hey i want to talk to this girl who is really nice and friendly< she goes to my church. im 13 (14 in the summer) and she is 13 (14 soon also) I want to know what i can say that isn't stupid and that she would like. we see each other wednesdays and sometimes sundays. im homeschooled she is public schooled. i found out what her name is it's sarah! i really want to know thank you!
i can't actually ask a girl on a date till im 17 but i can hang out with them hellpppp!!
plus i need kinda step by step instructions please
i don't go to the movies often either. plus im 13 i can't drive and i can't take a girl with us to the movies anyway.
ps what i mean by step-by-step is like what exactly do i say to her... i am serious please
i kno i sound desperate but i need help
anyone who has had a crush knows about how it feels
please help
2007-03-13 05:51:36 · 8 answers · asked by pistoluser 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey, I feel for you. I was raised in church too. Since you can't date for a while you will need to settle on being friends.
First: If she is doing a project and you can help her then go up to where she is and help. Ask her what she would like you to do. If it's before church just look at her and say "hey, Sarah nice to see you" If it's after church try to see her at the door or outside, say "Bye Sarah". Just so that she knows you noticed her.
Second: After speaking to her a few times you might feel comfortable enough to talk to her.
Third: Be kind and respectful. If she doesn't seem to be interested after a month of saying hello then you have to back off.
Good Luck.
2007-03-13 06:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by sharene h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happened to me at church. I was like 13 or so and we met at religious ed. We only saw each other during those times and talked on the phone. I couldn't date until I was 16 so I know how you feel. It sucks! I'm sorry to say your options are limited to the phone or church events. Unfortunately you just have to grin and bear it until you can get around by yourself, it's part of growing up. No adult seems to want to let you do the things your heart wants you to do. Time is on your side, though. If you are bold enough to google her, find out what you can (phone #'s) and go that route.
Trust me it gets better as you get older.
Good luck, let me know if I can help more if you get the digits!
2007-03-13 13:00:29 · answer #2 · answered by . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first calm down. I'm 14 and i can totally help. okay, first, when you see her just be talking to your friends and approach her,straight approach. say hi. and just start a conversation, about anything. the key is look at her eyes. if she gives you a disgusted look then say sorry and walk back away. if she says hi then ask her about her boyfriend. this is a classic move. this is to see if she is single or not. after a wile of just chatting ask her if she would like to hang out some time.
P.S
what turns most girls away is bad breath an ugly outfit and messed up hair. ewww, good luck.
2007-03-13 13:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by Chelsea L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest getting groups together that include her. Some of you church kids do something fun together. Try not to smuther her though. She will feel it if you try to hang on her too much.
By the way, it's normal and healthy for you to be attracted to her, but keep in mind that you are 13 and under the discretion of your (and her) parents.
Another option may be to get the 2 families together.
The one thing you absolutely must do is pray. Remember, this is God's daughter too.
2007-03-13 12:59:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your nervous. Just relax and get her cell number. Call her sometimes, not as a boyfriend, or she might think you are to pushy. Ask your parents to take y'all to mini golf, the movies, Chuck E. Cheese, whatever you want! That's not really a date, it's hanging out with your friends/ Get her to take another friend and you can take another one of your friends and go to Cici's pizza. Just anything friendly and fun!
2007-03-13 12:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i know extacly how it feels what you need to do is tell her how you feel otherwise she will never know, if you get her number give her a call and just ask her out i mean what is the worst that can happen?
2007-03-13 12:55:19 · answer #6 · answered by Jade L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh, honey, just ask her over to your place and rent some good movies--her choice---- and have a good time, or---- ask her to go to the mall or some place like that for pizza, its that simple, go on, have some fun!!!!!! good luck, now go for it!!!!
2007-03-13 12:58:06 · answer #7 · answered by Billie R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about anything you have in common........
2007-03-13 12:56:35 · answer #8 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋