ok, here it is... i live with my godmother and once i decided to introduce my boyfriend to her and then when she did she couldn't stop talking... she even started talking about her grtanddaughter who's a doctor and took him to the living room to show him her pics and blah blah.... i got very annoyed and ended up going upstairs leaving the two of them alone... whenever he calls, she always raises her voice so he could hear her but i don't pay attention to her.. then when he calls she says he's calling to check on both of us... uh,no. he's calling to check on me... she then keeps asking me when he's going to call and if am sure he hasn't got another girlfriend..now she knows he's always with me so how could he have another g. friend... this is not the first time she's done this...i was once dating a doctor and she said... he would like her granddaughter,too.then i got asked for an interview and she told me i couldn't do all that work and that people are prejudice.. whats her problem.??
2007-03-13 05:05:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have the problem, not her. The guy likes her better. Get over it.
2007-03-13 05:10:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
From what you wrote it appears that what you're seeing is the classic "What's her's (your's) is mine" scenario. ...But she has taken it to the next level by indicating that "what's her's is also my granddaughters". It's fairly apparent that she thinks you make good decisions about the men you choose to have in your life. But the thing that you always have to remember is that you are not related to her by blood, only a religious bond where she is to be your caretaker, if needbe. As a result, her interest are much more geared towards her granddaughter. Any man that you have means one less for her granddaughter to choose from. This could be a possible reason why she tells you that he may have another girlfriend... simply to put doubt in your head. Doubt causes problems in relationships and can lead to their dismanteling, which ultimately puts that fine gentleman that you've had a relationship with back on the market. Continueing on about the bloodlines... now I don't know the whole story... but lets say you are happy with someone, that means 1 person is happy, you (we're not taking him into the calculation). Now if she is able to set her granddaughter up with someone and things work out, 3 people become happy; the granddaughter, her mother, and your godmother. She would veiw it as a job well done on her part. So, my overall opinion on this would be that although she may want the best for you, she ultimately wants more than the best for her granddaughter. You have a few different options from this point. The simplest being talk to her about your concern. If she doen't respond, don't bring your boyfriend over to the house. If that still doesn't work, it may be time to look for a new place so you don't have to worry about it. Best of luck...
2007-03-13 12:42:28 · answer #2 · answered by Hambone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your godmother isn't going to change. You think she has a strange way of doing things but she is who she is. If you feel offended by something she says or does maybe you have a problem with yourself. Try to be patient. If she didn't like you or wished bad things on you she wouldn't have you living in her home. If she raises her voice when he calls she probably got the idea that he was her friend when you left them alone. Time to grow up and learn some respect.
2007-03-13 12:17:53 · answer #3 · answered by sharene h 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should confront her and tell her that what she is doing annoys you and is downright disrespectful. You should also talk to your boyfriend because it doesn't sound like he is standing up for you, but reciprocating your godmother's advances. If all else fails, just make sure that the two of them don't come in contact with each other when you see him or when you talk on the phone to him. If that doesn't work, maybe you should consider dating someone who is all about you and only you. You deserve better than that.
2007-03-13 12:15:08 · answer #4 · answered by Queen Bee 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think I know that lady!! She is feeling old and wishes she was young enough to date agin. She doesn't realize she is making an @ss out of herself. You need to find a nice way to tell her to grow up or to be serious. You have known her long enough to figure out a way to talk to her about it too. She is trying to get attention and won't stop until you stop her yourself.
2007-03-13 12:12:33 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just strange in how they think and act because they think it's normal, if I were you I would tell her flat out that she's making you uncomfortable because she probably doesn't even know it.
2007-03-13 12:21:26 · answer #6 · answered by storyteller 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
her problem is she just wants to know he is right for you she wants you to be treated
2007-03-13 12:11:56 · answer #7 · answered by sugarbabe 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
talk to her.
2007-03-13 12:08:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋