Should I say this to the girl I miss? I'm trying to plan out what to say to her these words are from the heart

Question

Hey. How are you? Ever since we stopped talking, (me and her haven't talked for ten months) I had been going over everything in my head, trying to figure out what I was doing wrong. You know, I still remember what you said to me the last time we talked, the things you were mad at me about. I remember the first thing you said was that I harassed you. It's kind of funny really, that was the last thing I ever wanted to do to you but I guess I did anyway. If you said that because I called you almost every weeknight, it as only because when we were at school we'd only talk for two minutes. I never really got to talk to you when it'd be just me and you. Even when I called, someone else would always call. I was always afraid that I was doing something wrong to make you not like me. I also remember that you told me I obsessed over you. I guess I did and I'm sorry, but what boy wouldn't obsess over an amazing, wonderful, smart, talented, funny, beautiful girl like you? Especially if he didn't

lose you. It still doesn't make it right though and I'm sorry. It's just that a special girl like you is hard to find. No one else has your light brown eyes that sparkle when you're happy and fade away when you're sad. I get lost in your eyes. No other girl has your bright smile. I remember the last thing you said was I don't know you. You told me before that, when I was feeling down that you could tell something was wrong because you know me! I know I don't know everything about you, but I want to know everything about you. I really care about you you're special to me. Without you, I just had to admit that I must be really stupid. I should have understood then what you were trying to tell me, that it wasn't anything wrong with me that you didn't like, it was you just didn't share those feelings for me that I had for you.

I've found out for myself it was better when you didn't like me in that way. Now that you don't like me at all, I realize that's worse. So, for these things I've done, I'm really sorry. I was just afraid of losing you, so I did. I only want us to start over, pretend this whole thing never happened and if necessary forget that there was any mention of romantic interest between us. Maybe we could chill and hang out somewhere sometime as just friends, because I know with you I don't have a chance. I just want your friendship back, if it's ok with you.
If you think I'm clingy, needy, desperate, then that's alright with me. I can't change what you think about me, I just know for myself that's not me. I just wanted to let you know, if for the last time, how I feel about you. (end)

I don't think I should say this last part though, or how to say what I mean in the end right.

She isn't seeing anyone and I just want us to be friends at least. This is not a letter, I want to say this to her. Guys and girls what do you think? Girls, would you talk to me again if you were her (I can handle the hard truth)? Are there any revisions I should do? How do I make this shorter so I don't bore her? I just have this feeling if I try actually talking to her instead of ignoring her she might listen. We've been saying hi to each other occasionally. I have not tried to speak to her in the time of us not talking, I've ony called once then hung up out of fear a long time ago, basically I haven't tried hard at all. The ignoring thing seems like it's taking too long in terms of her coming to me, but she sneaks glances at me from a distance. and that's just not me. I guess I'm just mister nice guy. I'm going to try to talk to her normally first before telling her this, or writing her this.

This is/could be my first and last attempt to talk to her directlyI think that to ignore her would work even better if I try to talk to her and she doesn't listen. Ignoring her doesn't work if we're already not talking. It might work if she knows how I feel about her and if she still won't talk to me. So, when she sees me around not trying to talk or anything to her anymore, she'll come to me possibly but even if then I'm not trying anymore. What do I do for her birthday? She turns 17 in two weeks. I turned 17 last month.

That made sense. I changed "it's kind of funny really" to "You know it's strange,"

Yes, I have asked this more than once, but that's because not everybody sees everything there is to change. That person that said to take out a line this time that I asked it, no one else said that. Every other time I asked the question there was something different I had to change.

I didn't call her every single day, but just about. When it was about two months before we started talking, I started only calling her once a week.

Answer 1

Lose the phrase "It's kinda funny really". She obviously think there's nothing funny about it.

It's also too many words. Keep it short and to the point. The more you talk the more you seems needy, desperate, obsessed or manipulative even if you don't intend to. You'll never get all this out. Cut it in half. There's no need to review the past in detail. She knows the past. Talk about what you learned from it.

Finally, if you're really looking to be friends then for pete's sake stop swooning over her eyes and everything else. Friends don't swoon.

Frankly, this is a bad idea. You are not over her. You are still obsessed with her. You are not ready for "just friends" and this whole speech if given as written will frighten and concern her.

Answer 2

Um..I don't think you should tell her anything - since she already accused you of being obsessed with her and harassing her, it's gonna freak her out.

She has not talked to you in 10 months, I think that says it all. Someday you might get the opportunity to explain yourself, there's a right time for everything.

Rather start thinking about something else and get over it.

Answer 3

Man I feel you pain. But honestly the less you say the better. You dont want to look needy. Call her or e-mail her ask a question and let her do the talking. Good Luck

Answer 4

I would start out slow. Don't pour all of this on her at once! She'll think here he goes again, obsessing over it. Just start out with normal "friendly" comments. how is your day, things like that. Then if you two can get on speaking terms again, then let a little more out about your feelings.

Answer 5

She is right you are obsessing over her. Take a chill pill, just be normal with her forget all this other stuff that happened. You cannot force your will onto others, just be natural, if it is meant to be then it wil be.

Answer 6

Way too much info....loosen up...just tell her your sorry things didnt work out, and you still want to be friends.....thats all....no more calling daily....you look desparate and she is probably scared you will be so obseesed you stalk her......us girls dont like men to fall to our feet all the time...we like a challenge too

Answer 7

I think as long as you say what is from the heart should be good. I see that you are acknowledging your faults and saying sorry. If she doesn't take you back its not because of your lack of trying. I wish you luck.

Answer 8

it sounds stalkerish

but i would just add at the end that if the letter made it worse to just forget u wrote it, and that if what she wants is to never see u again u will do that just becuase you want to make her happy

if its what she wants, let her be

Answer 9

wow.. very touching.. really...
she's lucky to have some one like you
just send all your feelings to her and then whatever happens then it has to be OK with you.. you are wonderful, nice guy.. I'm sure that there are so many girls would just love to be with you
Good Luck

Answer 10

i think you're too good for her. you deserve somebody better. however, what you wrote was really sweet and i don't know you..but i can really see that you're a genuine person. wish you all the best xxxxx