My finance and I got engaged in November 2005 and close friends of our got engaged within a month after us. We immediately picked our date and booked the reception facility as well as the church. Within the last few months of 2006 beginning of 2007 they booked the same reception site as well as getting our wedding coordinator. And just the other day the bride (also one of my bridesmaids) picked out her dress from the same salon as I did and proceeded to call my dress designer(and my dress) crap. I don’t know what to do. It is really stressing me out. She is doing everything I do! HELP!
2007-03-13 04:57:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I wouldn't change your date or your plans if that is what you are hinting at doing.
I would try to keep the planning a little more confidential, between you and your groom, so she can't copy off of you much more.
2007-03-13 05:19:49 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is really insecure about her wedding. The problem may be that since her wedding is so close to yours (as long as she is getting married after you, she's not really stealing all your thunder) she is worried that people will think yours was more beautiful, etc. By evening the playing field, she is decreasing her chances of being ridiculed (in her eyes). Sadly, she'll look back and see that she did everything the wrong way. Instead of choosing a site she wante, she chose yours, etc. Just ask her to stop making comments about your wedding and let each other be happy about the other. Then take in all of this time and enjoy it. Feel good knowing that you are doing everything that you want to do. You'll be able to look back on your special day and know that all the prep was meant to make you happy, not upstage someone else.
2007-03-13 06:28:54 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Over the summer, two of my best friends got married and everyone was okay with it. First, "A" got married in May and "K" was the Maid of Honor and I was Bridesmaid. Then, "K" got married, "A" was matron of honor and I was another bridesmaid. We all went dress shopping together and had a great time! However, they had their weddings at different locations, used different hairstyles, etc.
I think you should talk to your friend and ask her why she s making these decisions. It may be that she does not know how to plan a wedding and she is just following your example so she doesn't have to make big decisions. If so, you can offer to help her plan her wedding her way.
It is also possible that she is jealous and'or insecure and feels like she needs to show you up. She is not being a true friend, and you two need to talk. Don't be angry or make accusations. Just be gentle and patient and show her that you care. Hopefully, you can salvage your friendship and enjoy your weddings.
2007-03-13 06:14:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the work for her.
My advice is not to involve her into any of the wedding planning...because she will steal your ideas.
Keep your mouth shut and do not disclose what you are doing to her,,,tell her that you want it to be a surprise, and leave it at that.
As far as the wedding coordinator..that is LOW. Since you will have the same reception hall, you might consider other Wedding coordinator, so the ideas won't be the same or your infomation leaked.
With those friends, who needs enemies?
Good luck
2007-03-13 05:03:09 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's a little scary, I would definitely remove her of her bridesmaids duties, especially since she called your dress "crap". It sounds like she's a bit unstable, trying to be you. I would tell her straight out that she's starting to freak you out and you would appreciate it if she stops following in your exact steps. I mean it's one thing to like a certain hall, or dress designer, but to mimic everything exactly how you are doing, no way. Move away from this woman, before you end up the next Single White Female victim.
2007-03-13 09:12:27 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, they can be close but she needs to knock it off. I hope your getting married first so you don't look like your coping her. I would personally stop talking to her for a while and don't let her know your plans. Sounds like your doing all the leg work and she is just copying you... maybe just because it's easier for her. It would piss me off.
2007-03-13 05:10:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do. Just remember that imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. I would drop her as a bridesmaid.
2007-03-13 05:05:40 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So what. I'm sure both of your weddings will be beautiful and unique to your own personalities. Be flattered, not mad.
2007-03-13 10:02:02 · answer #8 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋