (yes, very vague, I know). Sometimes a break is just that. Give her a little time and space.
2007-03-13 13:17:06 · answer #5 · answered by J'ai une question... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the time she says it, she might actually mean that she intends to get back together after she sorts her stuff out. In reality, out of sight - out of mind. After a while, you'll grow apart and then it'll be beyond repair.
I wouldn't rule it out, just know that if you're not seeing each other or maintaining some kind of romantic flame going, a break is a nice way of saying "It's over".
2007-03-13 13:07:04 · answer #6 · answered by Peter N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont listen to what people say about her wanting to date other people. I have needed to take a break because sometimes I dont know how to respond to a situation or how to make it better. I need my space to sort out what I feel... If she realizes that she really does love you she will come back, if not then its over. And if you love her give her space and time sometimes we want that other person to be with us forever but why would you want to be with someone who doesnt love you?
2007-03-13 13:13:16 · answer #7 · answered by Lovely 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you truely "Love" someone you don't take breaks. A break is either a polite way to break up with you. Or it's a way to see other people see if she finds someone who she would rather be with while keeping you on the bench in case the guy is a disappointment. Don't let her use you. If you sit and wait around for her, she's in control. I say it's just not meant to be if she wants to take a "break".
2007-03-13 13:07:19 · answer #8 · answered by beanie_babymama 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is a sabbatical, a leave. Your girl wants a breathing space and a period of cooling off to enable her check her feelings.
Sometimes, it's better but do not allow it to be too long as that would become permanent. Try calling her once a while and sending messages but avoid physical contact for now.
2007-03-13 13:11:05 · answer #9 · answered by The Razor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agree to go on the break. She wants time to herself. If you guys are really that close, she'll come back. It's just a matter of needing to be just her - not her and you. Have faith, love her endlessly, and everything will work out
2007-03-13 13:08:12 · answer #10 · answered by brookesinger 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋