My ex boyfriend is moving out of our apartment in a month because we broke up. We were together for about 5 years. I haven't told any of my family about it yet and I'm not sure how. They really love him as family, especially my mom. She has no idea that anything is even wrong. She just **KNOWS** we will always be together. It is her birthday this weekend and she is planning to come to our town and spend time with us and then we were all going to go to my grandparent's house together (they have never met my ex). I don't know if I should tell her that we are breaking up because I don't want to ruin her weekend, it's her birthday after all. At the same time, I don't want to introduce this guy to my grandparents while I know we are not going to be together anymore. Especially if they start asking questions about our future and stuff. I know we could go and just pretend that nothing is wrong but I feel really wierd about it. What would you do?
2007-03-13 04:07:29 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
time they will forget him, been there !!
2007-03-13 04:09:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a difficult situation. I do not envy you this coming weekend! It might be best to speak to your mom privately and let her know that things aren' t working out so she isn't blind-sided by someone else saying something. Or, you might even want to make a call and let her know before she comes-reassure her that you still want her to come but that you want her to know about the situation as well. As for the grandparents-that is a hard one. I don't think I'd even introduce him, or if you decide to, you could introduce him as a friend. Honesty is the best policy and it's a saying because it's true. Best wishes.
2007-03-13 04:11:16 · answer #2 · answered by curiositycat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I certainly would not bring the guy to Grandparents home. That would indeed be way too weird. As far as your mons birthday you could just say that he had something else to attend to that was extremely important which is why he could not attend. After your moms birthday weekend you can let her know that you are not together with him anymore. I am sorry you are hurting. God bless
2007-03-13 04:11:39 · answer #3 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just be truthful because in the end the truth will come out anyway and if you don't tell your mother now, it all would have been a farse and I am sure she wouldn't appreciate it. So, tell her the truth and be done with it. That way all parties can move on. Also, because it is the end of a romantic relationship, why can't there be a friendship instead?
2007-03-13 04:11:34 · answer #4 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come clean with your mom. Make sure you ex does not hang out with you, or even see your mom on her birthday weekend. It will be too much for her to handle. She'll probably try to talk you out of it. Just tell her the truth, make arrangements for your ex to be somewhere else that weekend, and tell your mom that you appreciate her concern but you're a big girl and you know what is best for yourself.
2007-03-13 04:10:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sooo... you think it's hard now. How about telling it after you've lied to your family?
Because that's what it is, plain and simple: You are presenting them with an image that you know is not true.
I think you're afraid of being the bearer of bad news, but there is no concealing this.
They are your family.
They are adults.
They *know* life doesn't always go the way you planned.
They will feel sorry for you - but it won't ruin anybody's day. It's just life. This is how life goes.
Tell them.
2007-03-13 04:16:08 · answer #6 · answered by mgerben 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bite the bullet and tell your family, before the birthday. It would be far worse for him to be at the party, then later everyone finds out that you two already knew you were over. And the sooner you tell them, the sooner they can deal with it before the party, and be somewhat over it by then, as much as they can. That's better than dropping the bomb on them at the party, for sure.
It will be hard - as you say they love him like family. I think you will find that they will be more concerned about your well-being, though. They are your family and they will be on your side.
2007-03-13 04:10:09 · answer #7 · answered by Steven D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest. If it were me, I would be a lot more upset knowing you had lied to me all weekend then knowing that you and your boyfriend broke up. Call her now and let her know what's going on. That way the blow will be over before her birthday rolls around.
2007-03-13 04:10:47 · answer #8 · answered by leaptad 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mother loves YOU, and she understands being young and on the road of life. whomever you pick up or ditch along the way doesn't matter, so much as your happiness. I would say, "mom, _____and I have decided to split ways for now, but I will be around for your birthday." Mothers are strong, you'd probably be able to laugh it off, and asz long as you don't seem overly concerned with it, neither will she.
2007-03-13 04:13:16 · answer #9 · answered by kikumatsu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was just your boyfriend, for crying out loud! If you were no longer happy together, and broke up, then so be it. Tell the family. They will get over him. Sooner than you think, probably. If their happiness lies in your being happy, then they will support your decision, and allow you to move on. Try it.
2007-03-13 04:12:43 · answer #10 · answered by Sherbert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell your mother. thats all i can think of. you are the one dating the guys not your mother. no matter what she is going to be sad but you cant live a lie and you know that as well as i do. dont hide the truth. there is a quote that not many have heard ,lol, that says the truth shall set you free. i know you havent heard that one before lol jk. but just tell her and wish her the happiest birthday.
2007-03-13 04:14:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋