I think my fiance is avoiding me but maybe not? Help?

Question

My fiance and i have been doing fine lately but I just dont know. He wanted me to help him with one of this college assignments at the last minute and i told him no because he was out partying all weekend he should do it his self. I'm always there for him other wise and i'm always doing stuff for him. Now he's mad at me and he wont answer my text messages or answer his phone when i call.
I tried speaking to him online right. But when i'm on he comes offline.. so i trick him and signed in offline and i saw him come on right after i signed out. Then i started talking to him asking him if he's avoiding me but he say no.. then i'll chat with me for a little while and then jus sign off again. then when i sign off he comes back on.

Help me please.. Is he jus acting immature because i didnt help him or is this more serious... Do you think he wants to break up with me and jus doesnt know how to do it. Plus im suppose to go see in next month, i already bought my ticket and he knows that..

Answer 1

it appears that he is using you... if he is angry about an assignment that is HIS responsibility, what will happen after you get married?

i think you could consider taking a look at yourself -- taking care of the responsibilities of another adult is a sign of codependency.

i don't know if he wants to break up with you or not; that's something you will have to ask him.

Communication and talking about issues is one of the keys to a good relationship. If you can't talk with him, there is no sense continuing the relationship.

Answer 2

He is acting like a child, if you want the truth the go and see him and confront him then you will know. You don't want this type of person if he can't see the wrong in partying and not getting his own work done. If you don't stand up to him and get him to see the wrong then you will always be picking up the pieces he leaves behind. Do you want a relationship with a person that plays games when they are confronted with truth and or fact? Tell him to quit playing games and get serious or it's over, tell him that you love him but you want someone that is an adult and able to solve simple problems like do the necessary lessons so that he can graduate and get a decent job that will allow both of you to live a decent life together. I personally congratulate you on being strong enough to tell him to do it himself, either he will take another look at his actions that cause this or he won't, his actions will give you your answer. Good luck...