My ex and I split up on the 4th Jan this year. His 'so-called' girlfriend who'd spent a year in US (apparently they lost touch with one another), came back around xmas time and he decided to pick up where they left off. I had no knowledge of her and felt totally betrayed - as though everything we had over the last 5-6 months was meaningless. I welcomed him to my parent's home for xmas, we introduced all our closest friends to each other, we socialised together and virtually lived together.
Anyways, he left me and is with her and although I don't sit at home crying over it anymore, I miss him like crazy. Not a day goes by where I don't think about him, everywhere I go reminds me of him, I feel so lonely and rejected - even 2 months after we've split. I loved him, he was the closest thing I've ever had to a proper relationship. So many times I want to call him, but I can't. He deceived me. How do I get through this? How do I wake up and not have him on my mind everyday?
2007-03-13 04:30:03 · 15 answers · asked by rachel e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When do I start feeling happy to be on my own again? He worked so hard to gain my trust and now I feel like I'll never trust another man ever again. I've been hurt before, but nothing compared to this. I feel so crap without him. I miss everything about him and yet I can't even talk to him because of the way he treated me.
I know it sounds lame, but some days (like today), I feel as though my heart is bleeding from the pain. I felt complete with him. I just don't know what to do with myself right now.
2007-03-13 04:35:15 · update #1
Listen , you are a strong person, but everyone is human. Its acceptable to still miss someone you got really close to, but on the other hand don't forget he just threw you away for another girl! He did deceive you and believe me U DONT NEED that!! U can do so much better, get out and mingle, have fun let your hair down and be free. This isnt a game at getting back at hiim but it will certainly feel like a kick to the head if he knows your out there being young free and single and loving it, without missing him! but always remember, there are good guys out there too. Dont treat the next one like the last one and use this experience as a learning one!:D Good luck !:P x
2007-03-13 04:41:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel really sad for you because everyone at some point goes though something like this. Believe me it WILL get easier and you'll be stronger in the long run. It's early days yet so give yourself time to recover. The rejection is the hardest part so try to keep yourself busy so you don't have to much time to think about things. It sounds as this was your first relationship and they say the first cut is the deepest. When you get over him you'll be even more equipped to handle life's problems. Good luck and all the best for the future.x.
2007-03-13 04:40:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My exb/f J (not to name him)broke up w/ me 7 years ago...telling me he loved me too much, and I was bond to leave him one day...I felt like crapt for months...and even if now I'so much in live w/ my partner, and we have the most beautiful baby together, it doesn't stop a sore pain in the heart whenever I thing of J. U will build another better richer relationship w/ another man, and u'll be even more cautious than before. Trust me, time is the best healer..
Do go out, meet friends, go to cinema....but take time w/ ur family, and for yourself...if u feel it might help, go to a councellor...He's not worth the pain, nor the tears...
2007-03-13 05:03:02 · answer #3 · answered by MCT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He DID deceive you and for that reason he is not worth your time. Its only been two months no wonder you still feel as you do. Thats normal. But as they say time will heal your wounds. You certainly DONT want him back because he is untrustworthy and evil. You should be happy you didnt marry this snake. It is this perspective that will help you get past the emotional attachment. A little anger is a good cure for hurt sometimes.
2007-03-13 04:35:41 · answer #4 · answered by Devdude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that really helps a heartbreak is time and keep yourself busy, as busy as possiable, one day you will wake up and the pain will not be as strong. And don't call him, you will regret it. I went though the same thing, kinda, except he ended up marrying the other girl. I still think of him but now it is not as often and it doesn't hurt as much, getting another boyfriend helps too.
2007-03-13 04:39:24 · answer #5 · answered by sss_1122 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, there's no easy solution. You keep waking up, you keep socializing with a lot of different people, keeping your calendar full and yourself pampered, and soon enough, when you do think of him, you'll be surprised that he wasn't on your mind for a few hours, then a day, then perhaps longer. The ONLY healer is time, which you can't rush. Take care of yourself and enjoy your life, because you only live it once.
2007-03-13 04:34:34 · answer #6 · answered by oj 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its supposed to take half the time you went out together to get over your ex but dont worry so much theres plenty other fishes that would love to go out with you. Soon you will meet a real man who will blow you away so be positive and enjoy life having fun meeting new people and he will be a distant memory, good luck
2007-03-13 04:37:47 · answer #7 · answered by tra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi you make me remember when i was in your place a few years ago you are in love the truth is you well not get this boy off your mind not right now anyway the best thing to do is try to find someone else for now and be With your friends he mint come back to you it could happen love is very hard to deal with trust me know but just Tye to find someone else for now it will be OK it might be a long time but you will fall in love with someone else.
2007-03-13 04:46:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are gonna fel likke this and you will for a long time there's nuffin you can do gurl!! Only time will heal the pain and theres no point in throwing yourself into another relationship just to keep your mind occupied cz it wont work. Also please dont give him a another try either he ent worth you at all
2007-03-13 04:54:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are grieving and what you are feeling is a natural process , you need to keep yourself busy ,get out with your Friends.Keep busy with work etc and it will get easier with time.2 months isn't long to get over this kind of betrayal.
2007-03-13 04:35:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋