My father is in a coma for the past 5 months and I know that he wanted to be the one to walk me down but its nearly impossible right now. I have an ex boyfriend who we dated for 4 years but then it turned out that he was gay. We are the best of friends and my guy is all right with him as that. We are more like brother and sister and true friends also. Should I ask him to walk me down the aisle? Or my mother who I am close with, my older brother, my grandfather? Who should walk me down the aisle? I need help. Thank you
2007-03-13 04:36:43 · 28 answers · asked by Babygurl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It should be a family member. Either your mother, brother or your grandfather, whichever one you are closer to. I'm sorry your father won't be able to walk you down the aisle, I know it's something we all look forward to, and I'm sure it was something your father wanted to do, too. My prayers will be with both of you. Congrats on your upcoming nuptials.
2007-03-13 04:45:23 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you have plenty of options. You could either have your brother, or as others said your grandfather, or how about an uncle? My dad died three years ago and I am getting married on 07-07-07, so my mother's brother is walking me down the aisle. My older cousin was my second choice, b/c he has been like an older brother rather than a cousin. So that is an option. Also, what about waiting until he comes out of the coma? But, and I am sorry to say this, sometimes people don't come out of a coma right away, so if you want to get married now, I know your father will understand. And you could have a special 'party' for your father, when he comes out of a coma, and he can experience the father/daughter dance that he missed. Don't listen to the person that said you are selfish by not waiting for your father, obviously they have no heart. I am deeply sorry and I hope your father comes out of it. Congratulations on getting married. I hope this helps and everything goes wonderful for you.
2007-03-13 12:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If there is no way to put the wedding off until your father is better, who would he choose if he could? Your friend would probably be better as an attendant of some sort, because it should be famiIy or a father-figure who gives you a way. I would probably go with the brother, because your mom will have her own moment to shine and participate, but unless your brother is a groomsman, he doesn't really have a part. Also, usually grandparents get special seating and such, so I'm sure your brother would be honored. I'm so sorry about your dad. That has to be really tough. I hope he pulls out of it soon.
2007-03-13 12:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by tehuskey513 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely get your older brother or your grandfather or both of them to walk you down the aisle! I wouldnt have your ex-boyfriend or your mother do it. I hope this helps! Congratulations & Good Luck :)
2007-03-13 13:17:16 · answer #4 · answered by She is Beautiful! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The object of being walked down the aisle is that person has the ability to give you away. Can your friend give you away? If your mother is up to it, ask her. If not, a real blood brother, or other male figure in the family.
2007-03-13 11:56:42 · answer #5 · answered by Carol D 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your brother or grandfather i he can! As long as there is a family member- male able to walk you down the aisle, that's the way it should be. You pick a friend only when there are no male family members available. never a woman, i don't know why exactly but i know it for sure.
2007-03-13 12:08:38 · answer #6 · answered by helena_m_p 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow, I dated a guy for that long and found out he was gay too!
You can ask your ex to do it since you're so close to him if you want. A "father figure" is really who you would want to walk you down the aisle but that choice is completely up to you!
2007-03-13 11:43:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A family member other than your father if he is still not able to walk you down the aisle would be appropriate. Perhaps your friend can be one of the groomsmen or an usher?
Congratulations on your upcoming marriage.
2007-03-13 11:41:22 · answer #8 · answered by Stefka 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not your friend, I dont think that would be good. I would ask your brother. Your mom should get to have her moment as the MOB and I bet your brother would probably be really honored to step into your dad's place considering the circumstances.
I hope your dad comes out of it though, what a wonderful thing if he was able to walk his little girl down the aisle.
2007-03-13 11:45:04 · answer #9 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Who do you think your father would ask to do him this favor. I'm leaning toward your mother but perhaps your mother and brother could share the honor.
Is your grandfather healthy enough? He might be thrilled if you asked him, especially if he never got to do the honor for a daughter of his own.
Your friend should definitely be in the wedding, perhaps as your main attendant. But it would confuse people to see him giving you away I think.
What you want is most important, I believe your father would want you to go ahead with the wedding.
2007-03-13 11:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by txkathidy 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋