I am getting married in July, and am finding that my Guest List is growing daily. We are working with a very small budget, and would like to invite everyone that has expressed an interest in attending, but that would be near impossible. The ceremony and reception are at the same venue. How do we decide who gets invited, and who does not? Also, how do we "make it up" to those that didn't "make the cut"? ANY suggestions would be greatly appreciated! Thanks.
2007-03-13 02:52:47 · 8 answers · asked by soon2bmrs 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
just make a list of any family that would need to be invited, then if you have any left over spots available start adding friends to the list. if you cant, then people should understand that weddings are expensive. whoever you invite to the ceremony, needs to be invited to the reception as well. otherwise thats tacky to say ok you and you can come to the reception, but you over there cant. you dont have to make anything up to people you didnt invite. or if you feel bad about it, have a bbq or something at a later date for the ones the ones that didnt come.
2007-03-13 03:03:38 · answer #1 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi.
I have the same problem. My fiance is a bar manager at a ski resort and he knows like 1000's of people. This is what we are doing. We are inviting 200 of the closest people to us (family and close family friends) to the ceremony and dinner. Granted 150 or half will show. Then I am sending out reception cards to at least 200 people. They will filter in and out all night. We have told people that they will be getting their invites to the reception and they are fine with that. We are on a tight budget as well, so we figured this would be the best way. I have a huge step family of 100 so I will be making up most of the ceremony, but the reception is where we were having a hard time. My list keeps growing as well. I keep adding them to the reception list. Also, we are going to put an ad in the paper (because I am sure we are forgetting those people we have only talked to 2 times or something and would be very upset) and then just inviting the public that knows us that we may forget to feel free to stop in. So I am also doing the invites as well. So I am going to take them to Kinkos and have them mass produced. It will be easier on my computer and that way, they will be cut and printed. Hope this is helping. Oh yeah, my ceremony, rehearsal dinner, reception and next morning brunch are at the same venue as well. So everyone knows what is going on. Relax, it will work itself out. No one is not just going to come because they can't come to the ceremony, they would rather come to the reception! Party on!
2007-03-13 03:03:29 · answer #2 · answered by Peek A Boo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if its a small wedding then just invite family and close friends or only the friends that are in the wedding. Just explain to everyone that you had a budget and only a certain amount of people could be invited. Have a party or BBQ after the wedding in the new place as an "im sorry" party. But dont tell them that is what it is.
I dont think everyone is going to be upset with you because you are on a budget. We are planning now too and the first people to get taken off the list are my friends. They all understand that and accept it.
I hope that helps. Congrats!
2007-03-13 03:30:59 · answer #3 · answered by fireworksncastles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the size of your family. If it is a large family go as far as the aunts and uncles, then dance cards for the cousins. Your closest friends are included in the big ticket. Co workers are a dance card on the bulletin board. Dance cards are the invite to be invited but not required to RSVP and is only to the evening or later part of the reception.
Make a list of who means the most to you and your future spouse and the ones that mean the most get the big ticket. Dance cards for the rest. It's your day and it will go by soooo fast and all the headaches and pondering & planning you endure before are just little stuff.
I am going thru this now with our son who is getting married in Sept. She doesn't think I should have any say in the guest list. But bring my wallet! I can pay for her large family and friends, but my closest friends and some of my son's friends will not be invited because she is so dominating and doesn't "know" them. Selfish!
When I got married the 1st time I gave 20 invites to his mother and 20 invites to my mom. That's it! Then they got 25 dance cards each. Invite who they want...when they are gone they are gone(and stick to your guns there!)
Best wishes to you & yours!
2007-03-13 03:12:04 · answer #4 · answered by All 4 JR 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We recently had two weddings with same problem. To allow the kids the number of invites we thought they should have we limited our list to family and very close friends. We wanted them to have all the friends they wanted. You also don't need to invite family that is distant. You have to cut it off somewhere. You don't necessarily have to invite those who "Expressed" an interest. Invite only those who you are close to.
2007-03-13 10:04:54 · answer #5 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is also have you spoken to this person in the past 12-18 months and how much meaning do they hold in your life, past and future? Do piles. YES, maybe and not sure.
If you can't do it all ax the not sure people.
Get a new copy of Martha Stewart it has guest list ideas.
(generally).
2007-03-13 03:03:18 · answer #6 · answered by kelly e 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont invite someone you see one time a year that is not family also limmit it to close friends an family an not an aqaintance also to make it up are you looking for gifts???? but you can have a few dinner partys at your home an invite them an show wedding videos if they are up for it or pictures or opt to not at all
2007-03-13 03:01:39 · answer #7 · answered by rodeogirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First rule who would you miss if they were not there. Start with that and move on
2007-03-13 02:56:04 · answer #8 · answered by kingsgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋