would it be worth it to have a long distance relationship ? (quick Q)?

Question

im crazy about this girl
i love her
but she lives in the US
and i live in canada
she's about 700km away from me
so not easily seeable
but i think about her all the time
i love her (nothing in my head doubts that for a second)

would a long distance relationship be worth it ?
if you've had experiences - was it worth it ?

(i've only seen her once in my life , and it was for 4 days straight.... i couldnt get enough of her)

please and thanks for answers


ALSO
should i tell her i love her ?

Answer 1

Well, if you're crazy about her, you love her- by this I mean truely, it would be worth it by about 45% and it would not be worth it by 55% because it wouldn't really make any sense to not see the one you are madly in luv with when she is far away. Although it would be nice to email her, write and send lovely notes to her, and YES, you should tell her that you love her. I've never had any experiences but it would just be playing with your heart. I'm from Trinidad so I am just giving you advice that I've seen happened. My friend liked his guy and he lives in New York and she is just from Trinidad. She thinks it's not worth it being in love far away. It's a waste of time, but, if you sooooo love this girl, then, I'd say, Give it a try. I've really never met anyone as passionate as you. You are again AMAZING. You'll have a pretty good life later on with the girl of your dreams.

Answer 2

Im currently in a long distance relationship and I know how you feel. Ive only met her twice, but both times were amazing and we really just... clicked. I dont think we live quite as far away from eachother as you two do, its about 170 miles. I met her online.
She left for home last Sunday and ever since ive missed her like hell and its felt so wrong her not being here with me. We havnt even known eachother for that long, about 2 months. But we do love eachother.
Long distance relationships can work, but they take a lot of work. I phone, text and talk to my girlfriend a lot online. Also you have to be working towards something, there has to be an end goal... which is essentialy you being together closer. Living together or atleast near eachother is something you should be working at. Long distance relationships should only ever be a temporary thing.

Answer 3

ok, first up ... i'm sure other people will tell you this but you don't "love" this girl. you can't possibly love her, you don't know her. you think you love her, but your emotions are clouding your judgement.

what you are is "infatuated" with her, which is a very powerful emotion and often confused with the same thing.

given you've no grounding or basis for a long distance relationship i'd say don't bother, it won't work, and you'll just be opening yourself up for a lot of heartache.

simply put, long distance relationships usually don't work. this is because distance stops the relationship from functioning effectively, you can't be there for each other, can't see each other spontaneously, and can't spend quality time with each other. the relationship is doomed to failure, that's a simple fact in 9 out of 10 cases (or more like 99 out of 100).

i'm guessing you're both quite young, which means neither of you is ready (despite what your heart tells you) for a long term meaningful commitment with such a huge barrier (distance) in the way.

where long distance relationships can work is where people have an established relationship and are separated for some reason, usually for a finite period of time ... for example, one partner may take a job in another city, and the other may be expecting to join them later once they're settled, or it may only be a short term contract. if someone goes to college they usually change as a person, and the new lifestyle is more attractive than sustaining a relationship with someone who isn't around.

generally speaking, people tend to wish they had someone closer to home, for intimacy, and quality time.

700km is a fair distance, can you drive? do you have your own car? can you afford the gas? what's the best you can hope for in terms of time together? once a month? if that?

i know this isn't what you want to hear but just forget it.

she'll probably remember you fondly as a fling, but any thoughts of something more serious won't even occur to her.

if you're both really serious it can only work if one of you is prepared to move to be with the other.

on a slightly more positive note, if you can be mature about and realise it has little chance of a future you could try conducting a "friends with benefits" relationship over distance, where you're not mutually exclusive, can see other people, but may like to hook up occasionally and have some fun ... knowing that neither is responsible to the other in any way.

there are always exceptions to the rule, some who'll say this has worked for them, but in the majority of cases it just doesn't ... that's not my opinion, or conjecture, it's a simple hard fact.

let us know how you get on and what you decide.

Answer 4

I actually have blended emotions about lengthy distance relationships. I met someone on line 3 a million/2 years in the past. i got here across out six months later that he were living with a woman for exceedingly a lot 6 years, so I broke it off. It replaced into scary how straightforward is replaced into to hide his relationship from me! yet, he and that i particularly did have some thing between us. He broke up at the same time with his female friend, contacted me back and we've been chuffed at the same time for 2 years. so that you may't in any respect tell. you should bypass including your gut instincts in this one.

Answer 5

4 days doesn't equal love. I wouldn't tell her that I loved her.

I think that you can have strong feelings for someone after 4 days and maybe want to be aroudn that person more, and I think it is fair to say that. I would develop a relationship with her over the phone, e-mail, chat, and visit when you can. If it's meant to be, it will be. The distance is going to be a major set-back; but that doesn't mean that it can't work. DO YOUR BEST AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS!

Answer 6

I was in a long distance relationship for 2 years, and have currently been living with my boyfriend for 5. Take that as you will. These things can work, however they take a lot of time and effort.

Only tell you you love her if you truly do. Ask yourself if it's appropriate.

Answer 7

ok
my best friend (a guy) just got out of along distance relationship. he saw his girl every 3 months and when she wasn't there it killed him. he started failing school, and dedicating all his time to trying to talk to her. she dumped him b/c she felt bad about not having enough time for him. he entered into depression and hasn't come out yet. just yesterday he came crawling to me (im the girls friend too) and wanted to know if there was anything he could do to get her bak.

long distance is not worth it when u luv someone that much. it just kills both of u in the end. find a girl closer to home.

tell her u love her if u want, but i wouldn't recommend it. the more detached u can get from her the better. trust me, it will hurt less in the end

Answer 8

its not gonna work i've been thru a long distance relationship and she dumped me by ignoring me. but ne ways it coulda been the girl i dunno u could try and if u really love her, don't hesitate in telling her cuz thts just more time 4 her to find someone else if u tell her b4 she gets a bf it'll b on her mind as shes makin the decision besides i think they like it when ur straight out with them... worked 4 me almost everytime... neways let me know how it goes

Answer 9

It worked for me!! I am married to mine!!

He lived 8 hours away and we flew to see each other every weekend for 3 months. I finally decided to move to where he lived (to save money) and 2 weeks later we were married. We are still happily married and it is 4 years later!!!

Anything is possible!! There is a reason you met her... I strongly believe in fate! GO FOR IT!!!!!

Best of Luck!!

Answer 10

When i met my hubby he was in Canada and i was in Australia,we had an Internet and phone relationship.Now Ive been living with him in Canada for almost 7 years.
If it is meant to be distance will not stop it
And yes if you love her tell her