When you were a teen...you saw your parents as maybe pretty cool or kinda old fashioned and imbarasing....My question is....when you look threw your kids eyes at yourself, do you see your mom or dad?
2007-03-13 03:38:28 · 5 answers · asked by steve 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No I am the total opposite of my parents. My parents treated me horribly! Not abusive but differently because I am adopted. I was ignored and left to myself to do things alone. I have 3 other siblings (parents biological kids) and they are spoiled rotten.
I have 3 kids of my own and I tell them daily how much I love them and how special they are. My parents have not once told me they love me yet growing up i would hear them tell their own kids all the time how much they love them.
From my experience I never want my kids to go through what I went through. Years of abandonment and hurt which has lead to me having severe depression and a mental disorder (borderline personality disorder)
2007-03-13 04:06:08 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For sure but you know as a parent I really appreciate now how my parents handled things. I may not have agreed with it at the time but for sure I can see where they were coming from. Today they say they were too harsh but I disagree.
I think parent nowadays are too busy and don't take the time for discipline. They don't want to fight with their kids so they don't bother at all. Parents need to show them the way or they will find someone else who will. That person could steer them the wrong way. Foundation starts at home. The world needs to remember that. Children are a gift from God and we need to do right by him.
2007-03-13 10:53:08 · answer #2 · answered by Kimberly R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In some ways I see how i'm like both of them. But the things I felt they weren't so great at, I try extra hard with for my kids. The good thing about it is to learn from what you felt they didn't do such a good job with, and make sure you do it. I don't feel my parent's tried hard enough to make sure I was confident and self-assured. They were great, but I feel like they could've made sure to push me more with certain things.
So I will make sure my children are confident, and always know i'll be there for them if they need me. Another thing is my mom only half listens to me when we're talking. It always drove me crazy, so I make sure to give my kids my undivided attention when they're speaking. I don't want them to feel like I don't really care how they feel.
2007-03-13 11:05:09 · answer #3 · answered by nymom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Much to my dismay I have become my mom. I hear myself saying things to my kids she said to me and I hated hearing. All the things mom did that seemed nuts at the time all make sense to me now!! I can't believe that when she said "just wait till you have kids-you'll understand" actually came to pass
2007-03-13 11:40:57 · answer #4 · answered by sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have become my parents. a little bit of both. just not enough of either. they were better at it than i am.
2007-03-13 12:09:31 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋