Hi there... I use to live in London and I used to work in a Barclays bank, Compliance department, everything was gorgeous but when my contract finished, I decided to go back home with my mum... I've made the biggest mistake in my life... They-> (my parents) push me down they want me to stay here in my country, but I get used to live by myself, to be responsible about myself… And it is quite difficult to explain what I’m feeling… I am adult but still I’m feeling like a child… And there is no chance to explain them; I tried to shout, scream, no way… I understand that there in UK no one is waiting for me… What should I do?
2007-03-13 00:24:52 · 14 answers · asked by Kate21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
iam close to the same sitation but iam married. my mom
was the same way. she did not want me to do anything for myself to success and help myself it was only about staying
at home and helping her pay bills and iam 32 years old.
it was even worst when i got married. she has and still
is doing everything she can to brake up my marriage so i
will stay home and do do do for her. but i finally moved out
with my husband and we just bought our own home
three weeks ago far from her. she still calls and try to get
interfere with my marriage any kind of confuss to get
me to come back home but i dont even answer the phone
anymore when she calls because iam not in her house anymore. so if you are an adult move out and keep your
distance to a certain point with your parents. they will
hold you back because of their own selfish reasons.
they have lived their life now its your turn.
2007-03-13 00:34:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not a good idea to try and go back its better to go forward, make plans and follow them through. You need to get a place of your own first and fast before you have a fall out with your folks. I do know what your feeling When my marriage ended I made the mistake of moving back home. It was awful I couldn't get away quick enough. My mother had her way and I had mine, we were at loggerhead's all the time. As soon as I got my own place things settled again and we were pals once more.
2007-03-13 00:37:14 · answer #2 · answered by Roxy. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont need to have someone waiting for you to enable you to return.If you were happy here before and enjoyed living and working in london then that is a good enough reason to return.You only get 1 life and you should be spending it how you want to-not how your parents believe you should.Moving away from them will prove you can manage without them and aslo diffuse the tension in your relationship with them.
2007-03-16 22:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by bungle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have lived away from home, doing your own thing, living your life, and it is hard to go home. Your parents, care about you and would prefer to keep you home, safe etc. I would make a plan to move out on your own, make it happen. You need to pull yourself up and out of their home and make your own. Don't blame them for your decision to move back in with them, you are always going to be their child, nothing can change that. Show them that you want their respect as an adult and they will start treating you like one.
2007-03-13 00:31:46 · answer #4 · answered by stormzsecret 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they obviously missed you when you were away so you cant blame them for wanting to keep you close, so could you not get a job and a place of your own in the area where you are living now, as you have seemed to have grown into a mature young adult, that way you'll have your Independence and your parents will have you close by, thus making every one happy
2007-03-13 00:38:05 · answer #5 · answered by angie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"You can't go home again".
Seriously, very few people who have established
lives and know that they can survive by themselves
can go back to a relationship where parents expect
them to obey like children.
You need to work hard to get yourself your own
apartment or housing. Parents are a wonderful
thing ... but ...
2007-03-13 00:28:42 · answer #6 · answered by Elana 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move out of the house.
2007-03-13 00:28:14 · answer #7 · answered by yodadoe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
time for you katey darlin to go build n feather your own nest, your not a child anymore, so go get your own place your parents will come round to your choice sooner than later, GOOD LUCK
2007-03-15 02:52:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over here and make your own life otherwise you will never get away.
2007-03-13 00:27:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move or stop moaning. Get on with your life.
2007-03-13 00:45:01 · answer #10 · answered by Captain Sarcasm 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋