what do you do when you 18 year old boyfriend is pressuring you to be sexually active do i give in or push away i'm not mentally ready but i anm physically what do i do ?
2007-03-13 04:19:38 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hell no..fcuk him off you dont need people like that in your life
2007-03-13 04:24:10 · answer #1 · answered by IC4NDY_ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,
You need to stand your ground. Men use this manipulation with you throughout your life. For men, sex is sex, a way to release their frustration. For most women, sex involves your emotions. I had sex the first time at 15 1/2 w/ a 18 yr. old. I wish I would have never did it, he didn't "love me" more. He was a pig, who wasn't only having sex w/ me but with many females. If this guy loves you, he will wait until your ready. As for kids, I am 34 w/ 3 boys ages 3, 7 & 13. I had my first son at 20. I love my sons. But once you have a child your lifestyle WILL change FOREVER. I haven't been out to a movie in literally years, you can't party like you use to, your not free. You have to do for someone else, their needs come first, FOREVER.
Wait until you are truely ready, not when he is. Make sure he uses a condom, even if your on birthcontrol to prevent STD's & pregnancy. For a female, sex is mentally life changing. You will deal w/ emotions you never have dealt with. Please don't have a child at 16, finish school, go to college, enjoy life, experience as much as you can before making that step into motherhood.
I wish you the best.
2007-03-13 11:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by FrancoAmerican! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids at 16? sweety, you have like 15 good years to think about that. why have them now, if you haven't finished school and can't support yourself on your own? there'll be plenty of time to plan that later in life.
your boyfriend is an inconsiderate jerk if he's pressuring you for sex. a good and loving boyfriend would back off until you were fully ready. it seems like he's not really concerned about your feelings, although he'll probably tell you otherwise. in all honesty, he's just another horny teenager who will do anything to get in your pants. you need to tell him to back off. and if that means, he's stops talking to you or makes you feel bad, then give him the old, "Don't let the door hit you, where the good lord split ya! Beat it, ya loser."
but seriously, if you don't feel that you're ready for sex, then you're most denifitely not ready for sex. simple as that! don't let your horny boyfriend or your friends pressure you otherwise. it's not going to be that magical sensation that movies dramaticize. those are all lies... it's painful and disgusting the first time, and most women will probably confirm that to you. the best thing to do is wait until you're ready, so you focus on what's going on and enjoy it without thinking about all the doubts you have in your mind.
Now, one more thing to address... Right now you're becoming a young woman, and it's alright to have certain sensations in your body or to be aroused when a boyfriend touches you, it's normal. still it's an awkward feeling having your body and mind be at odds about it. but for the love of all good, use your mind and better reason. They're obviously not ready to go into that direction, and they're waving big red flags to stop... so please don't ignore them or let someone make the decision for you. go with what you feel is your better judgment, because you're the only person in this world who will have to live with the consequences
ok, if you feel you need more advice, ask your mom or a school counselor. or come back here on yahoo! answers. please don't get advice from friends right now... most are just as confused as you are!
2007-03-13 12:00:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, this is bad. Your boyfriend shouldn't be pressuring you to do this. It's not easy for the guy like it's not easy for the girl. he has urges and need but it his obligation as your boyfriend to respect your choices. I know you don't want to hear this but this relationship is no good and you should get out of it. Before anything you need to have a serious talk with him. Restate all of your thoughts and why you don't want to do it and try to make him understand. If he doesn't uinderstand then you are going to have to brake up b/c he will either cheat or keep pressuring you until you do something you will regret.
I am sorry you have to go through this. it's a really bad situation, but he should understand. If he doesn't the next one will. Don't give in OK!
2007-03-13 11:26:30 · answer #4 · answered by leidy101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun do what you feel is right im 18 and my bf is 18 and i was pressuring my bf to have kids all it did was push each other away then we talked about having kids and marriage and still at age 18 im pregnant we are both so happy. so you two should at least wait till your 18 because you really cant do anything at age 18. and are you sure that he is the one? dont do something that you will regret for the rest of your life FINISH SCHOOL FIRST without graduating you wont be able to get a desent job there for it will be hard to afford a kid.
2007-03-13 11:32:52 · answer #5 · answered by Sheri M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, Dont let him pressur you in to doing something that you will regret the rest of your life. You are way too young, He should have more respect for you, You have to tell your family about what he is trying to make you do, And just by chance you did mess up and get pregnant, He woul;d leave you, Deney the child as his, And leave you with a great big problem.To have to deal with all alone. Do the right thing, Tell him NO! and if he keeps on about it, drop him like hot pototo.
2007-03-13 11:34:58 · answer #6 · answered by mswildman2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to be thinking about sex. Let him go out and find someone who doesn't care about what happens in there future. You have too much ahead of you to slow it down for someone who just wants sex. I honor you for not giving in yet. Please don't do it. Anyone who loves and care about you will not pressure you to do anything. You body is YOURS and you have the right to say no. If you start off at a young age letting someone control you, you'll do it forever. Go on with your life and once you've succeeded in your career, let the MAN(not boy) who puts an engagement ring on your finger have that privilege. Do you know how special and important it is to wait until you're married to have sex. Your body is a precious thing and later on in life let someone who loves and care about you share that special moment with you. Trust me, you'll know when it's time. And NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO you're not ready to have a baby, you're just a baby yourself. You body isn't even finish developing. Respect yourself and tell that 18 year old you're not a piece of meat and to go buy him a magazine or a video. BE SMART!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-13 11:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not mentally ready, then you're not ready, period. Do not let him pressure you into this or anything else you are not comfortable with. I'm sure you care about him a lot, but you must respect and follow yourself. Please do not do this until you are mentally ready. Mental is way more important than physical.
2007-03-13 11:36:24 · answer #8 · answered by the anomaly23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is doing nothing but trying to tie you down and lock you up.
Run from this fool as fast as you can. Nothing good can come from him and he doesn't have your best interest at heart.
You have too many fun and great things to do yet in life, don't even think about having kids until you are married and over 28 years old. Live life first.
2007-03-13 11:24:21 · answer #9 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats your favorite thing in the world jewelry a car anything ...take your favorite item and throw it in a lake...how would you feel...your virginity is your last thing that you can give anyone that cannot be replaced...it should be treasured because you cant get it back..life is short for old people young people have along way to go...wait until you're ready to be married or better..think rationally will you marry this guy is he the marrying type..because when you have sex it can start life or end it either way you may be connected forever choose your partners wisely...so the consequences are yours ..I say wait but its your life god bless you little girl
2007-03-13 11:31:45 · answer #10 · answered by doughdzm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a very bad sign. He doesn't give a damn about you. If he did he would wait. Does he know that it would be statutory rape? A minor cannot give legal consent. As for having kids, this is not the time. Why give up your freedom and your youth for some selfish little prick? Dump him and find a better guy.
2007-03-13 11:24:15 · answer #11 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋