My neighbor has 2 daughters, 14 & 11. The 14 year old hasn’t talked to the 11 yr old for 6 mnths because her parents don’t allow her date, go to the movies or friends house, & are very strict. She told the 11 yr old to tell her parents to give her the freedom & not worry about her because when she was 11, she wasn’t allowed to do many things the 11 yr old can now because the second child always has more freedom than the first. The 11 yr old refuse to tell her parents to give her the freedom. She feels it is unfair because her younger sister has freedom because of her & she can’t get freedom because of her sister. She say her little sister use her for freedom & is selfish & will not talk to her sister until she do what she says. The parents know the 14 yr old hasn’t talked to her sister, but don’t know why. They are worried & want to help but can’t. Sometimes I want to tell them, but don’t because I was bought up “Don’t put mind someone’s family business unless it is life threatening.”
2007-03-13 03:24:30 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sarah,
can you talk to the 14th yo girl?
That would be awesome.
She is totally using her sister's behavior to justify her lack of maturity.
Its easy to play the victim at that age.
I am quite sure (for all I read), she (the 14th) is crying for some advice. As the 11h is bothered about this whole situation.
Afterall, who on earth has maturity having only 11 and 14 years old?
Hugs and very good luck!
V.
2007-03-13 04:35:55 · answer #1 · answered by Valentinna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even with the best of intentions sometimes speaking up can all blow up in your face.Neither of these girls are in any danger so I dont think you need to get involved.
The parents clearly dont make much effort to communicate with these girls as they would have identified the problem by now if they did.
I think the 14 year old is not helping her own case here.Maybe if she behaved slightly better toward her sister and parents they might consider her mature enough to date.Whilst she basically punishing her sister for her parents behaviour she simply proving she still has a lot of growing up to do.
I would keep an open door policy to support any of them when they chose to come to you but other than that dont get more involoved.
2007-03-17 06:21:59 · answer #2 · answered by bungle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 14 year old needs to talk to the parents herself. She sounds too young to date, but it's perfectly normal to want to go visit friends and go to the movies in a group. She also needs to be allowed to do things away from her little sister.
2007-03-13 12:05:56 · answer #3 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell them. But I would tell the 14 year old if she wants more freedom maybe she should be grown up enough to talk to her parents herself. It is not her sisters prob to begin with.
2007-03-13 10:29:00 · answer #4 · answered by kingsgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. Sorry, but unless it is a Life Threatening situation, it is none of your business.
2007-03-13 10:31:50 · answer #5 · answered by That 70's girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not tell them unless they ask for your opinion and advice. Then I would be up front with them.
2007-03-13 10:30:54 · answer #6 · answered by Ritata 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋