my mum says im too young to have a boyfriend, she says im not emotionally ready and that i have too much on my plate at the minute with my as levels... is she right?
i'm 16 btw and im 17 in may...
all my mates have boyfriends and are in a relationship
2007-03-13 03:43:32 · 18 answers · asked by the nice girl 23 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my mum and dad had an arranged marriage and never had a bf or gf.
and i want a boyf coz i wanna be loved by someone other than my parents and friends i feel that i am ready to share different experiences and the lad that i want to be with thinks the same way and we both wanna stay virgins till we are married and we know we dont wanna get married. we just want to be together lol
2007-03-13 04:00:10 · update #1
Good things come late.......I heard this saying somewhere...but if its true....it could be for you....and your Mom may be right..
2007-03-13 03:48:15 · answer #1 · answered by faizanramball 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You mom or mum as you put it only wants to protect you. she is afraid that if you have a boyfriend then he will consume your time that you need for your studies, and afraid that your grades will drop, which will hamper your opportinuity at going to college and furthering your education, which is a must in todays society. Your mother only wants the best for you. Pluse if your friends or mates as you called them, well if she sees them having boyfriends that lack decent character.....then naturally she does not want you dating that type of person, I can understand that. If you can show that you are a respectable young lady, and dress and act accordingly all the time, then she will see that you could handle a boyfriend......I will tell you this.....your mother also knows that young boys want the same thing and that would be to have sex.....she knows this because as with my mother and me,and your motehr as well......this has remained the same through out all these years.....this had not changed.....and she does not want to see her little girl, and no matter how old you get....you will always be her little girl.....she does not want you to "give it up" so to speak.....your body is yours.....you can say no, and when your firends say that they are having sex and so fourth.....chances are they are just filling your head full of crap. I will leave you with this.......always respect yourself and your body.....and demad that others respect you as well.
2007-03-13 10:55:11 · answer #2 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a lot of parents that don't let their children date until they are at least 18. I guess you're not too young but parents are just concerned that being young doesn't enable you to make healthy choices when it comes to relationships. Even if you do have to wait just a few more years, what's the hurry? You have plenty of time to first find who you are and love that person and then find someone to love who you've become.
2007-03-13 10:48:22 · answer #3 · answered by frozenpancake582 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If YOU feel that you are ready or a relationship, then have one. But don't just date some just so you can say you have somebody. Some people mature faster than others though. I'm almost 18 and I feel like I'm 23. Good luck.
2007-03-13 10:47:46 · answer #4 · answered by amberlynne_2007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is probably just trying to save you from some of the pain that teenage dating brings, she most likely doesn't realize that it will be holding you back from a lot of experiences that are beneficial to teenage social development. You need to show her that you are mature enough to handle a relationship. Let her know that it is a part of normal teenage social develpment and be open to talking to her about sex (wether you plan to abstain or not) she should respect you for being mature and open to talking to her. Remember not to raise your voice even if she raises hers. If she gets upset explain to her that you understand she needs time to process what you have spoken about and leave her alone. Hopefully she's a good mom and will take your conversation for what it is. A mature daughter who is not afraid to talk to her mom about anything and will see that you are indeed ready to date :)
2007-03-13 10:51:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yo you should def start dating now, these are the years of your life were you experience stuff, these are the free years of your life were you dont have to pay the bills or worry about shelter or food, you should be making friends and boyfriends right now, experiencing things with guys, i say you do this, go to your parents and ask your parents if they had b'fs or g'fs wen they were your age, and that your 2 years from being an adult and they need to start trusting you and letting ;you grow up , they cant hold on to you forever, and if they dont let you experience life then you will fall behind,.....
2007-03-13 10:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by Will 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not too young for a boyfriend. I think your moms worried what comes with the boyfriend. Sex. When you do get in a relationship don't jump into bed with him at a drop of a hat.
2007-03-13 10:50:13 · answer #7 · answered by lisa_t197 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say 'go and have boyfriends'. Your mum probably has a problem with her little girl growing up.
But I do have to give her some credit.
You argue your case by stating your age and by saying 'all my friends have boyfriends'.
Both are no justifications to have a boyfriend.
The minute you could tell me why you should have one, I'd let you.
2007-03-13 10:54:01 · answer #8 · answered by mgerben 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you are young but not too young, I believe! Love has no bounds or limitations. 16 is a more or less a right age. Move on!!
2007-03-13 10:52:18 · answer #9 · answered by Riya 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen to your parents...they wouldn't tell you anyhing wrong. And besides you will have the rest of your life to date. Dont' rush and dont' worry about your friends.
2007-03-13 10:47:33 · answer #10 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋