I think that my boyfriend is getting cold feet after moving in w/me. He doesn't go out much but the last 4 times he has:
1) Xmas party at mates w/strippers: Continuously rejected my calls then answered and called me a b**lbuster.
2) He "forgot" his mobile (out with boys)
3) His phone "went flat". Excuse = I couldn't charge my mobile cos yours was on the powerpoint (-there's more than one powerpoint in a house)
4) Wedding - Calls n says 'I'm leaving wedding shortly at 11.30pm then comes home at 4.45am! Went 2 pub w/boys after wedding.
He has a bucks nite coming up & when I told him u better not come home at some ridiculous hour like 5am he told me just laughed :-( I honestly do not think that he cheats on me but I feel very disrespected, sort of like he will do what he wants to do when he wants regardless of how his actions makes me feel. I don't want to be treated like a doormat but whether I try to talk to him, get upset or yell it doesnt make a difference -what do I do?
2007-03-13 00:57:58 · 7 answers · asked by sagittarius_82 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Recognize your role in this situation. ARE you a b*allbuster? Do you have a life and friends of your own? Look at yourself honestly before you address this with him.
If you are prepared, and seriously want to get to the bottom of this, say:
I am not your mother. Do not confuse my asking for your respect with nagging.
Let's get this out on the table: do you, or do you not want me to live here with you? Is my being here freaking you out, or what? I need to know. If so, let's talk about it rather than your taking off and being out (avoidance!) all the time. Out with it!
And go from there. Stand your ground and get some answers. To be fair, there are two sides to every story. Again make sure you've taken a good look at yourself before confronting him with this. If you love each other, it's worth the time and effort to look for a compromise, not a fight!
good luck
2007-03-13 01:12:27 · answer #1 · answered by Maudie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some adult men quite have a tough time making the transition from b/f to 'stay-in b/f'. If it rather is his first time, you're certainly his 'guinea pig'. It takes a protracted time for many adult men to get the thought it is not merely them anymore yet you're portion of the mixture too now. it form of feels incredibly egocentric on his section, in spite of the indisputable fact that it is not an unusual concern. jointly as there are not any hassle-free solutions to this, the only ingredient i'm able to recommend is which you will bypass out and function your exciting too, and not stay plenty on what he's doing while he does bypass out. he's no longer getting chilly ft - he merely isn't useful what his place is and that's some thing that he has to choose if HE needs the dating to artwork out. it rather is an adjustment era for the two one in all you, and until you will locate some stability, it is not continually exciting. What i've got discovered is that cohabiting in a dating is what you're making it. it isn't the fairy tale we'd all opt for to have faith. in case you grow to be increasingly greater unhappy and experience that he's merely no longer into it or into determining a thank you to make it artwork - maybe you will could desire to re-examine issues ...
2016-10-02 01:14:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving in with someone is a big commitment and more than a bit scary. Just back off for a little while, see what happens, he might just need a little 'shake down' time. After a while he'll either come to you, and be more respectful, or........he won't. If he doesn't change his ways, then kick is a** out (or leave if it's his place), you don't have to put up with his behavior indefinitely.
2007-03-13 01:09:02 · answer #3 · answered by Jenni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go out...not to cheat but if hes going out let him see that you can have fun too.
My boyfriend was going to strip clubs with his friends and I hated and they called me names and stuff but I didnt care, he knew if he broke that trust hed loose me.
Guy friends can be the worst influences, guys dont wanna look like they have a mom around in front of them so say fine, but Im gonna go out too and we are going to cllubs and stuff...have fun and stuff dont cheat cause then it will get ugly but ohhh trust me it works;) Hell get jealous real fast!
good luck!
2007-03-13 01:16:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it has not sink in that you moved in.
If this is now, immagine when it does sink in?
I hope he hears you and shapes up!
2007-03-13 01:06:09 · answer #5 · answered by knowmorespeless 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave, before you get pregnant by this bum.
2007-03-13 01:03:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your pushing him try to back off for a week and he will push to you.
2007-03-13 01:01:17 · answer #7 · answered by Travis T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋