this is very early days but we get on amazingly and fancy each other like mad,i look much younger than my years you wouldnt tell by looking at us that there was a 10yr gap.I am quite happy about it,yet people are bringing it down just to sex which belittles the connection we made. Is it wrong and can this go nowhere?Advice and/or opinions please!!
2007-03-13 00:13:20 · 62 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
good for you lady and great for him to have such an experienced woman to love
2007-03-13 00:15:59 · answer #1 · answered by joey h 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My friend who is 42 is married to a 32 year old and there the nicest couple they get on really well and have even started a family.Your only as young as the man you feel.If you were the other gender you would be boasting about this not question your situation.People always try to put the dampeners on stuff if there a bit jealous plus there not always around to see what your like together they just assume you don't do anything else apart from have sex but obviously you do have things in common.Your bloke is very lucky to bag himself an older woman as its most men's fantasies.Good luck with the relationship and stop wondering what people say or think as this will be likely to split you up not the age difference.
2007-03-16 23:20:42 · answer #2 · answered by Cat Woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! I don't think it's wrong at all. My boyfriend is 36 and I'm 22, so we are the role-reversal of you two! We've been together for 3 years, so it's living proof that age doesn't have to be a problem!
The only thing you need to be wary of is whether he is ok with your children and that they are ok with him. Most 20-year-old men don't want a ready made family - but he might be more mature than most.
As long as you both know where you stand and you're at the same level with what you want from the relationship, go for it!
As for the people who are just putting it down to sex - let them! If it was just down to sex, that's your business! It sounds like you have a much deeper bond though, which is great. (Incidentally, you will probably be having smokin' sex seeing as you are both at your sexual peaks, so you just keep smiling and let them believe what they want!)
Get yours, girl!!
;-)
xx Emmie
2007-03-13 00:21:04 · answer #3 · answered by Sparklepop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live your life the way you want to. Other people's opinions shouldn't make a difference. When we start a relationship it is impossible to see where it will go, so just go with the flow. Only thing is to make sure that your children come first. If people tell you it is only a physical attraction that binds you and your partner, then agree with them give them loads of weird details of how good the different positions are and exaggerate. This will bother them and should teach them to mind their own business.
2007-03-13 00:44:03 · answer #4 · answered by Invisible 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong!! The two of you are mad about each other, what can be wrong with that?
You seem to be reacting to other people's opinions, just ignore them, they will see in the fullness of time that this is for real!
As long as YOU are happy and your little ones like him - then fine - go for your life, the judgemental ones are just jealous that you pulled such a great bloke!!
2007-03-13 00:20:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell girl you go for it good on you. im a 26 year old mum of 2 and for some reason i always manage to pull the younger lads. i pulled a 19 year old on saturday. im told i look 20/21 so if you can get away with it then go for it. age is nothing but a number girl. you only got 1 life so make the most of it. ignore what other ppl say and enjoy enjoy n enjoy. good luck x
2007-03-13 00:28:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My cousin is 46 and she's married to a guy of 28, they've been together for 10yrs and are deeply in love, she has two son's by her first marriage and he's brought them up as his own. As you say its early days,but if your both happy just go for it, and stop worrying what the rest of the world think.
2007-03-13 01:17:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not a bad age gap, as my dad was ten years older than my mum and i dont beleive that that cant go the other way too. So the age gap is cool, but you need to ask yourself whether he is old enough in his mind to stimulate you and your needs. You have two children too, which i assume you adore and love very much, and you do not want to hurt them so you need to be careful because "younger" men are more likely to be immautre and the relationship to fail.
I am not saying this is how your relationship is, but i am just simply saying what usualy happens in these kind of relationships, but everyone is different. I hope you are happy together, and if you are, dont even bother listening to anyone around you. Just carry on as you are and build a strong relationship that could beneift you all, you, him and your children.
xx
2007-03-13 00:19:19 · answer #8 · answered by london lady 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wrong? Heck NO!! Lucky? YES!!
Anyone who writes to you and tells you that you are doing something wrong is just jealous.
There is nothing wrong with a woman being with a younger man as long as they are both of legal age. For some reason younger men seem to be attracted to older women and for obvious reason we are attracted to them.
The younger men that I have dated tell me that I know how to treat them and that they appreciate the fact that I am well educated and bother to stay up to date on current events. They tell me that it is refreshing to be with a woman that is not only great in bed but also a great conversationalist. They say that young girls are only interested in what a man can do for them and that girls think that all they have to do is "sit here and look cute". (These are things that men have told me, not my opinions).
I see a trend where younger men are actively looking for older, attractive women to have relationships with.
I say, "Good for you!"
Lady Trinity~
2007-03-13 00:22:43 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Trinity 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old your children are. My mother has slept with a few of my friends - this was obvoiusly very difficult to cope with! Think about your children and how this may affect them, they should be the most important people in your life and you have to do what is right by them. Men tend to come and go, I would sit down and talk it thorugh with your kids. They may see age as just a number and therefore it may not be a problem!!
I hope this helps - good luck!! :)
2007-03-13 00:21:10 · answer #10 · answered by Mellow-d 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I started seeing my finacee 7 years ago. she was 18. we knew eachother through mutual friends. I was 32 and going through a divorce. My fiancee and I hit it off great. the only one that has a problem with it is her parents. They refuse to acknowledge me, I'm not welcome in their home, etc.
She and I have a ton in common believe it or not. She was/is alot more mature than her age so there really weren't any issues. The only issue has been her parents. We are getting married in September and her parents have yet to acknowledge it.
To all of those that are naysayers in your relationship, I say screw em, you don't need them. If they are your true friends or family they will love and accept you guys no matter what. If they don't, you don't need them and it's their loss.
Enjoy life. There are a lot more worse things that can happen.
Have fun! Good luck!
2007-03-13 00:20:20 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋