my girl friend of 3.5 years broke up with me 3 months ago.she started to see someone else right away.now she wants to get back together with me but don't know how to end the relationship she in now..she said she doesn't want to hurt his feelings.and waiting for the right time...when he screws up again.....how can she get out of that relationship before more time passes and his feelings will be hurt.
2007-03-13 02:28:29 · 14 answers · asked by David 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My decision gonna be tell him in front of his face that she wants to break up with him - if she is brave.
Tell him secretly like write him an e-mail or a letter.
Just say what is her real feeling for him and tell her that just make sure that she's really want to break up with him. Because somehow when you just broke up with somebody and then your real feelings got out. And you feel for he/she again.
Love is really... hard to describe.
Just tell him because He'll know it just sooner or later.
2007-03-13 02:34:46 · answer #1 · answered by HÃ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it... she's choosing the path of the least resistance.
Personally I'd forget about it.
But if you want her back: Stop behaving like a puppy. Women like strong decisive men. They have no mercy for whiners who beg her to come back.
Make sure she knows that she one chance to break up, and you won't hang around patiently, sheepishly, untill she makes up her mind.
So walk away. If she follows you, you have her. If she doesn't, you never had her, and behaving like a whinging puppy will make sure you never will.
2007-03-13 09:52:47 · answer #2 · answered by mgerben 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could tell him she thought that she was ready to date and have another relationship after 3.5 years with a BF. But, now she feels she really wasn't ready to date after all, and she needs to have time to herself to get herself together.
2007-03-13 09:34:25 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Buddy...... Why would she break up with you in the first place. I really hope that she is truthful about everything. Dont you find it strange that she is going to break up with another guy and doesnt want to hurt him? she sounds too much like she doesnt know what she wants........
Anyways tell her this. If she wants to break up with him without hurting his feelings..... she can't its impossible to say, "i dont love you anymore" and then have everything be allright. Shes going to have to crush him a little bit because thats what breaking up is! She just has to tell him that things arnt working out and her feelings arnt for him.......
Be careful............. dont have sex before marrige
2007-03-13 09:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by Stupendous Man! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you wasting your time on this girl. it's obvious that she thought the grass was greener on the other side so she jumped the fence. now she wants to jump back and you're willing to let her? don't do it because she'll do it again and again until you stand up for yourself and show her that you're more than just "old faithful". If you don't you'll always be the fallback guy and she'll always be looking for greener pastures.
2007-03-13 09:37:31 · answer #5 · answered by danili 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You started out asking how can she break up with you to asking how can she break up with him before more time passes and his feelings end up hurt? Are you kidding me? His feelings are going to be hurt no matter when she does it just like yours was when she dumped you to be with him. You're allowing her to come back to you after dumping you to be with the guy that she now wants to dump to be back with you? She dumped you and dated someone else right away and she's going to do the same thing to this guy? She has a problem that she needs to deal with. You allowing her to jump in and out of your life isn't healthy for you either. You need to stand your ground and tell her that she can't come back. You need to find someone that will be with you not someone that will be with you until she gets bored with you then moves on and when she finds the new person to be not who she wants she comes back to you. You need to tell her to kick rocks and get a life. Whatever caused her to leave you the first time hasn't been resolved. She's going to continue to come and go out of your life until the one person she finds to suit her needs comes along then she's going to dump you and never look back. You need to dump her and then tell the guy that she's now dating what she's planning to do and that way the both of you can have the last laugh on her and about her. She's a joke and she's playing hurtful, childish, kiddie mind games. She's only concerned about and cares about herself and it shows from her jumping from man to man without taking a break in between. She's really going to date the both of you. What you should do is just confront him in front of her and tell him that she's breaking up with you come back to me. I'm taking her back because I feel that I can't get anyone that really deserves me and what I have to offer. Then tell him I know it hurts because she dumped me to be with you so I know your pain then walk away leaving her standing there to explain to him what just happened. I wish you luck and a very dieased free life since you're dealing with a hoe.
2007-03-13 09:43:30 · answer #6 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure she wants to break up with him or is she just saying that so she knows you will wait for her and not date anyone else.. if she loves you she will tell the other guy it is over and she made a mistake and she is going back to you because she loves you! good luck!
2007-03-13 09:38:05 · answer #7 · answered by funhouse:+} 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
David! David! Oh David! Get the hint! She is not gonna break up with him till he screws up again? LOL
2007-03-13 09:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just needs too buck & face that she wants too be w/u & not him. No matter what she does or when she does it his feelings are going too be hurt. Do it & get it over with.
2007-03-13 09:37:54 · answer #9 · answered by bdgizzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his feelings will be hurt regardless. if she truly wanted to break up with him she would just do it. if he is screwing up why does she have to wait for him to screw up again. at least he could respect her if she just told him it wasn't working out and she wanted to be friends.
2007-03-13 09:32:50 · answer #10 · answered by misse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋