Is my boyfriend gay or am I the luckiest girl?

Question

So I've been official with the guys for one month, we were dating for about 2 weeks before he asked me out.There's just a list of things I'm kind of weird about;
(1) He hasn't tried to get me into bed at all, but he does get very hard when we make out and fool around
(2) Our first date, he went with me and my gay friend to a gay bar & said he liked it there & offered to go back
(3) He told me that everyone in high school accused him of being gay
(4) He said he cries during animal cruely commercials
(5) When he tells me some of these things, I'll laugh and he'll go, I swear I'm not gay in a joking way
(6) I stopped things from going to sex once & apologized & he said its ok, I am very attracted to you but I can wait for you
..other than that, he is the sweetest guy ever. We've never faught, he cooks me dinner, helps with my Uni homework, very smart and he can't keep his hands off me. We stay in a lot and watch movies and he's always kissing me & touching me....very self conscious though

p.s. We talk all the time, on msn in the morning when he's at work, on the phone after work and we've been seeing each other a lot 5-6 times a week. It's mainly just us two watching movies together and cuddling. He sleeps over and enjoys cuddling with me and holding me while we sleep.
p.s.s. He's had two very serious relationships, and lots of other girlfriends. I'm a virgin, but I haven't told him yet, but I think he sense it....and once he had to stop dry humping because he said we'd drive ourselves crazy
p.s.s. He is 26 (NOT a virgin), I am 23 and a virgin.
p.s.s.s. He once worse a pink polo and I made fun of him and he said he liked wearing it to get a rise out of people.

Answer 1

He is a metro-sexual, not a gay. You have a winner here, if you don't mind his lack of macho.

Answer 2

I doubt hes gay, purely because of the fact he wears pink, and all that stuff, doesnt propose hes gay. no longer being gay myself, i do no longer understand for a certainty, yet i might suspect that a gay guy does no longer becom sexually aroused by making use of the intamacy with a girl physique. And it doesnt count who has accused him of it, if hes no longer gay, hes no longer gay, you 2 obviouslt have a brilliant courting, provide up searching for reason to disvalidate it. you ought to relish the certainty you have got here across a guy whos significant purpose isn't on your pants. Your boyfriend sounds like a deferential and worrying guy or woman, who needless to say cares extra for you than he does for paying for you in mattress, that's a good element. The gay bar element, he grew to become into probable gentle there because of the fact the boys have been gay = men no longer attempting to hit on you at the same time as hes no longer around. Yeah, i will admit, the entire crying during animal cruelty categorized classified ads, thats kinda panzy, yet no longer gay, some anybody is extra gentle to show matters than others. i desire this enables and that i desire you and your boyfriend the wonderful.

Answer 3

I wouldn't say he's gay, maybe just likes to go slow and maybe you finally found a one in a million guy who respects you and all...better to not push it with him if you want to keep him....also, if you have never given him a hand job, then maybe it's time...get hands wet and warm with water and lotion and have hot, slow fun...and that should relieve some tensions and you're still a virgin and can be proud that you are...sooo much and soo manythings to do and not have intercousre..think , think, think,...if you think you have to lose your virginity just to make yourself "feel" like a woman or be a woman to/with him , think again. I'd pay to meet and have some one like this(you) Oh pleez God, send me one like this!
I could say more but will leave it at that..you're soo lucky/fortunate and you should know that..him being gay or not gay...LOL

Answer 4

he sounds secure in himself, and sounds like his parents actually taught him to be a gentlemen. unfortunately a lot of guys think that being these macho jerks is what girls want, but being in touch with your feelings isn't only a female and gay thing, a lot of boys just choose never to be men.


oh and the whole world isn't like a TV show, a real man doesn't need sex after the second date. don't try to hurry anything along to save a relationship. if him staying with you depends on how quickly and often you jump into bed, he's not into you
he's into the sex.

so sounds like you lucked out.


p.s. enjoying going to a club doesn't make you gay. i know quite a few straight people who like gay clubs because usually the atmosphere is one of acceptance and understanding.... in general. a lot of these places are just looked at as hook up spots but a lot of them are nightly social gathering areas for people who just want to let their guard down and have fun.

Answer 5

he sounds like a nice guy.I'm pretty sure that he has figured out that you are a virgin.people who usually dry hump end up having sex.he is just taking things slow.he may be shy and likes to hang out with guys because he maybe more comfortable.he probably doesn't have many friends.he's not gay he's a keeper.good luck

Answer 6

He is sensitive but seems to be a good friend who likes to touch your body very often. It is ok as you both are single and i don't think so he is gay. Tell me, have you ever seen something like gay act in him?? He may be somewhat like a girlie. And if you like his cuddling, touching etc then it's ok, as see nothing harm in doing this. He is a nice guy not gay.............

Answer 7

I think he's a lil feminine and you might be the luckiest girl in the world, but the gay bar....! He's probably just doing that for you to make you happy! Continue on seeing him and see where this goes, I think you're in luck though!

Answer 8

i dont think hes gay maybe he jus dosent wont to push u cuz he likes u a lot and if he is very self conscious hes probly hoping u make the first move but you havent beacuse u havent slept with anyone before but he doesnt know that .

Answer 9

He sounds like me and I am definitely not gay, I'm just not a macho either. But I we'll see if you still feel so lucky in a few months. Most girls get bored with us softies. And no, I'm not bi/boring/nerd/whatever.

Answer 10

that dude is lucky...really lucky to have a understanding girlfriend like u.... but it seems like that dude could be gay... coz no straight guy will ever ever cry in commercials or wanna go to gay bar...it's very uncomfortable for a straight guy like me to even think about going to gay bar...let alone go back there again.. or that dude could be a player... playin u... but seriously that dude sounds gay...

Answer 11

I'm confused. How could you be dating for 2 weeks BEFORE he even asked you out? Doesn't he have to ask you out for a date?