During my year long relationship with Scott I cheated on him with my ex, Pete, who I never stoped talking to. I really loved Scott and am truely sorry for what I did. We broke up about 10 months ago and during those months Scott would call me after going out drinking and tell me that he loves me and misses me, but the next day tells me that he doesn't want to be back with me "right now".
It's been this constant rollercoaster for the last 10 months, telling me he wants to see me than during the week asks if I have a new boyfriend. He lives with his grandmother who told him that if he ever got back with me she would kick him out of the house and he told me that if he lived on his own things would probably be different.
I recently told Scott that i can't be freinds with him anymore. I still love him and want to be with him and it's just to hard to just be "friends".
Did I do the right thing or did I just ruin our chances more of getting back together?
2007-03-13 03:06:25 · 14 answers · asked by krissib143 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if his family doesn't support your relationship then it is probably best to go separate ways. down the line he may move out and call you but it has been my experience that friendships do not work out with an ex especially when there are still feelings there.
2007-03-13 03:10:34 · answer #1 · answered by misse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you resolved whatever issues you had with Scott that made you cheat on him? Without you resolving them or getting over them you’re going to continue to cheat on him. If you honestly really loved Scott you wouldn’t have cheated on him with Pete. Are you really truly sorry for what you did because that’s how you feel or because you want to get back with Scott and he’s not gotten over you cheating on him? Please understand him calling you while he’s got alcohol in his system, anything that he said to you was the alcohol talking not him. People that are drunk say but when they become sober they will have their really feelings back. He doesn’t want to be back with you because of your cheating ways; it has nothing to do with his grandmother or his family. That is what you must realize. The rollercoaster that you’ve been on is because by your own admission you’ve cheated. That’s your own fault. He’s asking if you have a new boyfriend because he knows your cheating ways. He’s probably trying to see if you’ve changed your ways. His grandmother is aware of what you did and therefore to keep him from making the same mistake all over again she’s letting him know she’s not dealing with it, you or him and therefore he’s got to go if he deals with you. You honestly can’t blame her. She’s looking out for his best interest. She probably had to pick up and mend his broken heart after he found out that you cheated on him and had been cheating on him. You say that you can’t be his friend because you love him but you really don’t. You may care for him but you don’t love him. If you did you wouldn’t have continued to cheat on him. You wouldn’t have cheated on him the first time but definitely wouldn’t have continued to cheat. He may not realize it but you actually did him a favor. You walking away from him and telling him that you can’t just be a friend to him. However that is a joke considering you cheated on him in the first place, he shouldn’t want to be bothered with you at all. Yes you did the right thing and you should stick to it. Let him be happy and let him move on. He deserves happiness with someone that will not hurt him and cheat on him over and over.
2007-03-13 11:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it's not good to be friends with your ex if your in a relationship. Scott acts the way he acts because you severly hurt him, if you want him tell him you love him and you cant be just friends because you want more. and i hope you kicked the ex you cheated with to the kirb. if you want to get back with scott you have some serious trust issues to make up for.
2007-03-13 10:18:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how serious the relationship was but if it is hurting you to continue seeing her and not being ble to have the old relationship back then I think you should let it go. If you see her say hi but dontcall her to talk and remenice of your past relationship because it is just causing you more greif than you need.
2007-03-13 10:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by krizdyz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if you truly loved him you would have never cheated in the first place. You have got things pretty messed up. I would try starting over with a clean slate and a new guy. This one will never trust you again.
2007-03-13 10:13:43 · answer #5 · answered by green eyed lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you ruined your chances when you cheated on Scott (remember, you said you truly love him) with Pete who is your ex. Sometimes we must reap what we sew.
2007-03-13 10:12:52 · answer #6 · answered by sunset 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's meant to be than it will be. Don't stress over it. Right now just concentrate on you! He needs to concentrate on himself and figuring out what he wants. Things will work out for the best either way!
2007-03-13 10:12:12 · answer #7 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U did the right thing some ex u cant be friends he is one of those .
2007-03-13 10:09:17 · answer #8 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you cannot be. Anytime you are in a close relationship, you will have feelings.
The real question you need to ask yourself is which one is the best for you?
2007-03-13 10:13:04 · answer #9 · answered by javarick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your ex for a reason. It doesn't seem like a friendship will be able to work for you guys.
2007-03-13 10:10:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋