I am 15 years old and my bf is 17 and has all this planed out that we r going 2 get merried.NEED HELP
2007-03-13 04:54:25 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Tell him you will marry him AFTER you turn 18. That will give you a three year engagement IF you say yes now. It will also be plenty of time just in case you change your mind.
Though, since you asked this question, my thoughts are that you are not ready for marriage just yet. Tell him to ask you when you are 18 years old... in other words, LEGAL.
2007-03-13 05:05:09 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is totally rediculous! You are both much too young. You both need to finish school and maybe go on to college. Where are your parents in this delimma? How will your B/F support you? I think you should not do this and think very seriously of breaking off the relationship at this time. This can only lead to an unwanted pregnancy and a life of poverty and misery. Get your act together and start concentrating on school and being a teenager and have fun. You are too young to wrestle with these issues at your age. Tell your B/F that you thought it over and you both are too young and your parents would be totally devistated if you ran away and got married. Stop this nonsense now., Be a teen, have fun with friends, get some hobbies, and stop being old before your time.
2007-03-13 06:23:27 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time it is better to wait, at least until you graduate high school. You're both so young that if you stay together for a while, you'll realize that marriage should not only be about love, but about being able to set up a stable lifestyle together. Its not just so you can say you have a husband. It has to do with finances and creating an environment to raise children in. If you don't think you're ready to live alone with them with no help from your parents (financially), or anybody else, then you probably should wait until you feel like you are.
Good luck
2007-03-13 05:20:20 · answer #3 · answered by Leslie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't even think most 18 - 20 year olds are mature enough to get married. If everyone married the first person they "loved" or thought they would marry, there would be even more divorce than there already is... and that's already a ridiculous amount.
You both are going to change SO much in the next few years. Don't even talk about marriage. If he won't stop, I'd get rid of him.
2007-03-13 06:33:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there! It sounds like you are unsure if you want to spend the rest of your life with this guy, and that is okay!! Speaking from expirience I started dating my first boyfriend at age 16, he started talking marriage a few months into it. I told him that I didn't want to get married for a long time and just brushed it off my shoulder. I also didn't know if I wanted to marry him. As time went on I figured out that I did want to marry him and when I wanted to get married. There was a lot that I wanted to do (such as school) before we got married. So here we are 7 years later, still together and engaged, we have been engaged for 1 year and our wedding will be June of '08. It is okay not to know if you want to marry him know. Just tell him upfront that you don't want to get married soon, if that is what he is what he wants and continue to have fun. If you enjoy being with him and you have a heathly relationship. You will know when and who you want to get married to and trust me, there is no reason to rush things!
Good luck and don't stress. Just enjoy being together!
2007-03-13 06:16:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't take it too seriously or worry about it. If you know now that you don't want to be with him for the rest of your life, then say so. However, lots of people say that when they're in high school and its mostly raging horomones and the lofty idea that what happens in high school actually has some meaning in the grand scheme of things. Don't worry, you'll both come to the realization one day that it probably wasn't for real anyway. And if it turns out to be for real MUCH later down the road, congrats. You're one of the few.
2007-03-13 05:14:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well your not going to get married anytime soon.
In the USA to get married w/o your parents permission you must be 18 (19 in NE and 21 in MS). If you HAVE your parents permission you may get married, in most states, at 16. In some states you will still need a judge's approval.
Mexico and Canada have the same laws. 18+ to get married w/o parental consent.
2007-03-13 05:01:48 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you say "NEED HELP" in all caps, it makes it sound like you don't want to marry him. Tell him that. If he's planning the wedding already and you haven't told him that you want to get married, then you probably shouldn't be with him. He wants to marry you quickly to get away from something else, like a bad family situation, and it's probably not healthy.
2007-03-13 05:09:32 · answer #8 · answered by calliope320 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it's illegal. And your only 15 you prob haven't even been to the prom yet so.. a wedding is far off. Tell him that after you finish college & he still wants to marry you then great.
2007-03-13 05:17:04 · answer #9 · answered by schristine23 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
back away and tell him that you control your life and he does not need to be TELLING you what you WILL be doing. You can make that decision for yourself when you are older........ugh do not make that type of commitment now.......it would be a grievous mistake. Remember marriages are easier to get into then to get out of......the person you marry is not the same person you divorce.
2007-03-13 05:36:49 · answer #10 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋