I am confused as to what to do about my ex girlfiend? Depression may be a factor.?

Question

I am confused about my ex girlfriend. She ended our relationship 6 wks ago as "her feeling had changed". We were together for 9 mths. At the end of our relationship she admitted she was suffering from clinical depression. She has had it seriously in the past. She also suffers from Chronic Fatigue syndrome. I persuaded her to go to her Dr, he prescribed prozac & counselling. 1 wk later she said she wasn't depressed, didn't need counselling, and our relationship was the cause of her unhapiness.

I gave her some space. She contacted me. We met up for a drink last week. Everything went well, we laughed a lot and had a nice time and said we would see each other again soon. We didn't talk about depression or us.

I rang her a few days later to see how she was & she was totally dismissive of me. I suggested we catch up again soon & she said she didn't have time. I didn't react to this and the conversation ended

I do want see if we try to make things work but know it is complicated??

Answer 1

Tell her you still have feelings for her and then let her come to you. If you didn't talk about your relationship last time you met up, she might be confused. Keep your chin up. If she loves you and wants to be with you, she'll contact you. Depression is not as straight forward as some people might think, it's not always a case of cheer yourself up, etc. It's very deep within. Essential for you is really try not to take it personally. Good luck.

Answer 2

As i have said before this is soooooooooooo like my position at present. Pull you and when you come push you out. Personally i dont know about you but im fed up of it...mine goes on every week!!!! So i am having a break away so I can think!!! Im beginning to realise life is too short for this kind of carry ons! And mine has been a lot longer than 9 months........so YOU take some time out and not be at her beck and call! Let us know how you do. Good luck.

Answer 3

Sounds like she may have bi-polar disorder (used to be called Manic Depression) which could account for her extreme mood swings.

I think that if you really want to be with her then you will probably have to accept that this will always be a factor in your relationship, although this is not to say that with the right medication/help, that the situation could not improve. Unfortunately, one of the main barriers to controlling this can be maintaining use of medication.

Answer 4

Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/AHfQR

Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.

The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.

Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.

Answer 5

If I were you I would leave her for a while. It sounds like she doesn't really know what she wants at the moment. I did the same thing to my ex but he kept calling me, trying to get back together etc and it just strung the whole thing out for ages. I would get on with your life and don't count on getting back with her. Give yourself a clean break and find another girl. Good luck.

Answer 6

well, hard to say, but you still might have a chance...depressed people make the worst decisions and should avoid making important decisions while feeling depressed...or maniac...it´s impossible to think clearly in these states of mind..of course I don´t know what kind of relationship you had, but if you love her, make sure to be a good friend and tell her that the doors will always be open for her..and she might reconsider...good luck

Answer 7

if she has been depressed in the past then she obviously had problems before she met you, although you may have played a part if you argued etc. don't blame yourself. if she hasnt had proper couselling for a long time then she will not be cured. to be quite honest 9 months isnt realy serious to me and if shes going to mess you around then just leave it and move on. i'm sure i wouldn't want to hang around for someone who doesn't know what they want. i'm sure you will meet mrs right but i would just let it go.

Answer 8

Sounds like the happy pills kicking in. Maybe she likes being the centre of attention and you're doing everything she wants?

You need to think hard about whether you still want her in your life.

Answer 9

your ex sounds manic depressive. it can be controlled with medication, but it sounds like she is resistant to getting the help she needs. she might also be a little schizophenric. all in all i would say unless you like drama and danger in your life, and are for some reason wanting to punish yourself for some childhood transgression, it would be better for YOU to find a nice well adjusted woman to spend your time with.

Answer 10

Let her go....Gather your self respect and move on...you do not need to be her dog boy. This will cause you nothing but heartache and pain if you continue this way. This will be difficult for you, I understand, but it will be the best thing.