my friend is well into this guy she works with. Major flirting going on for ages, he texts her regularly, brings her back a jumper from the states when he goes there etc. He calls her up one night and asks her to come out to the house. Gets there, they kiss (no sex she claims), very respectful. Then nothing for days. Acts like nothing happens in work. Then they kiss each other again. On off kinda thing. He not married, not in relationship. Blows very hot and cold, all intense, then like a stranger. She feels rejected, confused. Whats the probable reason for this behaviour?
2007-03-12 22:55:17 · 15 answers · asked by susieboo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Or not seeking anything more of it.
2007-03-12 22:59:51 · answer #1 · answered by cashew 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He must be scared of getting rejected if ever he asks from your friend. I am almost 100% sure about it. There was a friend of mine who was just like that. But after some time she asked, and now by the end of this year they are going to get married. Thats the nature of some guys. So ask your friend to make the first move. There is no hard & fast rule saying that its always guys who have to make the first move. If she is interested in him just go on and make the move.
If he has kissed her in an emotional way, I dont think he is gay. Gay people even dont flirt with women.
2007-03-13 06:05:15 · answer #2 · answered by banju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that he is a gay but seems that he is not sure about this relationship. Though some times he seems interested and another time he doesn't have the desired feelings for her. There must be some thing that he is bothered about your friend. May be he is not comfortable with a thought about her. He may think she is not the right woman for him. So he keeps back and forth. I my self have acted like this at the time I was not interested seriouly but I will make clear to the girl about my thinkings as soon as I know I am not serious on that one.
Therefore, she just have to wait and see if any thing is changed. If not she have to ask him what he is up to before she hurts her self. But it seems unlikely that he will fall on her.
2007-03-13 06:14:37 · answer #3 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to know him more, kind of his background, past experiences and of course family relationship especially during his grown up days. Well, why not ask him straight away rather than just guessing and let yourself in limbo. Or if you are prepared, why not make the first move, anyway you love each other. But just an advice, maybe, he has so much respect for you that he wants you to be a virgin bride when you change "I dos' in you wedding day.
2007-03-13 06:08:02 · answer #4 · answered by Erahvilla C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he is gay probaly just scared at the way his emotions are running about, some men freeze up when they really like some1 and don't have a clue what to do so instead they just blank this person out and see them when they feel like it when really they want nothing more than to be with this person, tell her to talk to him and tell him how she feels otherwise he will never know how she feels
2007-03-13 06:00:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't automatically conclude he's gay. Maybe he's been hurt in the past & is just scared to commit. Maybe he's just playing the field and doesn't want to be tied down. Bottom line is your friend needs to talk to this guy and ask him about his intentions. If she talks to him about it and doesn't trust what he tells her or doesn't like the answer she should end the fling.
2007-03-13 06:10:17 · answer #6 · answered by ♫Silvi♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she needs to come right out and ask him 'what the hell is going on'
If he can't give her a strait answer, then she should stay away from him for a while, see how he likes it.
2007-03-13 06:03:37 · answer #7 · answered by Jenni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might just be playing games and stringing her along because he knows he can. It doesn't sound like he's gay. Your friend should ask him what's up or stop being as available and see what he does.
2007-03-13 10:15:54 · answer #8 · answered by Vivita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Milly, He maybe afraid of getting hurt and this is his way of protecting hisself. A Friend.
Clowmy
2007-03-13 06:02:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he's gay, or he dosn't care as much as your friend would like. I think it's time to move on, life is too damn short!
2007-03-13 06:01:38 · answer #10 · answered by LuckyJack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just confused I guess
2007-03-13 06:01:17 · answer #11 · answered by cpfirmin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋