but I was drinking and did the stupid thing...I slept with him. He hasnt called, but he told a mutual friend (the girl who set us up) to make plans for next wknd. Im not sure what to think. was I a one night stand....or is he just one of those guys who "forget" how to use a phone? I called him the next day..."I was just about to call you" he says. then, after maybe a five minute conversation he lets me go. I dont want to be the one to call him again. guess what Im asking is....1 night stand or typical guy?
2007-03-13 03:18:27 · 18 answers · asked by randella_24 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this was the first date Ive been on in over 5 years. I recently separated from my husband, and entered the "dating scene" again
2007-03-13 03:30:20 · update #1
Time will tell if it was a one night stand. Move on, if he calls you then great, otherwise he is not worth your time. Since being in a serious relationship maybe you just need to have fun for a while
2007-03-13 03:42:55 · answer #1 · answered by Peter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps 'being drunk' and sleeping with him first date weren't probably the best things to do if you really like this guy.
I think guys like a one night stand but don't take the girl that seriously afterwards (with maybe some exceptions).
I would back off, don't ring again (it may seem a bit desperate), and see if you are given another chance. If you do, then perhaps take things a little slower and actually get to know him first. Let him know there is more to you than getting drunk and a quick lay.
If he doesn't seem interested in getting together again then I would just let it go, and perhaps try not to make the same mistake next time.
2007-03-13 10:27:01 · answer #2 · answered by Peta G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may have been a one night stand. I would come out and ask him if that is all you really were. Tell him you had fun on the date but maybe you went a bit too far. After that if he still doesnt call you move on. Next time make him wait longer before you sleep with him. I think maybe you just learned a lesson in life.
2007-03-13 10:23:04 · answer #3 · answered by Devdude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say its a little bit of both. Was it your first date with him? When a women has sex with a guy so early in a relationship the respect factor usually goes right out the window. After all, your giving him what he wants and men will lose interest after that. His being short with you on the phone is a clue to this. Don't call him again. If he won't call you, then just chalk this one up to experience and move on.
2007-03-13 10:24:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a woman's point of view, it could be both. Call him and ask him, what if anything the event meant to him. Tell him you want to be clear where you stand and do not want to wait until you two "happen" upon each other to find out.
Some guys feel that if a lady is sexual with them within the first few dates, they will be with anyone else as openly.
Remember, to us ladies, it's "making love" to them it's "a conquest," in some cases.
Define for youself where you stand and go with it.
I chose celibacy and I LOVE it. I have met guys who are also celibate and it makes getting to know people easy as sex is not the focus.
2007-03-13 10:34:28 · answer #5 · answered by Jacqueline J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For most guys... a beautiful woman who plays hard to get is definetly worth our time and effort. Someone who offers sex on the first date is seen as too easy and not worth a relationship (im sure thats not your case! but most guys think like this). You are worth too much, and you dont want to be calling someone who took advantage of you being drunk. Just, for the future, dont give too much on the first date, specially when the guy interested you.
2007-03-13 10:26:46 · answer #6 · answered by Javier B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is sounds to me like he did lose respect for u. and u are only to blame for that. when dating and actually wnating a relationship.
1. do not drink toomuch
2. do not sleep with him on first date
3.do not make out too much. a good kiss at the end of the nite will do.
seriously dont feel bad i mean everybody makes mistakes, just try not no do it again. if u really like him talk to him tell that u made a stupid mistake that u rae usually not like that and u like him and would like to get to know him more. good luck!!!
2007-03-13 10:29:14 · answer #7 · answered by Blondie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi
I would give it a few more days to see what is up exactly with him . The best approach is to ask him why the cold shoulder .
Sadly , if he does not call you then you will know he was only using you .
Good Luck
C
2007-03-13 10:28:31 · answer #8 · answered by Constance M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but it looks like he lost a bit of respect for you. It's not uncommon when a woman sleeps with a guy on the first date.
You can either talk to him about what happened, or you can move on. It just depends on how important having a relationship with this person is to you.
2007-03-13 10:22:32 · answer #9 · answered by Average Joe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You won't know till you get to see him again and see how the two of you connect. If you enjoyed his company then maybe hang out and have fun. Take the pressure off by just riding the wave of life and seeing where it takes you. But you set your own boundaries, no one else.
2007-03-13 10:23:34 · answer #10 · answered by brotherman2112 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋