My twenty nine month old has begun waking at night, screaming and crying saying she is scared. Everything I have read suggests to go in comfort them and then leave (assuming their kids are still in a crib ) but she is in her own bed and will come out of her room and shut the door behind her. If I pick her up comfort her and put her back to bed she will just get up screaming and crying and we repeat this over and over again. It has been waking everyone up and I am sooo exhausted. What can I do?
2007-03-12 23:24:22 · 8 answers · asked by Trisha 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
ask her what is so scary that she can't sleep in her own bed. my daughter has to have the closet door shut every night cause of the shadows on the walls and in the closet. there's a lot that she may have seen on tv that may not be scary for some kids, but is scary for her. i usually go in to comfort my kids for a while (until they are about to fall back asleep) and then let them know that mommy is going back to sleep now and to call me if they need me. sometimes it helps to talk to them about something else before leaving the room like telling them a story to get their little minds off the scary thought they have.
good luck.
2007-03-12 23:34:01 · answer #1 · answered by impossiblemama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie I know how hard it is. My son was afraid of the dark when he was around twenty six months. It is so exhausting to get him out of my bed, but your best bet is to remain consistent. I used a night light so he would feel comfortable and a soft blanket and stuffed animal, that had my sent. Every time he would scream,cry and run to my bed, I would put him back in bed. It hurt me doing so, but I knew that he was just trying to manipulate the situation to get what he wanted. After a while, and let me tell you there were nights he would get up eight times, he realized that mommy is sticking firm to it.
Children at this age tend to get fearful and it is hard to explain that they are safe and they have nothing to worry about. Providing them with a soft stuffed animal and/ or blanket with your sent may help them feel comforted. Also, many times our little toddlers notice that their actions lead to what they want. They know that they can manipulate the situation if they scream or cry a little longer. Trying to explain or reason to them will just be a waste of time. Walk away and close the door. Stay consistent and she will know that mommy meant business. Good luck!
2007-03-13 00:32:48 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his bedtime at night is 7, then he's waking up after 8-9-10 hours of sleep.He continues to be conscious yet another 7 hours and sleeps 3. Then he continues to be conscious 4 hours and returned to mattress. try commencing his nap at 11:30, and then 11 a.m. Shorten it as much as two hours so he's conscious at a million particularly of three and he gets 6 hours of conscious time in the past bedtime at 7.
2016-11-25 00:12:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm sure this will get the thumbs down, but my 3-year old started going through this about 8 months ago. We ended up reinforcing the behavior by giving him attention etc. So, after 8 months of no sleep on his end and ours, we finally used extinction. He gets 2 passes to get out of his room, and after those are up, the door gets shut and locked. He cried for about a half-hour the 1st night, and now he sleeps great. He needed to work through this on his own.
Don't do what I did. You and your daughter need sleep. Call your ped. and use the extinction method.
2007-03-13 07:12:42 · answer #4 · answered by avalonlee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcome to my life, my kids aged 3, 8, 10 r all scared and have always given me a hard time with sleep, so the only thing that sort of works for me, is leaving the telly on, letting them share the same room, or threatening them to take away their toys, and making their rooms real enjoyable with doona covers in superman or starwars, whatever they like, i leave a drink for my 3yr old, and i still have my nights where im up and down all night, and i have a 3mth old also, so im so sleep deprived, u r not alone, good luck, try everything
2007-03-12 23:36:19 · answer #5 · answered by ROCKMUM LOVES BOWIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep putting her back
don't pick her up
take her hand and put her back in her room
turn on a night light and some quiet lullaby music
she gets up do it again
she'll get the idea so long as your consistent
2007-03-13 04:19:55 · answer #6 · answered by Greeneyed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try putting her to bed at adifferent time ,what do she eat and what time, could be bad dreams,but not everynight ,also get suggestions from her doctor
2007-03-13 01:10:24 · answer #7 · answered by elizabeth_davis28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her what she wants!
2007-03-12 23:27:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋