Have you ever felt like you needed counseling for your counseling?

Question

My counselor has really upset me. She was like really nice and then all of a sudden changed towards me and was really cold. Its really affected me and i just wanted to know if anyone else has been in a situation where they felt the counseling was actually creating more problems for them? i mean, you start to count on your counselor perhaps too much, and then any odd behavour from them really gets to you? Know what i mean?

Answer 1

I think you should ask her why she changed towards you. I had a counselor who once said that I might leave the session mad at her. She also made a point to say that I could tell her if she said something that made me mad. I didn't. I let it slide and slide til my insurance ran out (I aged out) and I found someone cheaper. Looking back, I think she might have made me mad to see what I'd do or to get some kind of reaction from me. I still don't like that idea, but ... If you liked her before, maybe you'll like her again if you ask rather than run. And it takes time to build a new relationship. Time maybe you don't want to spend?
Good luck with it all...

Answer 2

I know exactly what you mean.......if it is not helping you then you need to change counselors..I went to one once that all but convinced me I was beyond help and brought up all this shi* that had nothing to do with me.......nothing....remember you are the one paying her and if she can mess you up a bit it keeps you coming....you are like money in the bank.

I used to work for a major health ins.co and the abuse of the system by mental health care providers is ridiculous.....I know this does not apply to some.....but it does to many. I have had friends that after like 20 years of going were no better off than when they started!!!!

everybody has bad days too, maybe this was one for her...maybe it would help if you talked to her about what her change towards you means to you, only you know how truely important she is in your life and if she can help you. JMO hope it helps.....

Answer 3

A lot of counselors need counseling themselves. This doesn't make them bad counselors - it just means that they're like everyone else. Try not to take her behavior personally, but if you find you can't help it maybe you should find a new counselor.

Answer 4

Hi there dark girl remember me you helped me with my question where i said i think i like my counsellor? I know exactly how you feel, I was going well with her for weeks and the last session she seemed a little colder towards me and told me our sessions will be every fortnight not every week and then she'll refer me to someone else. I didn't realize at the time but it made me feel really angry ,am so dependant on her, she makes me feel good, and i kind of love her in some kind of way, attracted to her but just like the way she makes me feel but now i'm lost and sad/ lonely. I even cried myself to sleep a few afternoons which is embarrasing cause im 23 years old man.Although i ran out of my opiate medication. I left 2 emails and rang the counsellors office and left a message but she still hasn't called back, so i suppose i wasn't that special after all, just another client to deal with. I cant contact you cause you don't allow email but you can contact me if ya like [e-mail] would like to have a chat to you, if that's o.k. but dont have to.

Answer 5

True sometimes we just have the wrong person for us, you should never feel bad after a session, if it continues its time to look for another.

Answer 6

If you feel like that about your consellor, then change her. She should not be upsetting you in any way. You may cry during sessions, this may be desireable, but you should not feel bad afterwards.

Answer 7

Try www.hayhouseradio.com

Answer 8

I think my counsler needs counsling..