my two daughter dont talk to each other. 24 and 17 years-old. since earlier age they never had good reations . the older jealous at the young and young was suffering her abuse. we tried to settle things together told them how important this relations are, but it looks like they are afraid of taking the first step. cause the other may reject her.
2007-03-13 03:19:54 · 8 answers · asked by limeline 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
your oldest daughter has unresolved issues of jealousy. try family counseling or let your pastor counsel the family. tell both of your girls how important it is to you that they work things out. make sure they both understand you love them equally.
2007-03-13 03:24:16 · answer #1 · answered by misse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two daughters like this. 18 and 14. While the oldest lived at home, they fought ALL the time. There were times they could be good friends but it lasted about 10 minutes. My oldest caused so much drama and my youngest could not cope with all of it. I tried explaining to the oldest that if she continued on this course the youngest one would resent her and not have a real relationship with her. The oldest said she did not care. Now that the oldest has moved out and calls once a week to chat with me, the youngest says I am wasting my time. When the oldest calls the youngest, the youngest hardly says two words. I hope they will be closer as they get older. I love them both and have told them both that. I will not choose and I will not get in the middle of this. It is something they have to work. If I got involved it would only make the matter worse and I would be caught in the middle.
2007-03-15 16:39:02 · answer #2 · answered by cytopia1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that you are having this problem with your daughters. perhaps you can have a family meeting and discuss these issues in the open. no lecturing but actual listening between all parties. also consider going to family therapy as your daughters may be playing out larger seeded issues. in the end though at least one of your daughters is an adult (and the other almost is) and they will have to bear the responsibility for shaping the type of relationship that they want to have with each other. i know that it must be tough watching it play out but be as supportive as you can but do not feel the need to make the relationship work for them. they will have to come to it on their own.
2007-03-13 10:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by melee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about it too much, because it's pretty normal. But if you really want to push it you should sit them down together and talk to them about their relationship. Let them know that it's important for them to know that they can at least turn to each other for comfort or help when needed. Stress the fact that you won't be around forever, so then what would they do?
2007-03-13 10:29:13 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not uncommon given their age difference. As they both become adults and have independent lives (especially after they have children), they will be more open to a relationship. Family becomes more important once you have your own.
It is hard now. If you push a relationship, they will only move farther apart. Let them come to terms on their own.
2007-03-13 10:28:26 · answer #5 · answered by Ritata 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is really nothing you can do b/c eventually they will need each other and start their relationship at that point but one thing you can do is pray about it b/c I have two sisters and believe me sister relationships are the strongest.Good Luck!!!
2007-03-13 10:25:03 · answer #6 · answered by Cherri09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing you can do man
they will have to come to the realization that they must talk sooner or later
2007-03-13 10:22:52 · answer #7 · answered by links305 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think sisters are like that, don't worry about it
2007-03-13 10:23:20 · answer #8 · answered by Seth R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋