I have been with this girl for 2 years and i found out a month ago she cheated on me and when i confronted her she was a wreck and had been sence she had sex with this man. She has started to go to church more and asking for god to forgive her and asking me to. She says it was the worst mistake of her life and she truly loves me and dosent want to lose me. I didnt know if i could trust her and she has commited to me and wants to be with me. I dont think i could ever trust her but should i give it a chance and see if we could work this out?
2007-03-13 03:22:23 · 13 answers · asked by hl2cjm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you can't ever trust her then the relationship will not survive. Trust is what you need in a relationship. So I would say just end it.
2007-03-13 03:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by kingsgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,well most times when it comes to cheating it really pisses me off, now mind you if this was my situation I'm not the type to take/keep a cheater not now, not ever.
Now with your situation ya know I mean the girl is trying and she is going to church alot more and she really would like you to forgive her. But the trust is just gone from your end I mean you may still have a little but then when your not with her your heart and mind must just race wondering if something is going on or where she's at whatever, now see that's why I wouldn't put myself through it, if someone loves you and they are with you then that's just it and if they feel they want to be with another and I don't care if it's for an hour have the respect enough to say something rather than go and hurt the person and just expect to go on with the relationship like nothing happen PLEASE! dam I'm sorry, things like this just piss me off.
Okay now you love the girl she loves you otherwise she wouldn't want your forgiveness so badly and she doesn't want to lose you ( she should of thought about that before she did it) but anyway people make mistakes and some may even learn from their mistakes so you know maybe go ahead and see where it goes but don't be surprised if it happens again okay, protect your heart.
Well I hope YOU all the best, take care.
2007-03-13 11:08:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it really changes how you feel about a person after they have cheated. You have known her for 2 years so you probably know a lot about what kind of person she is. Does she have a tendancy to lie about other things besides cheating? If she does, she may not be able to stop. If she doesn't, it could have been just a bad mistake (we all make them). If you sense a pattern of her lying to you... you maybe definitely want to rethink this relationship. I like to go by the saying "twice a cheater, always a cheater" I think we are all allowed one mistake, but if we make it again it shows a lack of concern for the other person. Remember, she was willing to risk your relationship over some other guy! My answer is, I think you should give her another chance but do not forget about this incident. If it ever happens again- break up. You can get over it once, but not twice.
2007-03-13 10:32:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch....I know your pain as I have been cheated on as well. From experience, I would say that you need to let her go. It happened once, so that leaves it open to happen again. I had a girl say the same things to me and all that jazz, but about a year later, it happened again. I didn't trust her, but I let my feelings take over and that was a mistake. It will hurt for a while, but you will be better off in the end knowing that you will not be cheated on again by that girl! I am sorry to be the bearer of bad news!
2007-03-13 10:28:28 · answer #4 · answered by audioman61 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a different answer for everyone. It happened to me once in the past, and I didn't hesitate.... I left her. Never looked back and it was the best decision I made.
The way I look at it, if they cheat once, they'll do it again. Doesn't matter what they say.... Actions are louder than words.
Besides, there are so many girls out there, why limit yourself to someone who would do this to you?
2007-03-13 10:28:59 · answer #5 · answered by Michael C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy for everybody to tell you what they think.....like I would say No don't give her a second chance....if she loved you she would'nt of cheated in the 1st place.....but you have to follow what's in your heart and hopefully it's the right choice and if not learn from your mistakes and move on...Good Luck
2007-03-13 10:32:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My instinct says end the relationship, but you should go sleep with another woman first. Then tell her about it. See how she feels, and if she would forgive you. If it ends, then it's the same result, except now you know that she understands how it feels.
2007-03-13 10:29:06 · answer #7 · answered by Clint A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That should be your own decision you should decide for your life and not let the people chose for you, after all no body knows your self and your situation better than you, don't you think?
2007-03-13 10:29:29 · answer #8 · answered by rgewrg w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every body deserves a second chance....
would you want to be given one if ou had made a mistake on a drunken night?
2007-03-13 10:29:20 · answer #9 · answered by blockofstone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any respect for yourself at all??? no you do not still stay with her.. she will cheat again and it will only lower you more...
2007-03-13 10:30:44 · answer #10 · answered by I Heart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋