My fiancee(Dean) and his dad had a big fight last night about how his dad treats people like crap (he really does) and in the mits of the argument Dean's dad told Dean that my dad 'kisses his ***' because my dad will do stuff for Dean that his dad won't. Plus, we have more than his family, and no we DO NOT flaunt it. My family is very humble.
Dean's dad resents anyone of importantce in his son's life. Dean was very upset and I'm pissed off because of the way his dad treats his two sons and dislikes my family. He treated his wife very porrly and does the same to his sons now that his wife has passed on.
What do I do? Knowing the info I do how he resents my family.. I'm pissed off and feel like "Fu- it" I'm not sure how to react to this and really need advice. Thank you very much for listening to me :)
2007-03-13 05:33:50 · 3 answers · asked by All I have to do is dream... 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The thing to realize here is that you have no control over how your FIL to be thinks and how he acts. If he's been treating people that badly for that long he's probably not going to change.
You do have control of what you think and do though. I'd consider cutting as much contact with him as possible. And keeping "family" get-togethers to a minimum. You probably don't have much choice about having both sides of the family at the wedding but anything after that should be one side of the family or the other.
Now if it were me, the times when you can't avoid your fiance's father are when I'd turn on all the politeness and class I had. Picture anything offensive he says and does as rolling off you into an idiot puddle on the floor and leave it there. Kill him with kindness and rise above the pettiness to prove how much better of a person you are.
2007-03-13 09:12:17 · answer #1 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People like that never change, learn coping mechanisms and live your life to the best of YOUR ability. When People become TOXIC it is better to not have them in your life.
discuss with your parents, what your soon to be father in law said. Good Luck!!!!
I personnaly have mother inlaws/step mother inlaws/father inlaws who are not a part of our lives. To DYSFUNCTIONAL.
2007-03-13 13:22:35 · answer #2 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You FIL has an abusive personality and he's not going to change. Just stay away from him.
2007-03-13 13:20:42 · answer #3 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋