My mom and stepdad are saying that if I don't get all A's this semester in college that I'm getting kicked out of the house. It is more than likely that I'll be receiving a 3.7 or so, and not a 4.0GPA. I know my mom wouldn't normally be doing this if it weren't for my stepdad. I have no relatives that I can live with. They'll be taking my cell phone, my truck, and I'm just left with whatever I can carry? I have it figured out that I can carry whatever will fit in my dufflebag.. and I have no money because I haven't been working this semester due to my schooling. I know how to live in the wildnerness, so I've been thinking of taking my tent and finding a way to the State park that's closest. But is there anything else I can do? Any other ideas? Can I join the military and have a place to live? Help. I live in the metro detroit area.
2007-03-13 06:01:07 · 17 answers · asked by brian 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I talked to my dad about it and he said he wouldn't allow me to live with him. And I have no money to rent a room.. I can get a job and save money I suppose.. but how would I live until then? And my friends are living far away off at college.
2007-03-13 06:08:58 · update #1
I do do my homework. I know everything by heart. the only reason the grades are failing is because i was absent at the beginning.
2007-03-13 06:10:43 · update #2
Grow up and learn to take care of myself? What- I'm not asking for handouts here. I never even said that what they are doing is wrong. Some of the most judgmental ppl I've ever met.
2007-03-13 06:29:36 · update #3
Welcome to the REAL world son. Get your act together and quite spending sooooo much time on "answers" and DO your homework, or get a job, and also learn HOW to communicate with your family.. They sound like you have done other things than just not being up to snuf on your grades. This is how the rest of us non-college grads have to deal with the world. Get some job skills and act like an adult.
2007-03-13 06:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by devil dogs 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have until May to get your own place, a job and transportation. That's a long time. Make a job your first goal. If there is no chance of you getting all A's any job should do. After you get that job don't spend a dime of your money, save it for when you rent your place. Look at getting a room or small apt. start looking around the end of April. Use the money you made on your job for the first and last month's rent. Remember that you shouldn't pay more than 25% of your income on rent. Next, when everyone is leaving for summer break they are always throwing furniture, bedding and such away because they can't carry it. Start picking up that furniture in your truck the last week of school, by then you should have an idea of how big a space you are renting. I think that if you make the first steps toward taking care of yourself your parents might consider letting you keep your truck and phone. If not, there are bus routes that go right past your new job and the college. Don't be afraid. If you really want something you can get it. I bet next semester you will even get all A's without any financial or material help from your parents.
2007-03-13 13:15:18 · answer #2 · answered by sharene h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is of any comfort, let me tell you, you are not the only one.
I know a girl who got married faster than she wanted to because her own biological mother was kicking her out. Listen to the reason: Her mom had a small, two room house and she wanted a room for the girl's brother. Isn't that ridiculous! But there is more, this girl used to get all As. The girl is now divorced, and went back to school after 8 years - FT job, PT school. Her GPA is now 3.7 - WOW!
If there is a will, there is a way, young man!
2007-03-13 13:18:34 · answer #3 · answered by Missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay - if the cell phone and truck etc is not yours, then its their right. If you're old enough for college you're old enough to be out on your own. Get a job. You can probably get into a housing authority - low income housince (esp since your a student) in your area. My mom kicked myself and my son out of her house and thats where I went to live (had no ele or gas the first week either, but i did it)
About joining the military. Yep, you can join the military. I was in the air force -- left right after I turned 18. They will send you to basic training in san antonio texas at lackland AFB for training. You'll live in a * dorm * thats got two rooms. Each room has thirty beds. Then you'll go to tech school and depending on what job you picked you could be in a room with 2 other guys or a room to yourself and share a bathroom. Then you get to go to your duty station, where you can live in the dorms, if you're single. Again, you may share a roomate, and a bathroom or if you go in as a cop, you get privelages like a kitchentte and stuff. Plus, you make way more money, and its guaranteed, provided you dont get out early -- then they sock it to you.
Good luck on whatever you decide.
PS -- IF you join the military -- Remember. They buy your life.
even a sunburn is considered " Destruction of Government Property " and you can get in trouble and fined for it.
2007-03-13 13:11:08 · answer #4 · answered by December 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are 18 or older, yes you can join the military. Stop being a drama king and grow up, your parents are only taking a stand with you because you lack maturity in some areas in your life and they want you to be more responsible
concerning your grades , it cost to live, secondary education is not free, so who is paying for yours? money has to be earned and it is not just handed out somebody has to pay for
your life style if you are a student, Grow up learn that you have to take care of yourself, you are not a child. So stop being a brat and take your place as a adult and earn the respect you want.
2007-03-13 13:17:20 · answer #5 · answered by Tennessee Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you boy and what is wrong with your mother? As her child you should always come first no matter what.
Have you sat down one on one with her for a talk and told her how you feel?Has your stepfather raised and provided for you for sometime? If not....I think he should butt out and your mother will live to regret this one day.
Please do not go and live in a state park as that is far too dangerous nowdays. As for the military.....yes it would give you somewhere to live but you have to join for the right reasons and not just for a roof over your head.
Please consider talking to your guidance counsellor or your minister if you have one or a close family friend. Someone has to be able to help you.Explain your situation and they will come up with something. The Salvation Army is also great for helping young people with problems.
Keep up with your good grades in school.Your family should be proud of you and not giving you such
a hard time.Keep working in school as hard as you can
and one day you will be proud of yourself and prove how good you really are to everyone.
As for your father.......he will also live to regret this one day.I don't understand these people.I have three sons and would do anything for them come hell or high water.What is your mother afraid of that she doesn't stand up for you? There must be a problem there.
Please don't give up and i will be praying for you.
2007-03-13 14:31:22 · answer #6 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think and plan ahead. If joining the military is the only answer to your dilemma, talk to the recruiters honestly and openly. Don't sign anything until you have the situation under control. Emotions can cloud your judgement, remember it is your life that we are talking about, not your parents. The real answer is WHAT DO YOU WANT TO DO WITH YOUR LIFE?
Perhaps you should talk to your school's guidence councilor, it may be the place to start.
2007-03-13 13:09:50 · answer #7 · answered by whitehairblueeyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! I thought my parents were tough on me. You should be proud of your GPA, it's outstanding. Sounds like your mom needs a backbone and he's just looking for a way to get rid of you by setting the bar too high for you. there has to be some kind of shelter you can stay at.
I wish you the best and by the sound of it you are resourceful, you'll be OK.
2007-03-13 13:08:11 · answer #8 · answered by . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell you're mom you'll have to quit school to work to have a place to live, she won't like that. OMG that is the most rediculous thing I ever heard, it is soo hard to get even one A in college, not to mention all A's I'm so sorry. YOu mihgt have to quit school and work for awhile, until you can save enought o go back to school.
2007-03-13 13:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by bluemoon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's cold blooded that your parents put this type of demand on you. Talk to friends, tell them of your dilema, see if they can help you. Talk to the college counselor, maybe you can live in a dorm. Talk to a pastor, sometimes families will host students. There are options out there, you just need to find one.
2007-03-13 14:20:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋