I've heard a lot of people on here say that working moms are neglectful of their kids and don't care about their kids. I'm just wondering how people can even say that? I'm not trying to make anyone mad, so please dont' think that, I just truly am wondering why! I mean, some moms (myself included) HAVE to work to help pay the bills (I have to work to help pay the bills and we don't have ANY xtras, just house {which is a small $58,000 house}, 1 car payment and basic utilities {gas, electric, water/sewer land phone - we do NOT have cell phones or cable or any of that extra crap). I really don't think that working moms are neglectful - they are just doing what they have to do. I swear, it seems like people on here think that we working moms go to work every day dressed in stillettos and suits and take our breaks in coctail lounges climbing that "corporate ladder" when most of us work at thankless $8 an hour jobs (like me) to make ends meet and get one 30 minute break a day! see below
2007-03-13 00:50:36 · 9 answers · asked by ~*Mrs. GM2*~ 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Working moms don't go to work and sit and giggle with co-workers all day, in fact, most people talk very little to others at work and would rather not talk to the jerks they work with at ALL lol :) . Besides, not much chance to talk at work anyways. I just don't understand what the big deal is all about - most working moms feel guilty enough leaving their kids at a daycare as it is without other moms who are giving them a hard time about it. We love our kids so much and they are God's greatest gift! We're all on the same team! Some moms just have to work to make ends meet, plain and simple. What are your guy's thoughts on this? Thanks for your input too :)! Have a good day! :)
(sorry, I asked this in the wrong category before ---woops!)
2007-03-13 00:51:38 · update #1
Speaking for myself, I found I didn't cope very well when I was a working mother. I'm just not the type to have a clean and tidy house, cooked meals, well behaved children etc etc. I need to be at home. That's the kind of mother I am.
My life is much more orderly now, my kids are better taken care of.
I would like to see a world where women stop sniping at each other. And put their kids first. I don't believe that kids should be in care all day long - which is why I've taken awful jobs with horrible hours, and then been too tired to take care of my kids properly.
It's not if the mothers are neglectful, it should be are the kids getting what they need. Attention and love. And not just when it suits the adults.
By the way, the other stereotype is that stay at home mothers sit on their bums all day long and do nothing but live of the state while their kids roam the streets. This should be a choice, based on your children's needs. I say - more part-time work, less taxes and cheaper housing!
2007-03-13 02:18:48 · answer #1 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm a working mom, I'm only find it neglectful when they take the kids when they aren't working. Some parents dont work and still put their kids in daycare so they have time for themselves. They should have thought about that before having kids.
I know a woman that has 6 kids, she really doesn't want them , except for the fact that she gets all her food and housing medical paid for, and doesn't have to work. They went to daycare while they were young so she could go to college, she told everyone she only went to get away from them, and to get the grant money..... The state paid for her daycare. She has a college degree, still on welfare, still doesn't work, She lives off the fathers child support. All kids are in school all week now . The oldest is 13, so the daughter watches the younger ones after school , and Mom comes home when she is ready.
She complains if one ( of the 5 total dads) Cant take one of the kids for the weekend because that's her FREE TIME. Now that's what I call neglectful. I have a 15 and 6 yr old I never have FREE time but I'm OK with that, They are only children once.
2007-03-13 08:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by tammer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age, most families need to incomes to make ends meet. I am against the mos that use daycare for their own personal use when they don't have a job. I worked full time till both my kids were 3 & 4, then quit because we could make it with just his income. After 2 years of this, I realized I needed something still. I missed working. So I am now working partime, every tuesday night and sunday morning. The kids hate it, but it pays for the extras they want. When the little one starts 1st grade, I plan on getting a better part time job, so I can work solely days and still be there to help with class stuff.
2007-03-13 08:12:16 · answer #3 · answered by punkin_eater26 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The neglectful mother is the one sitting at home living off welfare and child support. The responsible mother, the one who truly loves her child is the one who works as well. Those who do criticize are upset because you are making them look bad. I have respect for people like you who are willing to do what needs to be done. It teaches the children and shows them what you can do when you try. Don't listen to them. You know with how PC everyone here is I'm surprised not many are kissing up to you. At the same time those who are married, these wonderful mothers, how many put their child in daycare? They go to the mall and store to gab with their friends about how wonderful they are as parents. All the while little Johnny is looking at ms. daycare as mommy.
You are stronger than they are. You have accepted what needs to be done and you have chosen to do something about it. Congrats.
2007-03-13 09:29:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is differernt when a mom HAS to work and when she just works to get out of the house and away from the children! I had to get a job b/c my husband was out of work and taking a class so I started a temp job, its over in a couple weeks and my husband has a job now, and I cant wait to be able to stay home and play with my daughter all day, b/c I am pregnant and I want to spend as much time with her as I can.
2007-03-13 10:10:23 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have nothing against working moms or stay at home moms. I am a stay at home mother and wife.
If you have to work then you have to work. There are alot of working moms that are wonderful moms i agree with you and i knew that already for myself but i do know some mothers that really don't have to work but do just so they will be away from their kids and throw them in daycare for someone else to deal with.
I know of this one woman who works but on her days off now she still takes her 3 year old to day care, now that is wrong. I am against people like that but what can i do about it.
(Remember i didn't say ALL working moms are like this i said SOME are.)
Good for you for being able to work and still come in and take the time for your kids!
2007-03-13 08:04:46 · answer #6 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
when a mom has to work they should not be considered neglectful. My niece is only 21 and little man is 2 and she has worked since he was 7 weeks old and she is the best mom ever (no offense to other women) but unless she is at work then little man is right with her fed, clean, and well played with and taught.I thought at her age it wouldn't be so good but man she proved me wrong and i am glad.
2007-03-13 07:58:03 · answer #7 · answered by Sunshine 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Here, here sister. I have just gone back to work two days a week to help with house repayments. It makes me sad at tiems but when I get there I really enjoy spending time with other adults. I love my daughter but I think the time for both of us is good. And there is nothing like the way she clings on to me when I pick her up!!!
2007-03-13 07:57:57 · answer #8 · answered by hottee 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Those who think this may be wrong.
2007-03-13 07:57:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋