Hi there... I use to live in London and I used to work in a Barclays bank, Compliance department, everything was gorgeous but when my contract finished, I decided to go back home with my mum... I've made the biggest mistake in my life... They-> (my parents) push me down they want me to stay here in my country, but I get used to live by myself, to be responsible about myself… And it is quite difficult to explain what I’m feeling… I am adult but still I’m feeling like a child… And there is no chance to explain them; I tried to shout, scream, no way… I understand that there in UK no one is waiting for me… What should I do?
2007-03-13 00:23:29 · 8 answers · asked by Kate21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Firstly, leaving home isn't something you should feel guilty about. It's a natural part of growing up.
It sounds like you would regret it if you followed their wishes - so don't.
Shouting and screaming will just confirm their image of you as their child. This is difficult to avoid, as we naturally fall into old roles when in stressful situations with people we love. Break the habit - you need them to see you as an adult, and change the dynamic of the relationship. Obviously, they find this particular change threatening - it means their role as your guardians is no longer required, so what do they do then?
Be calmer, more rational. How far away from home would you be living? Try to explain what can be done to ensure you spend time together - separation is obviously tough for them.
Leaving home does not mean you have betrayed your parents.
Good Luck!
2007-03-13 00:30:08 · answer #1 · answered by EvilEdd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live your life the way you want to live it.
Your freedom is the only thing you will ever truly own.
Your parents naturally want to tell you what to do, it's what they do best, and what they've spent the last few decades doing.
Be polite, but firm.
After the age of 18, your parents have no legal rights over your behaviour, and should have no moral rights, either.
Stand up, take a deep breath, plan your life, and do it !
2007-03-13 00:28:25 · answer #2 · answered by savs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were happy in the UK, what is stopping you from going back? Because you dont know anyone/ no one is waiting for you?
Only you can make this decision, but follow your heart.When things are new to us we are always hesitant, and scared. But e get through it.
Parents can be soooo difficult even though they love us, but we only live once in this world, do what makes you happy, and be strong!!
2007-03-13 00:29:49 · answer #3 · answered by chloe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are your parents so they worry about you.
But you have proved to yourself that you can take care of yourself.
I don't understand why you have to shout and scream to make yourself heard. If you can't sit down and talk to them properly or they don't listen when you do sit down and talk to them in a civilised manner then you just do what you want.
In what way are they pushing you down? If you can choose to go back home, you can choose to leave too.
If you are depending on them financially then they have a right to assert their opinion on what you are going to do with their support. Then maybe you aren't entirely taking care of yourelf which would mean that you would have to convince them that you don't need them to support you financially anymore.
Good Luck. Don't shout and scream it doesn't help anyone.
2007-03-13 00:34:45 · answer #4 · answered by ghds 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to follow your heart!! If you want to leave, then do it. They will come round. You can't be their child forever, and you will end up resenting them if you don't.
Call a 'meeting' with them. Tell them that you are going to speak and can they let you get your point across before speaking. Then tell them how you feel and that you need to move on to find your independence. You love them but you have to live your own life...
Good luck!
2007-03-13 00:27:59 · answer #5 · answered by PrettyKitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go be happy, move where ever YOU want to. You cant live your life for your parents you will end up really unhappy. If they love you eventually they will except what ever you do.
2007-03-13 00:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by mixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart,They love you,they will understand eventually.
2007-03-13 00:28:57 · answer #7 · answered by American_Dago 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because they miss you but you have to do what's right for you, they cannot expect you to sacrifice your happiness for them
2007-03-15 15:17:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋