my ex is signing over his rights to his daughter tomorrow, its been a long complicated battle to get him visitation, but the mom wont budge, he hasnt seen his daughter in almost 4 years and the hundreds of dollars he is spending in child support a month is hard on him especially when trying to help me raise our son. its emotionally hard on him and he asked me to be a witness at the signing, i agreed but i just am not sure what kinds of things i should say or what i shouldnt say and things like that, any advice. thanks.
2007-03-13 01:22:13 · 4 answers · asked by puppy love 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
also he knows it is best for her because she has someone that she knows as dad, and he is going to adopt her, which is why they want him to sign over his rights. she is just too young to understand everything right now and her mom doesnt want to confuse her, she said she will tell her everything when she is older. i know it has to be hard though.
2007-03-13 01:27:19 · update #1
oh no you have it all wrong, he is a terrific father, if being poor and not able to afford alot of things makes him a bad father than so be it, but i have never looked down on him for not being able to afford alot of things and i help him out as much as i can, he pays so much in child support it litterally drains him, he is a great person for doing it all these years and not complaining, this was not his idea, just something he has to do. better for everyone, then he can put all his efforts into his son, and move on.
2007-03-13 01:45:27 · update #2
What a tricky situation for you to be in. I think its not what you say or don't say tomorrow but the fact that you are there with him to support his decision. Just take the lead from him, let him talk when he needs to, give him a big hug and tell him you know how hard it is for him. Its sad that he wants to be in his daughter's life but isn't being given the opportunity. Let him know that you realise how hard he's tried.
Good luck.
2007-03-13 01:29:26 · answer #1 · answered by mhm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Support and visitation are 2 different things. She is still his daughter , But if the mother is willing to let him sign off to each their own. The courts would make her let him see her if he was paying his support, and was not indangering the child.
There is not alot you can do. I would suggest you take a portion of that support he would be paying and put it in a savings account. The little girl may come looking for her daddy once she is away from her mom. Atleast she would know that her dad was still thinking about her.
There is nothing you can do or say to make it go smoother.
2007-03-13 08:29:32 · answer #2 · answered by tammer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are there for one thing, to be a witness. You are not required to do anything or even help at all. Being the child of divorced parents I would say the best thing you can do is try to keep his mind off the divorce and his child. Take him out and stuff and when he gets depressed, be a good friend, slap him over the head and tell him that sitting their andd pouting wont do anything. Dont talk about it, be about it.
2007-03-13 08:26:52 · answer #3 · answered by Dagnome 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just be there for your husband but i wouldn't say anything when it comes to the little girl and the mother, let them all deal with it as it is their problem not yours.
2007-03-13 08:30:00 · answer #4 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋