i adopted out my son when he was 2 hes now 21 hes living in plymouth but i dont know were the social work dept are helping but it seems to be taking too long i just dont know what to do
can anyone please tell me how i can find him
2007-03-13 02:52:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if i put up ap a poster do think that would scare him
2007-03-13 06:37:47 · update #1
if i put up ap a poster do think that would scare him
2007-03-13 06:37:55 · update #2
Yes get in touch with the salvation army as they found my relative pretty quick. I think it cost £15.00 which was about 5 years ago so it may be a little more. They send a form and you fill in the details of which you know and they do the rest. Easy and they contact you then with any info about his whereabouts.
Good luck!
2007-03-13 02:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by tinkerbell 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I certainly think you should leave well alone - you have to draw a line under this the sooner the better. If you put posters up I think that is a cruel way to find anyone in these circumstances. Perhaps and possibility is big that he has not been told and has no recollection of his first two years. You could open up a whole can of worms and destroy what his adoptive parents have led him to believe. Whatever your circumstances were they have now been taken over and dealt with by his new parents and the boy. Pyscholigal damage is to dangerous to mess with and could happen if your instistance of finding him continues a risk definately not worth taking.
2007-03-14 01:04:37 · answer #2 · answered by deep in thought 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he's of legal age and doesn't want to be in touch with you, I'm not sure you'll be having much luck. Why did you lose touch in the first place? Sounds like you're not telling the whole story.
2007-03-13 09:56:38 · answer #3 · answered by ~♥~mama-to-be~♥~ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you know his last name after he got adopted, you could try the phone book for that city. There should be an online version of it. Thats all I can say. Hope I helped. Good luck.
2007-03-13 09:57:43 · answer #4 · answered by ElizabethKay™ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Firstly, it's important to know whether your son is actually aware that he was adopted - do you know if his adopted parents would have told him?
You could also post messages on the internet, and put flyers up around Devon - in hospitals, police stations, towns, etc. People who see it may know him and contact you.
Some resources/websites that you may find helpful:
www.devonline.gov.uk
www.ancestory.co.uk
www.ukbirth-adoptionregister.com
www.lookupuk.com
Best of luck to you
2007-03-13 13:32:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a very hard situation.. Many times youg adults feel that they want to know more about themselves... Although he loves you as much as any other mother he still wants to know his biological mother and why did she give him up... You need to give you son some time to think all of this over. He will always love you but maybe he needs to know who he is and were he came from...
2007-03-13 17:25:32 · answer #6 · answered by jimminkj 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont know how desperate you are, but you could try TV chat shows they seem to find people quickly . Good Luck
2007-03-13 10:02:13 · answer #7 · answered by RACHEL B 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to go to Plymouth and find him yourself.
Put his name all over the web, someone will know him.
2007-03-13 09:57:16 · answer #8 · answered by abluebobcat 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Have you tried the Salvation Army - i've heard that they are very good in these situations.
2007-03-13 10:30:32 · answer #9 · answered by luz2loz 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
there are hundreds of sites that can help you. we are in the information age.
just keep googling until you get what you want!
2007-03-13 19:25:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋