This is the background info: My boyfriend lives far away from me. He lives in Mexico City and I like in Texas. I can't go visit him and neither can he come visit me for now.
Now, he's been acting very distant and cold towards me... The other day he seemed like he was annoyed with me... I don't want things to end with him but his attitude towards me is tearing me appart... He's not the same any more from when I first met him and we've been together for almost a year...
I was thinking about e-mailing him and telling him how I'm feeling but is that really the best way?
AH! I don't wanna fall in love again...
2007-03-13 04:31:37 · 11 answers · asked by Athena 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sound kind of young and you have only been with this guy for a year. A long distance year. Just keep it cool and sweet with him. If he keeps treating you in a way that you don't like, then let him know. The phone (if you can't tell him in person) is probably best. If he doesn't change then dump him.
There's plenty of local guys in Texas. Don't fall in love so fast!
2007-03-13 04:36:07 · answer #1 · answered by ☺SDgurl☺ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe its very sad when someone´s love is not responded in the same way, but that´s nature.
Both sides have to feel the same attraction, often only one feels it, and in this case the best decision is sadly to face reality.
Both will be better off. One side will not suffer and the other will not be uncomfortable.
Have a easy civilized conversation with him , or send him an e-mail exposing your feelings and thoughts.
Ask him to be completely frank with you, for the benefit of both.
And make your decision.
Accept nothing less than real love.
Do not reject future love, its not nature´s call.
Eventually you will find the correct person and love will be permanently felt by you both.
2007-03-13 11:51:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention why he can't visit you, or why you can't visit him. If it's factors out of your hands, perhaps he is resentful that he can't do as he wishes, and is inadvertantly taking it out on you. He might also be trying to distance himself in order to make a breakup more painless. I say go ahead and email him. Don't be whiny, just tell him what you've observed and that it hurts you. What he responds may not be what you want to hear, but you probably will get some sort of answer. Good luck!
2007-03-13 11:38:31 · answer #3 · answered by oj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should email him because he might not be aware that this is how you're feeling because of how he's been treating you. He might either open up and act better or he might deny it and continue to treat you as insensitively as he does.
1. he gets better
2. he doesn't and you put up with it
3. you say you're worth someone that atleast want to give you the time of day and move on (maybe not to someone else, but find time to just be comfortable being by yourself and developing some confidence)
Those are the options I see for you, so go ahead and face your situation.
2007-03-13 11:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by HappilyEverAfter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say your age. You sound young. Long distance relationships are hard enough for adults let alone kids. I think it's time to move on and find someone no matter how much it hurts. Time heals everything!
2007-03-13 11:38:20 · answer #5 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's the fact that u can't see each other. Just give him some time ask him how he feels and what he wants.
2007-03-13 11:36:28 · answer #6 · answered by Baby Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes absence doesn't make the heart grow fonder, some relationships have to be worked on everyday.
2007-03-13 11:35:08 · answer #7 · answered by mark my words 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sending an e mail is the thing to do unless you can talk to him on the phone. let him know your concerns.hope this works out for you and him. good luck.
2007-03-13 11:38:01 · answer #8 · answered by lynnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somehow explain to him how you feel. He can't be acting this way for no reason. Tell him and take it from there.
2007-03-13 11:35:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That indicates maybe he has found someone new that's closer to him. You need to find out so that he doesn't continue to string you along..
2007-03-13 11:36:24 · answer #10 · answered by Jewel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋