I felt that way when I met my husband. When we started spending time together, there was an instant feeling for me that I could talk to him about anything, that we got along so well and became best friends while being totally attracted to him. The thing that was really better about him for me was he brought out the good in me. He made me want to be a better person. He made me feel better about myself and happy with who I am.
Basically he just always knows what to say to make me happy and we could be playing monopoly or a video game and i'm perfectly content. We were together for a while but actually took some time off when I wound up pregnant.
I didn't want to force him into anything or make him think I was only keeping the baby to trap him. I knew I was in love with him, but was afraid of scaring him off. So I kind of took myself out of the picture and we stayed friends while he took time to figure out what he really wanted. He even dated, and it was the hardest thing for me in the world to deal with. But I kept my feelings to myself and we stayed friends through out that time.
I basically left it up to him to see what would happen. I didn't want him to feel pressured to be with me b/c of my son, I even tried to fall out of love with him but it didn't work. I just focused on becoming a mother and tried to tell myslef he is only 20, it's gotta be hard to have just moved out with your friend and wind up getting your girfriend of 3 months pregnant.
When my son was about 4 months old we started spending more and more time together again, not just because of our son. Now almost 9 years later, we've been married for almost 5 years, and we have 3 sons and a daughter. Our 1st son was the ring bearer at our wedding.
Yes, I knew that first weekend I spent with him that I would never find someone more suited for me. I do feel we belong together and it was meant to be. And i'll always know it wasn't just because of our son. He admires me for letting him have the time to figure out what he really wanted even though I already knew I wanted to be with him. I loved him enough to let him go, and he did come back.
2007-03-13 04:30:18
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answered by nymom 5
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I thought so. We dated for about 8 or 9 months, and then had a "sort of" break-up. We never really got closure the first time around, but we both refused to actually sit down and discuss that circumstances surrounding our "departure" from each other. Then 3 years later, a mutual friend of ours told me that my ex had asked if he ever sees me around. I figured that I could let bygones be just that, so I told the mutual friend to tell him I said "hi" and to give him my number so he could call sometimes. When my ex did call, the first thing he said was "Your birthday is next week; can I take you out to dinner?" He remembered my birthday!! When I saw him a week later, it was magic! All the wonderful giddy feelings that we had for each other came flooding back with a vengence! We got married a year later. Our 7th anniversary was in December. So, yes, I do believe in gut instincts telling me that someone is my soulmate, and I believe I have found him.
2007-03-13 04:31:26
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answered by Sherbert 3
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I've been married the second time around for 20 years. I always thought I would find my prince charming. There isn't one honey. The best way to find the person for you is finding someone who thinks and believes like you do. After about 10 years trust me, you better have something to talk about and you better hope you still like them. Marriage is give and take, and NO I don't mean I give and you take.LOL Marriage is about tolerance and being friends, look for the good and always remember what made you fall in love with this person. Nothing in life is all perfect and neither is marriage. You have to work at having a good marriage just as you do with your friends. If sex is the reason you marry, you are in for a world of hurt sooner or later. We women have been told all our lives that there is man out there made just for us, our knight in shinning armor. That's not true and I think a lot of us are darn tired of that lie. Why not be honest with your children and tell them marriage is like life,there's good and there's bad. You have to have bad in order to appreciate the good. If you love someone, work at it and act like it on a daily basis.
2007-03-13 04:30:02
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answered by Josephine 2
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Yes it is possible. I had that feeling with my first husband (he died 8 yrs ago). He was a blind date set up by a friend of mine. I refused, they said they would ditch him pick me up. Well, they didn't ditch him. Within seconds I knew I would marry him. We wed 7 mos later, had two kids and nine years of marriage until an automobile accident ended it all.
2007-03-13 04:31:43
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answered by w2kaad 3
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When I started dating my fiance, I somehow knew within 2 days that I loved him and within 4 days that we would someday get married. Next Tuesday will make it 3 years that we've been dating & we're going to get married after college.
2007-03-13 04:24:22
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answered by Happy go Lucky 4
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I really don't believe in the love at first sight thing. But you just feel a feeling you never felt before. Trust me, in your heart, you will know.
2007-03-13 04:19:55
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answered by Anonymous
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Oh yes, I was married twice, twice I thought it.
Now I look back on it as a terrible dream.
2007-03-13 04:25:18
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answered by Busy Lady 2010 7
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i felt it... and we been together over 20yrs. i met him when i was 15yrs old. he was 18...and we are still inlove
2007-03-13 04:22:01
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answered by kitttkat2001 5
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no such thing as soul mate. only bed mates
2007-03-13 04:18:04
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answered by rocky 1
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