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Question

My Ex and I have been broken up for 10 months and have not spoken since. The last time we talked she said she in a serious relationship and got her number changed so I couldnt call her. She called me a week ago to talk She says she still in a serious relationship but likes to see how I'm doing every now and then. I ask if she has someone new why is she still trying to contact me but dosent want to get back in a relationship with me? We broke up before and I told her I couldnt be her friend cause I love her to much. We agreed if we beak up no contact with each other. She's never kept in contact with any other of her ex boyfriends cause she said when she's threw with a guy she's threw with him, why me? We were together for 3 and half years. She said I caused her so much pain so why would she want to talk me if there is a new guy.

Answer 1

It sounds to me as though your ex is feeling is trying to make herself feel better about her breaking up with you. She’s gone through the trouble of changing her number so you can’t call her and reminding you that she has a “serious” relationship. You have to make the decision of what do you think is best for you? Do you want to continue dealing with her on a secretive level or is it time to let her go and move with you life as she’s claimed to have done? You need to ask her why is she calling you when she’s got someone in her life. Remind her of the no contact agreement, her claim of no contact with any ex-boyfriend and that she states you caused her so much pain. Then explain to her that her calling you is bothering you because you know she’s not trying to be with you. Let her know that you can’t talk to her or be her friend because of the feelings that you have for her. Then ask her not to call you from that point on. Let her know that if she does continue to call you that you will be forced to change your number like she did and you’re trying to avoid doing so because it’s not fair to others that already have your number that you really want to talk to. Tell her that you still care for her but you want all communication to come to an end. You want her to be happy and she’s find a relationship that doesn’t include you. Tell her to work on her relationship as you will do with yours. Just be firm about it but be a gentleman. Get your point across without be ignorant because more than likely that’s what she’ll be expecting. I wish you the best and you need to wish her the best.

Answer 2

that's it, you caused her too much pain for her to forget you, she missed you..hey, when you submit yourself ( masked as love) to someone,or you gave some of you to that someone, you would be marked "taken", no matter how long or how short the relationship was, the fact that you shared some special moments (like cat fights, ideas & opinions, fought over something ridiculous,pulled some "strings" always in your heart,had a tug of war, blah, blah, blah!) made you vulnerable to that mushy-good-feeling that love brings us..am i making sense to you?..look let's put it this way, she found your love was more steady than the present, she was secure when you were together,(or else she wouldnt call you now & again) you made her feel whole, that's why she always comes back to you, she sensed that you still love her (girls usually have the sixth sense,hehehe), hey! you already know this, you are only looking for someone to tell you that! SO, if you do love her still, what's keeping you? tell her where you stand and ask her what's the real score btwn her & that new one, remeber this : LOVE KNOWS NO BOUNDS! then marry her, then, keep me posted..

Answer 3

she's looking for something to make her feel better. After almost 5years together my b/f and i broke up. (it's been over two years since) we didn't really talk or keep in touch until just a few weeks ago when he called me. seems the girl he left me to be with is not all he thought she would be and he's having a hard time accepting that. I believe that him contacting me was his way of checking to see if i was in a relationship or if i encountered the same feelings. i think that's what she's doing with you. she wants to see who you're with and what you're doing in hopes that her hop to greener pastures was a good idea and not the horrible mistake that she's feeling it is.

Answer 4

Just because you guys called it quits doesn't mean she stopped caring for you. You guys had 3 1/2 years together. I would be more hurt if my partner just suddenly stopped talking to me after a break-up. If it's hurting you to talk to her, then just tell her you can't do the conversations, but you were an important part of her life, and she's having trouble letting go of that.

Answer 5

well.. when she calls, that would mean she is missing you or she misses your attention that she doesn't get from her new boyfriend or she just wants to know how u're doing.. 3 and half years isn't a short time.. it's long enough to get deep in someone's heart and not that easy to let go.. but, she's calling you doesn't mean she wants to get back together with you.. especially if you guys break up for something like 'rooting' in both of you.. something that u both won't be able to work out anymore..

Answer 6

Most likely her new boyfriend isn't providing the same kind of love/attention that you did?

Or she could just want to attempt to be friends again, if you were able to last more than 3 years you must enjoy eachother's company

Answer 7

I think she is trying to give you a signal that she still loves you even if she doesn't want to be with you it's time to find someone that will help you find happiness again.

Answer 8

she hasn't let go yet