I am confused about what my ex girlfriend wants! She is giving mixed signals!?

Question

I am confused about my ex girlfriend. She ended our relationship 6 wks ago as "her feeling had changed". We were together for 9 mths. At the end of our relationship she admitted she was suffering from clinical depression. She has had it seriously in the past. She also suffers from Chronic Fatigue syndrome. I persuaded her to go to her Dr, he prescribed prozac & counselling. 1 wk later she said she wasn't depressed, didn't need counselling, and our relationship was the cause of her unhapiness.

I gave her some space. She contacted me. We met up for a drink last week. Everything went well, we laughed a lot and had a nice time and said we would see each other again soon. We didn't talk about depression or us.

I rang her a few days later to see how she was & she was totally dismissive of me. I suggested we catch up again soon & she said she didn't have time. I didn't react to this and the conversation ended

I do want see if we try to make things work but know it is complicated??

Answer 1

My recommendation is to drop it. This girl doesn't know what she wants from the relationship, and if anything, she needs to persue it, not you. Move on.

Answer 2

You should move on she has either got a screw lose or she's got another victim in hers sights.I think she was at a loose end last week and also felt guilty for dumping you.Maybe she doesn't wanna do a long term relationship so decided to tell you that shes depressed she may have been in the past and using this an excuse.I think she did you a huge favour now you can set your sights on finding the right girl out there.Obviously she isn't interested maybe if you found someone else she be likely to come crawling as you will have moved on then she'll have a reason to be depressed.Give her the cold shoulder and move on there's nowt like a fresh start.Don't ring her and when she rings you coz she will when shes bored or something tell her your busy she'll get the MSG loud and clear.GOOD LUCK. just because shes got depression dont let her treat you like ****.Dont be nobodys fool.

Answer 3

Hi

It sounds to me that she needs her space . My ex is also suffering from depression and this was the cause of us breaking up . I know you may love her , but with time and patience I am sure she will be back to her old self .

As far as calling I would let her call me that way you will not feel like she is rejecting you if you do the calling to her . Talk to her about why she is depressed and how it relates to the relationship . These feelings do not just come out of nowhere these are feelings that she is carrying deep within her and it should be addressed .

GOOD LUCK
C

Answer 4

Yeah, let's make something clear here. What she wants?

Don't let her drive the problem. you come off as needy.

She might be bipolar. It's not complicated, it is over.

I once had this conversation a long time ago, where I told asked an older male friend of mine, asking for advice. I knew he was quite the stud, and I wasn't.

I told him,
"This relationship with this girl I know is like this old motorcycle, it keep going, then stopping then starting, then i fix it here, put in some parts there, it's running again. What is my next move?

He said okay, man, all these toools you got for fixing it up, it's a waste of time. Pretend you got this motorcycle.

"yeah."

"Pretend it got hit by a semi."

"yeah."

The lights went on, and I stopped trying to chase this girl, flying to another city to date her, when she felt the mood.

After that, I started driving the problem.

My direct advise to you Sir is, "Call her up, and tell her that's you are giving up on her."

Likely she won't care.

Then move on.

"...and our relationship was the cause of her unhapiness."

Right there was your clue. I personally would have said, "Right, Cheerio, then, off we go. Kiss kiss, Vaya con dios, I'll find someone else then."

Because with those words, she's punking you out.

Seriously.

Good luck.

Answer 5

Your ex really has a problem and it is obvious the counselling did little to help. I think she needs a lot of help right now especially from the people she loves.If you really love her stand by her. The most important thing now is to help her get better completely. Building or restoring your relationship should not be a priority for now. Love is more than words or feelings it must be expressed in action.

Answer 6

Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/JAss7

Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.

The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.

Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.

Answer 7

Forget her and move on. The last thing you need is to deal with a clinically depressed girlfriend. Take it from me - i tried and it didn't work out. It just ended up making things worse in the long run. Get out while you can!!!

Answer 8

take it from someone who also suffers from depression. it is a very serious illness. alot of the time she's going to be coming through things she hasn't learnt to deal with yet. don't think that you are doing anything wrong. you probably aren't. i don't know about giving her space. when she's down, that's when she needs you most. even if it don't seem so to you. if you love her, you're also going to need to know how to deal with depression. take things as they come, and let her be her. don't say you understand, because you f**king don't. don't bullsh*t her either. she's got enough going on without her man lying to her. if you love her, and think you are strong enough, persevere. it ain't going to be easy for you. but just think about how hard it is for her. and usually when you feel she's pushing you away, stay, remind her you love her. and BE THERE for her. she'll love you more for it. an to the above answers, F**K YOU. it's nice to know that ill people are still discriminated against in this day and age. A**HOLES!

Answer 9

Do yourself a favor; DUMP THIS LADY. Don't go out on dates with her. Socialize only in common groups. This is a person that either is afraid to talk about her real self or does not know how to talk about her true feelings.

I am assuming that you have tried to talk about serious matters with this lady. If not, you are at fault; too often men talk about everything of no importance. We often fail to share our feelings, our hopes and desires. This is the largest stumbling block to women. After six months, women want men to get REAL.

The "length and color of your loves hair in not as important" as to "can you be trusted to love her if all the hair is gone". If you fall by the wayside, broke and jobless - "can you count on your partner to support you". If as a man you have not discussed these things with your lady friend; SHE is right to be depressed and stressed out over your relationship.

A "mature" man would get this out of the way. My advice to any lady who has a man that is not willing to commit to the stress of a marriage is DUMP HIM.

Answer 10

with her history i would wait to hear from her again. ask yourself do you want to get into a long term relationship with someone who will have mental issues throughout their life. she is refusing to admit she has a problem, refusing counseling. it has been my experience that these patients are not compliant with medications. i feel good so i am cured. you are never cured of mental illness. you seem like a nice guy, go out and meet some girls.