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As of today, I haven't met any men (real life and online) who would call themselves "independent man" and boast about it!
where as most women will shove it down people's throats on how strong and independent they are.

yes...yes I know men boast on other stuffs (ie.income, cars, conquests....)
but that's not the point!


the point is why most men don't boast about their independence where as women do it every chance they get???


Do women realize how pathetic they look and sound when they're boasting something so ordinary??

2007-03-13 05:53:17 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

To cybele:
Do you let society's opinion defined who you are as a person???

2007-03-13 06:02:57 · update #1

9 answers

Women take pride in calling themselves independent because society is encouraging them to be independent today and they want to be accepted. LOLOLOL

(On preview, I just realized how contradictory that statement is! You can't want to be accepted while being independent!!!! ROTFLMAO Those two desires are mutually exclusive!!! HAHAHAHA!

Still, it's there. (Some) Women do still want it, even though it doesn't make much sense. How much of female psychology makes sense anyway?)

Men don't care about it one way or another because we are independent anyway. It's in our nature. If one of us is not independent then that is a bad thing. He's not going to flaunt his dependence.

Men are not independent because society tells us to be. We are independent because our drive is to achieve. We want to be needed. Women's drive is relational. They want to be wanted, by as many people as possible. So it's actually unnatural for a woman to be independent because she is fighting that desire within herself to be with other people. Men are different. Achievement is contrary to dependence.

Women should be (and are) dependent, whether they like it or not. Men should be independent.

Ladies, disagree? Ever go to a movie theater alone? Ever eat at a restaurant alone? You are social creatures. You NEED people. People are the central focus in your life. They are the reason you wake up in the morning. How can you call yourself independent if you can't function without people? How many times do you call your friends at night? What are you doing tonight? Does it include someone else? If you need to be social, then you are dependent.

But that's okay. It's good to be dependent. It bonds you to the people around you. They are dependent on you too. And they and you are dependable as well. So rejoice in your dependence. Don't fight it. Throw a party instead!

2007-03-14 12:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by SmartAlex 4 · 0 1

Men are supposed to be independant according to the conventions of society. A man could be proud of being gentle, kind, or sensitive, which are traditional feminine qualities. Men don't boast about being independant because if he weren't independant, he'd be considered less of a man. Whereas an independant woman is a thing that is defined by society as a woman who doesn't need her husband or father to support her, whereas a man is expected not to be supported as an adult by his father or wife

2007-03-13 05:59:10 · answer #2 · answered by Cybele 1 · 1 0

Women do this because they haven't had nearly as much opportunity to be independent as men. The concept is only forty years old at best. With so many other women being passive and unwilling to live for themselves, it's really not that ordinary at all.

2007-03-13 08:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 1 0

Because of society stereotyping women. You look at a guy and you don't wonder how independent he/she is. In fact a guy who is past 18 and living with his parents is thought of as a freak. Women however are viewed as submissive to men and therefore are compelled to tell people that they are independent. Men don't have this, but like you said earlier, we are judged by other scales.

2007-03-13 05:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by sinkablehail1978 5 · 1 0

Oh yes, women proclaim their independence like anyone is expected to give a f*ck. I think I will run around telling everyone I can swim. Cause I'm proud and my Swiminist forefathers taught me how to swim and paved the way for all Swiminists that followed.

2007-03-13 08:48:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

women human beings take exhilaration in calling themselves self sufficient because society is encouraging them to be self sufficient at present and they want to be universal. LOLOLOL (On preview, I basically realized how contradictory that fact is! you won't be able to need to be universal at the same time as being self sufficient!!!! ROTFLMAO those 2 needs are mutually unique!!! HAHAHAHA! nevertheless, that's there. (some) women human beings do nevertheless want it, in spite of the undeniable fact that it would not make a lot experience. How a lot of lady psychology is wise besides?) adult men do not care about it one way or yet another because we are self sufficient besides. that's in our nature. If one human beings isn't self sufficient then it truly is a foul issue. he's no longer likely to flaunt his dependence. adult men at the prompt are not self sufficient because society tells us to be. we are self sufficient because our stress is to achieve. we'd like to be necessary. women human beings's stress is relational. they want to be needed, by ability of as a lot of human beings as plausible. So that's easily unnatural for a lady to be self sufficient because she is scuffling with that favor interior herself to be with human beings. adult men are diverse. fulfillment is opposite to dependence. women human beings should be (and are) depending, even if or not they prefer it or no longer. adult men should be self sufficient. women, disagree? Ever bypass to a movie theater on my own? Ever devour at a eating position on my own? you're social creatures. you want human beings. human beings are the universal concentration on your existence. they're the reason you awaken in the morning. how can you call your self self sufficient in case you may't function without human beings? what number circumstances do you call your human beings at evening? What are you doing this evening? Does it comprise somebody else? in case you want to be social, then you definately are depending. yet that's ok. that's sturdy to be depending. It bonds you to the human beings round you. they're depending on you too. and they and also you're reliable besides. So celebrate on your dependence. do not wrestle it. Throw a get at the same time instead!

2016-12-01 22:41:13 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

i dont think men hear them selfs when they talk and you know that they dont think before they talk so yeah and they only boast about matiral things and other things ya feel me and to them as long as they have someone to care for them there good

2007-03-14 08:53:23 · answer #7 · answered by kari 2 · 0 0

insecurity knocks loudest if you have to sell yourself with the trimmings

2007-03-13 05:57:39 · answer #8 · answered by mmbmw2000 4 · 0 0

i am "independent " what is your asl email me at bugz_ink@yahoo.com

2007-03-13 05:59:21 · answer #9 · answered by bugz_ink@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0 0

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