how do i keep going?

Question

my boyfriend of 13 months who i thought i'd be with forever says that he doesn't see his future with me and he doesn't have anything left to give to our relationship. I can't sleep, can't eat, am feeling sick and want to kill myself. I dunno what to do..

Answer 1

Wow. That's rough. It sounds like he either wasn't ready for a relationship to begin with or he is infatuated with someone else and is stupidly giving up on the two of you "to find out if he can have better".

Whatever it is, you must realize that he is the one making this decision, not you. This doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you and you should never want to "kill yourself" because he isn't interested in a relationship anymore. His reasons for wanting out of the relationship may have nothing to do with you and everything to do with him. Your sleeping, eating, and feeling sick, are natural stress reactions to the mixed emotions you are feeling now.

Have you actually talked to him and asked him why he doesn't feel like there is a future for the two of you, or why he feels he has nothing left to give to the relationship? If not, you really need to do so, and it would only be fair for him to answer you honestly. You deserve an explanation and he needs to know this - you've been together for 13 months, not 13 days! Maybe he is afraid of commitment for the long term and it is better that you know this now than later.

If he just doesn't want to be in the relationship with you after you've talked, seek comfort in your girlfriends or family and stay active. If you stay around the house and mope, it will only make you feel worse. It's ok to grieve the loss of the relationship, but don't dwell on it for long at any given time. If you get out of the house and stay active, especially doing fun things with your friends, it will be easier to get past this in the long run and move on with your life.

And whatever you do, don't expect all guys to be like this just because one guy did this to you. Everyone is different and deserves a fair chance. Good luck and I wish you peace in your heart.

Answer 2

If you rely on others for your happiness you will never be happy.
Love yourself. Live life, be yourself, don't be anybody's puppet.
What you see in this guy is not love you only think it love it's obsession and control. If it was love you would have no hesitation in letting him go, because real love is like that. Love will greet you one day.