Me and a guy i work with have been flirting with each other for months now and became really good friends. I must admit i did fancy him but as he has a girlfriend and i have a long term boyfriend i never thought anything would happen even though we had sent some sexy texts to each other. Then saturday night i was out with some friends and bumped into him on my way to get a taxi we decided to share a taxi home and to cut a long story short we ended up at a friends house having sex! to be honest it was a bit of a drunken disaster. Now he is texting me asking to see me again and im really tempted what should i do?????
2007-03-13 05:10:44 · 44 answers · asked by lucylou 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd like to say go for it but think about your boyfriend for a second. How long have you been together?
And ask yourself where is this whole thing going, is he going to leave his girlfriend for you? And when things go wrong how will you feel having to work with him, day in, day out?
I hate to say this but it has the all the signs of going hideously wrong, and I would bail before you dig yourself into a deeper hole; 'fess up to your boyfriend as well.
Sorry to paint such a drag picture but I think you need to face up to the reality of your actions and their consequences.
2007-03-13 05:22:43 · answer #1 · answered by Pickle 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Since obviously you are not in a committed relationship, the sky is the limit for you. Well here's the thing though, would it bother you if your insignificant other did the same? If it wouldn't, then at least you owe him the benefit of letting him know what you did. If it would bother you if he were to do the same, maybe you should stop doing what you are doing. Since all you are having with mr. workman is sex (he's really not a good friend,cause real friends wouldn't do what the two of you are doing knowing that you have someone else) and YOU know he has a girlfriend, you can't possibly want anything else from him. What else could he possible give you? If he's cheating on her with you , what makes you think he wouldn't do the same to you, if the two of you were to be in anything meaningful other than sex? There are a lot of questions that need to be addressed here. If you want to be in an open relationship, tell the other person that you are with, if he's cool with it, then at least you told him, if not, listen to Justin Timberlake, what goes around will come back around. You know the Bible (I'm pretty sure you have heard of it) says "do unto others as you would have them do unto you", "you reap what you sow" . Is this what you truly want??All the fun that you think you are having now will come back tenfold to you one day. If you feel the sex is worth losing your boyfriend (or whatever he is) go for it, if thats all that matters to you. (man, I never knew 9 1/2 weeks had this much effect on people) You should want more in a relationship. Cause if one day you wake up with a disease, wouldn't you still want somebody to care about you and love you. The guy who gave it to you wouldn't, and possibly other guys wouldn't even want to talk to you. But good luck, hopefully you can add some morals and values into your next equation you come across. Oh, and by the way, I hope things go well if his girlfriend ever finds out about you or if your boyfriend ever finds out about him. Ghetto sh_ _ might break out, but I'm pretty sure you are well aware of what you are doing and you have that under control. Good luck .
P.S
Maybe you should turn off reality tv and the videos for a while and get in touch with you. By the way james bond was a whore. Ciao.
2007-03-13 05:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by Iwannanewcar 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should tell him it was a one off and you'd rather prefer to stay friends as you are both in relationships. If you fancy him that much then you might consider breaking up with your boyfriend to spare his feelings because I'm sure he'd be devastated if he found out. Long term relationships can become stale if you don't make the effort and this is obviously very exciting to be doing something so taboo but you know its wrong and people will end up being hurt if you take this any further.
2007-03-13 05:37:39 · answer #3 · answered by Lost and found 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have a boyfriend and this guy has a girlfriend then, in my opinion, NO! You shouldn't be unfaithful! That's what it is! I am going to go out on a limb and bet that you have deeper feelings for the boyfriend. What would it do to him if you asked HIM this question? Chances are it would crush his heart! Now, is crushing the heart of someone you care that much about worth a fling?
2007-03-13 05:19:08 · answer #4 · answered by the_pharaoh109 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're focusing on someon else, then something's lacking in the relationship you're in now. Maybe it's excitement or maybe the man you're commited to is just not enough but the point is, why are you still commited to him if you have to look elsewhere to complete him? Would you be happy if your boyfriend looked elsewhere to complete you? Be fair if you want him to do the same to you. If you don't, then go nuts & wait till you get caught. Trust me, in this kind of situation, everyone eventually gets caught.
2007-03-14 12:47:21 · answer #5 · answered by Meg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should first break up with your long term boyfriend and tell him you guys need a break because you are not sure about you too just yet.
this guy could probably just be wanting you for sex or he could really like you. either way niether of you should be involved in a serious relationship if you are going to be having sex with other people.
perhaps you enjoy the thrill of it because it seems 'wrong' or perhaps you are really attracted to him. you should find out asap before things get out of hand.
2007-03-13 06:21:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
hi have a good think about your partner at the moment and the partner thats with the man that u fancy! you have got a big decision to make whether you wanna hurt your longterm boyfriend .what u must have a think about is would he dump you after a couple of weeks feeling guilty about what hes done and would he turn round and do the dirty on you? good luck have a proper talk with him dont text him! The problem with texting is you cant get your real feelings across! x
2007-03-13 05:33:22 · answer #7 · answered by sgt. pepper 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi there
Really simple answer!
End one! Start another!
To be honest you shouldn't really be in a long term relationship being so unstable. Let the guy go and do who you like whenever you want.
My i recommend that next time you book into heartbreak hotel as Mr and Mrs smith!
Good luck!
Regards
idai
2007-03-13 05:18:25 · answer #8 · answered by idai 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if you consider yourself smart
forget it , mixing work and pleasure is a deadly scene
what about if you get caught?
btw dont u have any respect for his girlfriend at all , lady?
what if it were the other way around , your bf cheating on you with some b*tch at work , would u like that?
no right ?, then step aside and look for a non-problematic and avalaible guy for you
2007-03-13 05:20:43 · answer #9 · answered by damoon 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want to do it again, then obviously you are not as commited as you should be to your bf. Decide what you want more and commit to it. If you wanna have sex with the other guy, at least have the decency to break up with your bf. But, beware, if he cheated on his gf with you, then, guess what, you will be next.
2007-03-13 05:18:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋