my best friend and i both liked the same guy so i said she can be with him so she did he broke up with her today at school and is now smsing me and stuff he said he likes me i still like him but dont want to hurt my friend where do i go from here?
MUST I GO OUT WITH HIM OR NOT IM SO CONFUSED??
2007-03-13 04:48:52 · 14 answers · asked by princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have to square it with your friend first.
If she says she doesn't care, then go ahead.
If she isn't okay with it and you go out with him, you run the risk of ruining your friendship.
2007-03-13 04:54:17 · answer #1 · answered by vospire s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I think the question you need to ask yourself is what kind of values does this guy have? You and your friend may be infatuated with the same guy, sometimes thats normal. Actually the two of you dating the same guy is abnormal, if the two of you are in fact true friends. He is accepting all applications at this point and doesn't care about morals. Unfortunately I think he is thinking with the wrong head. If you want to involve yourself with a guy that is willing to date you and has already been with your friend, do you actually think that he will just stop at you? What if he dumped you and started dating another one of your friends? How would you feel? Do you want to be the talk of the town? He will surely brag about how he has dated two friends. If you are cool with that, then by all means invite Mr. Bond into your world. Remember though, never judge a book by its cover, its the content that will take you further. Don't get me wrong, the cover helps, but its not everything. If all you are looking for is a good time and your girlfriend too, go for it. I wouldn't. Good Luck.
2007-03-13 05:00:48 · answer #2 · answered by Iwannanewcar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that guys come and go but friends are forever. Don't go out with him. Besides, anyone who's pursuing a girl the same day that he broke up with another is scummy anyways. Especially when both girls happen to be best friends. Never do sloppy seconds.
2007-03-13 04:59:00 · answer #3 · answered by ♪ ♫Jin_Jur♫ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rule of thumb when it comes to friends is NEVER, EVER date a guy your friend dated, liked, crushed on, etc. Just forget about him. If you want to keep this girl as your friend, then this boy is just one in a million boys out there and you must just let him go. If you wanted him that bad, you shouldn't have given him to her, but since you did, stick by your decision and just move on. Tell the guy that he's not worth losing your friend over and that you aren't comfortable dating him since he was with your friend. TRUST ME when I say EVERY BOY (and man) would LOVE to date a girl and her best friend or sister, he's not worried about you or concerned about your friendship. It's YOUR responsibility to keep your friendship safe. Now, if you and this girl aren't close and you don't care about losing her, then go for it. But if you were my friend and you dated a guy I liked who recently dumped me, I would never speak to you again. So think hard about what you are going to do. Good luck.
2007-03-13 04:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by Brandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't HAVE to go out with anyone.
You also shouldn't worry about what other people think. If you like the guy, go out with him. It sounds like you're young, but what if he is the one you will end up marrying? Would it be worth upsetting your best friend for a few days for a long term relationship with him?
You were not the cause of your best friend's break up. So it is ok to date the guy who is asking you out.
However, beware that "rebound" relationships rarely last long.
2007-03-13 04:54:33 · answer #5 · answered by Jason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!!!! You already gave him away to her. Don't be stupid. If you value your friendship stay away from him. Even if she says to go out with him. Steer clear. He is hers and hers forever no matter how long you live. I'm not kidding. It will destroy your friendship and he will break up with you next month and you will be friendless and manless.
Think about it this way, if he is wooing you now. Other guys are watching and turning him down will be a turn on for the other guys. They like a good chase and friendly competition. Take my advise....
2007-03-13 04:55:51 · answer #6 · answered by sharene h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the first thing you should do is talk to your friend about it.most friendships even "best friends" end over a guy.talk to her about it see what she has to say.if she isnt okay with it then i think its best to not go for that guy.which one do you value more? a relationship with a guy that probably wont last and will probably put some tension between you and your friend or your friendship that im sure could last a life time with the usual ups and downs.
2007-03-13 04:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by cathy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go there if you want to keep your best friend, she may not want him but I'm pretty sure she wont want you to have him either, its not that she is a ***** or anything its just your her friend! right and she will expect you to be on her side and what ever she broke up with him for she will need you to understand, so best girlfriends do not go out with ex's sorry its just a rule
2007-03-13 04:56:44 · answer #8 · answered by yah yah sisterhood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all u gotta do is go to ur friend 1st, say ;look, i know it didnt work out 4 you 2 but remember, i gave him to u, u think i ican have a shot, c if we have a chance?'
you sound young, u have nothing to lose, serious. but dont upset ur pal, chicks b4 di*ks no guy is worth losin a gf ova
much luck
<3
2007-03-15 01:58:09 · answer #9 · answered by Sammmy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on whether you want to stay friends with her or not because if you go out with him, even if you end up breaking it off with him, your friendship with her will be permanently damaged possibly beyond repair.
So, is he worth it to you even if he isn't serious about you?
2007-03-13 04:53:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your friend first. The guy just might think you're a pair of easy friends and he could have both of you.
2007-03-13 04:53:55 · answer #11 · answered by ☺SDgurl☺ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋