Would christ permit divorce and remarriage NOWADAYS?

Question

I thought god's word doesnt change...SOOOOO
If God hates divorce,,(which he does)
Why are so many christians getting divorced and remarried?
And not all of them are wife beaters!!

Answer 1

There are several reasons for this, and almost none of them are good reasons.

The first reason is that the Bible is often not preached in the pulpits. Pastors are afraid to "offend" people by calling sin what it really is. Congregations sit in their pews week after week being told how lucky God is for having such great saints like them.

Next, I would say the majority of people in churches aren't born again. They attend church, but there hasn't been a heart change. They've never been confronted with their sin, so they don't see a need to be saved. (See reason #1 above.)

Next, there are people who feel they are the exception to the rule. That, or they figure that God will forgive their disobedience, so what the heck. After all, doesn't God want me to be happy?

Finally, there are those who (as many in Yahoo Answers state) will pick and choose what parts of the Bible to believe. They treat it like some kind of buffet. "Oh, let me have a little grace and love and some fluffy Jesus. No veggies though. I don't want to hear about sin and judgment."

Besides what Jesus said about divorce, the prophet Malachi tells us God's thoughts about it: "I hate divorce, says the LORD God of Israel..." (Malachi 2:16a)

Answer 2

Note that Jesus says the one doing the divorcing "causes" the divorced one to commit adultery! (It is interesting to note here that God seems to automatically assume the divorced party will ultimately remarry, understanding with His great compassion that the individual will eventually want to once again fill their original need for a partner. I find that very touching.) Similarly, Jesus said whoever "causes" one of these little ones to stumble, it is better for a millstone to be tied around his neck and be cast into the sea!" It appears that from these verses that it is the one who "causes" that must bear the penalty.

It is true that "God hates divorce." But he hates everything else we do just as much; such as lying, stealing, lusting, etc. It is clear that we are all in need of a Savior whether we are involved with divorce or not. We are still sinners regardless of whether or not we divorce each other.

But in the Biblical context, people were divorcing as an excuse to "wife swap" and it had gotten out of hand. Divorce was permitted by God "...due to the hardness of our hearts". But it was never intended for use as a way to simply acquire a new spouse at the drop of a hat.

We must keep the proper perspective on this and every other christian issue.

Answer 3

During Moses' time, divorce was permitted. Jesus then teaches against divorce to prevent people from committing adultery, when he talked about divorce he always follow it with the adultery issue since he said that when you remarry you're already guilty of adultery, and he also said that when looking at a woman lustfully or want to possess her is already guilty of committing adultery in one's heart (matt 5:27) and might even have to take out the eyes to save the soul, in addition he also said not to separate what God has joined together. In modern time, sex outside marriage is common, lot of people are committing adultery without having to get into divorce and its not fair to one's spouse so getting divorce now should be a choice since we are also the one who chose whom to marry unlike the custom during that time and place, If we happen to make bad choices, it would be better for both parties to start anew.

Answer 4

Fun Fact: Sex = Marriage

The first person you sleep with is the person you are married to, and if you have sex with anyone else you are committing adultery. Even if you are "married" to the latter person.

They get confused because the government and the church have different rules.

Many people don't know this.

There is no such thing as divorce...even if the husband beats his wife. There is a passage in the bible that says something like: If a man rapes a woman he is to pay the woman's father and take her as his wife...I'll try to find the verse.

God doesn't hate divorce because there is no such thing. He hates adultery. He even made it one of the comandments.

"If a man happens to meet a virgin who is not pledged to be married and rapes her and they are discovered, he shall pay the girl's father fifty shekels of silver. He must marry the girl, for he has violated her. He can never divorce her as long as he lives." Deuteronomy 22:28-29

Answer 5

I study in the manuscripts, and you need to know what is really said about divorce;
first, any marriage that can be saved, of course, we would want to save. Thats common sense. However, if a marriage is resulting in adultery, abuse, etc., then that marriage should end. God will look upon that marriage as if it never occurred - (upon repentance even adultery would be forgiven)
Divorce is not a sin, Adultery would be the sin if it applied. Let me repeat:
DIVORCE IS NOT THE SIN - ADULTERY WOULD BE THE SIN IF IT APPLIES.
Read Hosea; God divorced Israel for Idolatry. Upon the death of Christ, God was free to re-marry. And, He will. there will be a marriage of God to the spiritual bride of Christ.
Understand, this is spiritual.
And just as a further note: He is looking for a virgin bride (spiritually) - so its not a good idea to go whoring around after other Gods, get it?

Answer 6

Marriage is a very difficult thing. It is a great adjustment in life. Many people enter it at a young age but aren't fully prepared in maturity to work it out. This is not to excuse the damage that it does. It's just that we live in a very sexualized society.

God does hate divorce.

Answer 7

God hates divorse because it hurts us and he loves us. Divorce is not a sin and has never been one. God hates some marriages too so he provides a way out. Too many people are using divorce as an escape when all they really needed was to pray together.

Answer 8

You're right...He does hate divorce. A friend of mine told me that when she was sick, her husband was by her side and that made her think about her vows and really taught her how valuable they are. I think lots of Christians get married without really understanding what those vows mean and don't try to work things out. And they part over thinks that really aren't that important and could have been resolved if they worked at it.

I told my boyfriend if we get married it's until death do us part...no possibility of divorce will ever be considered...And he agrees with that.

Answer 9

Just as much as Jesus hates divorce, He hates people getting married for the wrong reasons to people they can never remain with for the rest of their life and still do God's work.

I find it interesting that you mention domestic violence as a possible justification for divorce. Where do you draw the line? Beaten once a day.....once a week.......once a month.....

once?

How about emotional abuse which can be even more debilitation than physical?

The basic question for Christians, as I see it, is "have you married somebody that allows and encourages you to grow spiritually and to do the work God has planned for you or did you marry (through your choice of free will) somebody who stifles you spiritually?

Answer 10

I want to know also this is a question worth a star!

Also, how does a pastor get a divorce?