my coworker wants gastric bypass but her eating habits suck?

Question

today some people in the office got fried chicken for lunch, and they will again thursday. she ordered today and will again. but yet the insurance company told her to be on a decent diet for 6 months beforehand to prove she can't lose the weight. she's just lazy and won't change her eating habits or work out. she could probably lose 40lbs in that time. how do i tell her to stop talking to me about it constantly. it irritates the hell out of me because i'm trying to lose weight too but i'm working for it and she's just rambles on about this wonderful miracle surgery that really isn't that great.

notyou-kma. i don't give a crap if its between her and her doctor. her doctor is lying for her anyway and said she had already been dieting for 2 months. i'm just sick of hearing it.

Answer 1

spider,

Tell her...just like that.

You can't say anything to her that's going to 'get through.' Six months after her little surgery, she'll gain back whatever weight she lost...along with some digestive problems.

You'll be struttin' on the beach...tanned and HOT...and best of all, healthy.

Answer 2

I've had gastric bypass and it saved my life. I no longer has diabetes, or high blood pressure and I can walk! It's not for everyone and it's not at all the easy way out, I can promise you that! If this person is young and healthy, why not encourage each other to exercise and diet? I know she's a pain in the a*ss; I had a friend like that too. But she's not doing herself any favors by just binging thinking she'll make it all go away with gastric bypass. It doesn't work that way. If you can't be friends with her, just sit down and look her in the eye and tell her you don't want to hear about her plans any longer. Very simple. Tell her how you feel when she gorges and expects to have a miracle happen with a bypass. Tell her, too, that a lot of doctors WILL NOT give you the bypass if you have gained weight after your official conference with him. She will have to see a psychiatrist also for an evaluation; along with lots of other "preps" before she will be ready. She can go to a Bypass seminar free and really find out what it's all about. I think you're a saint for putting up with her. Godloveya.

Answer 3

well if she's irritating you that much, then i suggest you ignore her, or just grin and then go back to whatever else you were doing before she started talking to you. sooner or later she'll get the hint, and if she continues to bother you. then politely tell her "sorry, i've had have a lot on your mind" and walk away. if that doesn't work then bring it to the attention of a supervisor or rather human resources.

i know she may be difficult to watch, but you really can't say anything to her. she obviously got that big for some reason, and i don't think its because of laziness alone. perhaps she deals with depression, and she's chosen food as a way to deal with the pain. she may be joking about the weight loss and surgery, because she wants to beat everyone to the punch line. really, who knows? it could be a hundred different things. everyone has their own issues, and some people are in denial about it, while others pick up unhealthy habits in order to deal with them.

give the woman a break. if she bothers you, then just try to ignore her. that's usually all we can do in life.

good luck on your own eating plan, i know it must be difficult to deal with daily temptation in the office but you'll be a healthier person because of it. :)

Answer 4

Well its too bad for her, and you need to just deal with it. We're all responsible for our own emotions so try to find a way to not let it get to you. I know that can be impossible some times but at least try to ignore it, or if it comes down to it, tell her how you feel and that you'd like for her to stop talking to you about it.
My mother in law is the same exact way, or even worse maybe. She's been overweight for many years and her eating habits and lifestyle are the worst I've ever witnessed first hand. She cries about being overweight and that she's tried every diet, but every time I ever come over to her place she's got every cupboard stuffed with cookies and chocolate.
She's lazy to boot. We have family dinners at her place sometimes and I'll come over 5 days afterwards and the dishes will still be in a pile next to the sink. It's just simply not what I grew up with, and I can't for the life of me see how my wife came from that kind of background. She's the complete polar opposite.
She had the bypass a few months ago and she's lost some weight, but she's still got a long way to go for it to have been worth it in my opinion.
Now I think her eating habits might have gotten worse. She claims she can't eat very much so she takes really small portions of the proper meal, but she'll sure take down two or even three helpings of desert afterwards.
I understand how sickening it is to see someone like that, but try to realize that its their problem, not yours. You stick to your diet and workout, you'll thank yourself the day you reach your goal, and your coworker will one day realize the mistake they've made.

Answer 5

We had two women in my office do it together. One lost 80 lbs (she started out at 350 lbs) and the other lost 50 lbs (she was about 400) and after that initial weight drop they both stopped losing weight. And over the course of about a year they somehow were back to eating the same way the were before the surgeries.
typical lunch: 5 slices of deep dish pizza, salad c/o only lettuce and loads of ranch dressing, 2 bags of doritos (the 99 cent bag from the gas station) and 2 -20oz bottles of diet pepsi.

Answer 6

some people have terrible will power and its very hard for them to diet, maybe this is it, but then again she may just wants the quick fix, eat the way she wants now and then get the surgery, she will no longer be allowed to eat like that, if she tried she'd throw it right back up, but anyway tell her this, "look hun, I'm happy that your going to be doing this however I'm trying to do it the right way and i no longer want to hear about it" its blunt and to the point and she'll take the hint. Then we she can't get the surgery, talk about how much weight you've lost by doing it like this, then she'll realize what a b*tch she was being to you.

Answer 7

Tell her it isn't a miracle surgery and remind her what the insurance company said if she wants it.
If she still thinks it's miracle surgery tell her Carnie Wilson's story. Yeah she lost a lot of weight but after having a baby her bad eating habits came back which ended her up on Celebrity Fit Club.

Answer 8

Tell her that if she keeps those eating habits (after the surgery) she'll just start to gain weight again - only this time with a horribly disfigured stomach.

It stretches afterward to accomodate more food - and if she keeps eating fried chicken, she'll just gain it back. The plight of the lazy is funny sometimes...

Answer 9

Everytime your co-worker starts to talk about her surgery, just say, "Fried Chicken!" and walk away. I bet you won't have to say it twice before she gets it. Gastric bypass surgery comes with a whole host of health risks. It's intended for people who have a weight probably. That problem should solely be that they can't wait to eat. Unless your co-workers has some weight related health issues, her attitude about weight loss say a lot about her personailty. Unable to control her impulses, and willing to risk life and limb to cheat to get what she too lazy to work for.

Read this:

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/gastric-bypass/HQ01465

"Fried Chicken" and if she gets pissed off, you might consider yourself lucky..

Answer 10

There is nothing you can say without offending her and possibly getting into trouble. Offer to drive her a healthier place for lunch and eat with her. The best thing I can offer ya'.