I often wonder about this since I see it in so many ways. People choose careers because their parents want them to be successful. They marry people that there parents approve of. They will break up with someone despite true love just to please their parents. Is parental approval so important and why? In the cases I just mentioned, a good parent would let a child decide his/her own life despite their feelings. What do you think?
2007-03-13 05:30:45 · 11 answers · asked by Your #1 fan 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think the reason a lot of us adults try to please our parents as grown ups could be because when we were children, we had dysfuntions in our home and had parents who did not accept us who we were back then, and still do not have them accepting us. This seems to be an ongoing problem within me, and I am a 38 year old woman. It is sad and it is a discouraging feeling because it is not "us" it is "them" who will never accept us, and we need to quit trying to live our adult life trying to "please" them. Now is the time to please ourselves by our acomplishments. By human nature we all want to feel accepted and loved, but not everyone in this world will love or accept us and we need to face that fact, and just be proud of what we become. I hope this helps a little bit~
Have a great week !
~Pinky~
2007-03-13 06:56:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Parents just want what is best for their children and we try to make them happy so they will be proud of us and hold their heads up high when they speak about us and even though sometimes they dont say it as much or at all some parents are just happy for us when we try to do the right thing or the good thing even though they may have went about it a different way.
2007-03-13 05:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
b/c as an grownup we are able to comprehend and are available to a decision between good and undesirable character. infants are taught to have faith the authority of adults; hence, they're intimidated by making use of adults and could do what they say, pass with them, etc. This leaves infants venerable to being exploited. As an grownup you have extra capacity to have administration of the area and understand if somebody is there to harm you or harm you. infants are too harmless and naive to realize that somebody may be out to harm them, rather than help them. hence, verify's tell their infants to no longer talk with strangers as a manner to guard them. Plus, an grownup that's drawing near a baby, must be waiting to pass throughout the grownup/verify in cost, first.
2016-10-18 06:55:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If we please our parents, we feel good because they approve and are happy with our decision. But you should remember that you shouldn't work at a place just to please your dad or marry a certain girl just to please your mom. You live your own life, but that doesn't mean you can stop trying to make your parents proud. Some people might think they are in love, but our parents are wiser than we ever will be. They know what's best for us.
2007-03-13 05:40:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Parents do try to let their children have free agency- however when they see that they are making mistakes sometimes they try to intervene (to no avail). As a parent is quite difficult to let our adult children make mistakes and only wish the very best for them. I for one have had to step back and let the kids make their decisions no matter what i may think or say. In the end our children can and do make their decisions with or without blessings. and I will support them no matter what I may think
2007-03-13 05:40:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because we want to be perfect in our parents eyes. I am the same way. I fail at it but I try. My parents have excellent skills and morals and I do too. I want them to be proud of me and I want to be a great parent to my kids also. Our parents are our sounding board. We learn right and wrong from them. They are the source of our life and our hearts and minds want to thank them for that in our wanting to please them. The problem is when we stop thinking for ourselves or never do think for ourselves. Then its time for therapy.
2007-03-13 05:41:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because we all seek approval and love from our parents. No matter how old you get you want to know that your parents approve of you and are proud of what you do. Validation.....
it's what we crave.
2007-03-13 05:39:53 · answer #7 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am 40 years old and still worry I will dissapoint my parents.. They have given me no reason to feel this way, I can't tell you how often I wonder why I worry about it.
2007-03-13 05:42:33 · answer #8 · answered by almostready 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have just answered a?, in the same way as youv just explained,a good parent should encourage and help in the choices our children make if we truly want their happiness over our own.WHATEVER THEIR CHOICES ARE.
2007-03-13 05:47:55 · answer #9 · answered by patsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think my parents can piss off. they hate my man, wish i would go to college to better myself in my job. i don't need they're approval, but it's nice to here we're proud of you every once in a while.
2007-03-13 05:37:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋